Just Because You Aren't Happy All The Time Doesn't Mean You Are A Bad Person

Just Because You Aren't Happy All The Time Doesn't Mean You Are A Bad Person

You are human and you are trying to be the best kind of human you can be.


Think of all the things that make you happy. Whether that be warm weather, family, your favorite food, favorite memory, or most people's favorite is puppies (of course!). But sometimes, some days those happy things don't always make you happy. Happiness can sometimes be hard to come by some days.

Personally, I am a people pleaser. If you don't know what a people pleaser entails, it's someone that really really REALLY wants to make someone happy. No matter what it is, they always make the effort to make the other happy, even if it is in front of their own happiness.

For me, I will do whatever I can to make someone else happy. I have given up plans for someone, I have made decisions based on someone's own thoughts, I have become so used to making others happy before myself that I now heavily rely on it. I cannot go a moment of deciding what I truly want without knowing what others think of me, especially the important people in my life. What I have now come across is when those people's decisions oppose to what I really want, it is hard to face. Do I make the people around me happy or do I go through with what I really want?

Some people also struggle with making themselves happy. They may go days, weeks, even months of being happy with whatever is bothering them.

Sometimes, people expect you to be happy all the time. Or that's what you think. Being the smiling happy person is what you are known for in your group of friends. That person is me. I am the person that always smiles when someone had a bad day. But no one asks if I ever had a bad day. No matter what the day holds, I will always have a smile on your face. When I have a bad day with no one to talk to, it affects me over time. Most of the time, I push it down and move on. What if that bad day turns into more bad days than good days? Everyone wonders why you can't always be happy.

I have not met one person that has continued to stay happy for days and weeks on end constantly. I don't know if it is humanly possible. Emotions are normal. You experience sadness, anger, jealousy, fear, and insecurities just as much as you experience happiness. So why is it that people expect me to be happy all the time? Or at least I think they expect me to be happy.

I believe that I am putting this burden on myself that I always have to be happy for everyone.

So that way people can like me, they feel better after a long, hard day, and I have a clear conscious. Being happy is great, but when you have to feel it all the time is exhausting and makes you hurt in the long run.

No matter what you are feeling, don't be ashamed. You are not a bad person for not being the best person you can be. You are human and you are trying to be the best kind of human you can be. When you get down, think of your happy things and make yourself happy once in awhile.

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50 Things To Be Happy About

It's the little things in life.

It is always easier to pick out the negatives in life. We tend to dwell on them and drown out the happy moments. I asked a friend to tell me something that made them happy. They sarcastically laughed at my question then thought about it for a minute. Nothing. But they could easily come up with things that made them unhappy. Then I read them my list, and they were smiling and laughing in agreement the whole time. There are so many more things to be happy and laugh about than we realize. After all- it's the little things in life that can mean the most! Here are 50 things that make me happy. What are your 50?

  1. The first warm day of the year
  2. Laughing so hard your abs ache
  3. Freshly washed sheets
  4. Looking through old pictures
  5. The smell of a coffee shop
  6. Eating cookie dough
  7. Reading a bible verse that perfectly fits your current situation
  8. Seeing someone open a gift you got them
  9. Eating birthday cake
  10. A shower after a long day
  11. Marking something off your to-do list
  12. Drinking ice cold water on a really hot day
  13. Dressing up for no reason
  14. Breakfast food
  15. Being able to lay in bed in the morning
  16. Finding something you love at the store
  17. And it’s on sale
  18. Cute elderly couples
  19. When a stranger compliments you
  20. Getting butterflies in your stomach
  21. Taking a nap
  22. Cooking something delicious
  23. Being lost for words
  24. Receiving a birthday card in the mail
  25. And there's money in it
  26. Finally cleaning your room
  27. Realizing how fortunate you are
  28. Waking up from a nightmare and realizing it wasn't real
  29. Fresh fruit
  30. Walking barefoot in the grass
  31. Singing along to a song in the car
  32. Sunrises
  33. Sunsets
  34. Freshly baked cookies with a glass of milk
  35. Summertime cookouts
  36. Feeling pretty
  37. Looking forward to something
  38. Lemonade
  39. Comfortable silences
  40. Waking up in the middle of the night and realizing you have more time to sleep
  41. Surviving another school year
  42. The cold side of the pillow
  43. The smell of popcorn
  44. Remembering something funny that happened
  45. Laughing to yourself about it
  46. Feeling weird about laughing to yourself
  47. Printed photographs
  48. Wearing a new outfit
  49. The sound of an ice cream truck
  50. Feeling confident
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Poetry On Odyssey: Some Days

A poem that reminds you that you're not alone.


Some days,

You dread the sound of your alarm. You snooze and snooze and snooze and snooze.

When you finally pull yourself out of bed, pressed time forces you to throw on stained sweats

you find yourself chugging a cup of coffee.

You sit on the couch and contemplate calling out of work

You caught the stomach bug,

Or perhaps the flu,

Maybe you broke your collar bone

Or need a new phone

The endless list of excuses repeats through your head as you sit on the couch, wishing you were still in bed.

It takes every ounce

Every breath

Every fiber of your being to pull yourself off the couch

And into the car

And into the building where you work

Some days,

This is just how it goes

You are not alone.

Some days,

You awake to the beautiful sound of birds

Chirping outside your window

The sun sneaks its way into your room

A smile creeps across your face as you realize you are awake to see a new day

You make a good breakfast

You read a few pages of your favorite book

You get your mind ready for the things it will accomplish today

Before you know it you've worked an entire day

Your job is done

As you pull into your driveway,

you take a few breaths

Feeling grateful for another meaningful day.

Some days,

This is how it goes

You are not alone.

Every day is a gamble,

Every day is a gift

The key to getting more good days

Is believing that everyday is one.

You are not alone, this is just how it goes.

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