I Am Not Stubborn, I Am Strong

I Am Not Stubborn, I Am Strong

Okay, maybe I can be a little bit stubborn sometimes.


I think people are often under the impression that being stubborn is related to being negative in some way. I understand that it all can depend on the situation, however, sometimes I see myself being accused of being stubborn when really I am just standing up for what I believe is deserved.

I am nothing special, and that's okay. I have not done anything to change the world, I will leave one day and the earth will keep spinning like it always has and always will. What some may consider an accomplishment will sadly just be a mediocre expectation I had bestowed upon myself. What I hope to leave is the knowledge that I relentlessly sought out happiness for myself even though the terms of that were sometimes costly.

I am strong because I have to be, because if I'm not strong for myself, how can I expect anyone else to be? I am strong because I was kicked down for too long, not to rise up to a tough occasion. I am strong because even though it kills me a little more every day, I am doing what I believe is best for me.

I am not stubborn for using the silent treatment. I am strong for knowing that nothing I have to say right now will make things better and any words that come out of my mouth will still be backed by hurt feelings, angry jabs, and the truth that no one ever wants to hear.

I am strong because I believe that my happiness, well being, and peace of mind are worth fighting for. I am strong because this world taught me to be strong. I am strong because if I wasn't, I would have the same sense of entitlement that I have worked so hard to get away from.

I am not stubborn for continuing to live my life to the fullest in the midst of the chaos. Smiling and trying to be happy among all the bullshit does not make me stubborn. I am not stubborn for refusing to fall into a trap of guilt that will lead back to the same pain that you made so easy to walk away from.

I am strong because one day it will not only be my heart that I have to guard and I will be damned if I ever subject my family to the same grievances that I was exposed to for so long.

If not apologizing for the sake of moving on, whether or not it is my place to say sorry or not, makes me stubborn, then so be it. But it is my strength that gets me up every morning knowing that it's just another day that I am not going to be a part of that life. It is my strength that tells me it's okay, and I did all I could do. It is my strength that has gotten me this far, not my stubbornness.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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To The Big-Hearted Girls Who Just Can't Hit The Block Button

Your compassion for others knows no bounds, and that's why you can't seem to let them go.


Not everyone is worthy of your good heart.

It might be hard to accept that, but it's true. The ones that don't deserve your attention and your care always out themselves. Maybe they take advantage of your kindness, maybe they use you for your love, or maybe they hurt you because they envy some aspect of you or your life. Whatever the case may be, I know you feel the pain from it. I know you are not naive enough to believe that they don't mean the hurtful things they say or that the awful things they put you through are only mere accidents.

Your problem is that you have too big of a heart. You love giving second chances and when they screw that chance up as well, you just can't help yourself from giving them a third, a fourth, or a fifth. Far too easily you are swept up in this cycle of forgiving and forgetting, only to have it blow up in your face time and time again.

You know better.

How many times have you sworn you wouldn't help them again, that it was the last time you'd speak to them, only to snatch up your phone the second you see their name pop up across the screen? How often have you cried over someone who only wanted to be a part of your life when they needed something from you?

Stop giving your all to people that don't care.

Trust me, I know it's easier said than done. It's a difficult habit to break, but once you do you are completely and utterly free from the toxicity. If you're looking for a sign to block that boy who has done nothing but break your heart, or if you were waiting for your cue to finally end that friendship that does nothing but make you feel small, here it is.

Unfortunately, not everyone is going to treat you with the love and respect that you so freely give. Most of the time the people that treat you like crap are just crappy people. It's not your responsibility to save every troubled soul, and you've probably learned by now that not all of them want to be saved.

There's nothing wrong with looking for the good in people, but when they start to drain you of your light you need to have the strength to let them go.

To the girls gifted with hearts too sensitive and ready to burst with compassion, it's OK to cut ties with those who hurt you time and time again. It doesn't mean you've stooped to their level; it doesn't mean you're a bad person. You tried your hardest, but toxic people rarely change their ways. You don't deserve that kind of pain.

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