Just Because You Aren't Happy All The Time Doesn't Mean You Are A Bad Person

Just Because You Aren't Happy All The Time Doesn't Mean You Are A Bad Person

You are human and you are trying to be the best kind of human you can be.


Think of all the things that make you happy. Whether that be warm weather, family, your favorite food, favorite memory, or most people's favorite is puppies (of course!). But sometimes, some days those happy things don't always make you happy. Happiness can sometimes be hard to come by some days.

Personally, I am a people pleaser. If you don't know what a people pleaser entails, it's someone that really really REALLY wants to make someone happy. No matter what it is, they always make the effort to make the other happy, even if it is in front of their own happiness.

For me, I will do whatever I can to make someone else happy. I have given up plans for someone, I have made decisions based on someone's own thoughts, I have become so used to making others happy before myself that I now heavily rely on it. I cannot go a moment of deciding what I truly want without knowing what others think of me, especially the important people in my life. What I have now come across is when those people's decisions oppose to what I really want, it is hard to face. Do I make the people around me happy or do I go through with what I really want?

Some people also struggle with making themselves happy. They may go days, weeks, even months of being happy with whatever is bothering them.

Sometimes, people expect you to be happy all the time. Or that's what you think. Being the smiling happy person is what you are known for in your group of friends. That person is me. I am the person that always smiles when someone had a bad day. But no one asks if I ever had a bad day. No matter what the day holds, I will always have a smile on your face. When I have a bad day with no one to talk to, it affects me over time. Most of the time, I push it down and move on. What if that bad day turns into more bad days than good days? Everyone wonders why you can't always be happy.

I have not met one person that has continued to stay happy for days and weeks on end constantly. I don't know if it is humanly possible. Emotions are normal. You experience sadness, anger, jealousy, fear, and insecurities just as much as you experience happiness. So why is it that people expect me to be happy all the time? Or at least I think they expect me to be happy.

I believe that I am putting this burden on myself that I always have to be happy for everyone.

So that way people can like me, they feel better after a long, hard day, and I have a clear conscious. Being happy is great, but when you have to feel it all the time is exhausting and makes you hurt in the long run.

No matter what you are feeling, don't be ashamed. You are not a bad person for not being the best person you can be. You are human and you are trying to be the best kind of human you can be. When you get down, think of your happy things and make yourself happy once in awhile.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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Meditation Is Not A Perfect Practice, But It's Still Worth Your Time

You'll thank me later.


I began doing yoga a few years ago, and I instantly loved it. The combination of stretching, mental relaxation, and emotional release is amazing. It creates a sense of zen and peace in my life that I can use during the stress that comes from school, work, and everyday life. But the one part of yoga that I am not in love with is the meditation aspect.

I absolutely dread meditation. I do not know what it is, but I can never quite seem to get my mind to quiet down. No matter how hard I try, there is always a million thoughts running through my brain. "Did I finish that homework assignment?" "Am I breathing too loud? Can other people hear me?" I become so focused on other things happening around me that I just can't seem to calm down and relax.

But meditation is not about just clearing your mind and going completely blank. It is about focusing on a single thought, object, or intention and just allowing those emotions and feelings to overcome you. Focusing on one intention in your life allows you to become focused and re-centered. Meditation is not a set in stone practice, it is adaptable based on each person's needs.

There are seven general types of meditation: loving-kindness meditation, body scanning meditation, mindfulness meditation, breath awareness meditation, kundalini yoga, Zen meditation, and transcendentalism meditation. Each of these general types can be adapted to fit ones specific needs in that time. All seven of these meditations offer stress release options to help with daily stressors and inconveniences.

There is no perfect way to meditate. Meditation can also be as simple as just closing your eyes and simply breathing for a few seconds while focusing on one important thing in your life to help you remain grounded. There is no one set meditation type that works for all people. Some people enjoy all of the forms or even several of them, while others such as myself strictly enjoy the body scanning meditation.

The body scanning meditation focuses on scanning the body for areas of tension and to encourage the release of tension in that part of the body. Once the release occurs, the whole body can begin to relax even more. It usually starts by focusing on the toes and relaxing then moving up the legs, the torso the arms to the fingertips, and all the way through to the tip of the head.

My ideal meditation type is not for everyone. Playing around with the different types of meditations is the best way to find an ideal type of meditation that fits what the body needs. Unlike with most things, practice doesn't make perfect. Practicing the art of meditation just helps to refine the overall calm and zen that is felt.


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