I Am Not On Top Of It All, And That's OK

I Am Not On Top Of It All, And That's OK

We don't have to be on top of it all, our lives don't have to be balanced, and it is perfectly wonderful to feel overwhelmed.

Are you on top of it all? I am not. If so, how do you do it?

As a young adult, I know we all feel constant pressure to be on top of it all and have our lives balanced. But who has time to do that? My life consists of several jobs, classes, writing opportunities, my own blog, being a young adult, trying to have a social life, spending time with my family and...can I add in anything else? What about you? How many errands, tasks and things can you juggle at once until it all hits the fan? I love being busy and I know as young adults, we all love to be involved.

Doing hundreds of things and not being sane is the only way to do this life. We are living our lives to the fullest by indulging in opportunity and adventure by staying busy and riding the hustle. There is beauty in that. We don't have to be on top of it all. It's OK not to be.

As school is starting up this fall, I am going to start going back to my natural roots, and by that, I mean being a hot mess. I kind of love it. I have found success in staying very busy, trying to stay calm and finding moments for myself. Why are these important? As a very organized person, I seem to constantly look at others and question if I am doing things right, on the correct path and doing as much as I can. It's time to take these tips and launch forward to have a balanced life that is very messy and fun.

1. Stay busy

As a young adult, staying busy, especially in college, is key. While trying to maneuver through life and figure out our passions, staying busy and having goals is necessary. Yes, this is when you will get tired, overwhelmed, stressed, cranky and a list of 100 other things, but this is what we need! This mess of stress is what will push us to success. Our end goal is at the end of this hot mess. Staying involved will keep your head in the right place, focused and always looking forward. While you might not know exactly what to do, continuing to push our bodies and minds will create a path we couldn't imagine.

2. Stay calm and collective and find moments for you

My middle name could be stress, and I love it. I love working hard and playing hard. But, there is something to be said for staying calm and collective. Being calm, rolling with the punches and being true to who you are can quickly balance a hectic week.

What can we do to stay calm?

Meditate: Find a peaceful, quiet place that calls your name, sit down and relax

Yoga: Try out a summer Yoga class to unwind and break out of your crazy day

Walking: I have found peace in going for walks, putting in calm music and taking some personal time for my thoughts and body to stretch and relax

Blogging fan? Head to the library, local coffee shop or your favorite cafe and unwind around the comfort of quiet people

It is more than important to learn how to be too busy. It is all about how you handle the pressure and stress. I am not on top of it all...ever. I have a huge problem called oversleeping, a tendency to do things last minute and get involved with way too many things. But, that is the beauty of being a young adult. We are crazy, determined, hard workers with goals shooting to the moon.

I am not on top of it all...are you?

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Dave Ramsey, Thank You For Sharing Your Money Tips And Knowledge With The Rest Of Us

From just starting your program and being only on baby step one I have realized many things.


Ever since starting college I have always had that thought in the back of my head about how am I going to pay off my student debt after getting out of college. This is probably a thought that every student has when they attend college and they know that after they receive their education that they are out in the real world where they have payments to make every month and probably be in debt for most of their life. But after watching your podcast and following your Instagram and seeing all these people paying off hundreds of thousands of dollars in a couple of months is very inspirational.

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From just starting your program and being only on baby step one I have realized many things. One, I spend money on a lot of things that I don't need but never realized until I started tracking my spending to make a budget. Two, saving a thousand dollar before actually tackling your debt is a great task as it shows that if you can save a thousand you can find a way to pay off your debt then. Though it does seem like a long process that doesn't seem possible till you finally hit the triple-digit mark. Three, you don't actually need a credit card in life because you will actually have money you can spend instead. Though I am still wondering how exactly this would work later on with wanting to buy homes and cars.

But overall thank you for sharing your story and knowledge about money and your experiences so others can learn and do better with theirs. So let's all be weird and not broke as you like to say.

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