We met the typical way most couples are meeting in todays age- through mutual friends! After  meeting in 2011, we had a rocky start; our dates were horrible, neither of us had an interest in continuing the chapter of "seeing where this was going." We had one last date before calling it quits and that was what we needed, after that night OUR RELATIONSHIP became a RELATIONSHIP. 

We dated for a few months before i had to leave for College in The US, we did the cliche long distance relationship, video calls & multiple phone calls. In 2012, my boyfriend decided to visit me at college, he came for a week right after thanksgiving break ( you're probably wondering why he didn't come before the break was over but i was visiting family in another state) once he got here, it was like we were never apart, we immediately picked up where we left off and it was all love and cuddles- at leastthat's what i thought!

During this trip i found out that he was back with this Ex, or still with her- i wasn't sure what exactly had happened between them. I found this out because he left his email open on my tablet, as with any long distance relationship there was some amount of worry- so i did the inevitable and looked through his emails, specifically one that had her name on it. After opening this email thread between them i will never forget the first thing i saw, " how is your visit going with your cousins, are they excited you're there?" I would say i was shocked but i think i was more confused as i wasn't really sure how to feel with this being my first long distance relationship. 

To say the least, i never mentioned it to him up until this day. I pushed it aside with the hopes that someone who is willing to fly to another country and spend a week with me, meant that he loved me? that i meant something to him? Or maybe he's just friends with her? After that day, i never looked back or thought about it!

One year later everything fell apart & the truth came out. For some reason i decided to join Twitter. Up on doing this, i went searching for all my friends and started following them. Eventually i made my way to finding my boyfriend BUT before following him, i noticed his account wasn't private and i started scrolling. That's when it all unravelled, his twitter was filled with nothing but Photos and comments as well as messages between him and his supposed ex. I guess Twitter was "their" social media outing together, while he and i "had" Facebook as our outing. 

I saw photos of gifts, flowers, birthdays spent together, hotel vacations and many more. To say the least this time i knew what i felt and it was anger, sadness, hate, and the biggest one of all heart break. Many people said "you were naive, you were stupid or you should have seen it coming" But i was one of those girls who made my excuse be " I was in love." I confronted him about it during one of our video chats- a long angry video chat. He was shocked to know that i found all this out, he apologized a thousand times and said they were over, it was a lapse in judgement on his part. 

MY BIGGEST QUESTION TO HIM WAS: WHO WAS YOUR GIRLFRIEND DURING ALL THIS? WAS IT ME OR WAS I THE MISTRESS/SIDE CHICK? His answer was that i wasn't his side chick or mistress and he wouldn't have spent money to go to another country to see someone he wasn't devoted to or loved. I didn't care about all that, the only thing i took from what he said was  not once during that conversation was he able to answer who was his girlfriend during this whole thing! That immediately said everything i needed. I walked away from knowing him, from being friends, from thinking he was my boyfriend and i never looked back.

OR so i thought.......

(Part 2 coming soon!)