I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.

Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.


Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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You take your first step. Then another, and soon enough you begin your slow descent out.
"I want to get louder. I got to get louder. We 'bout to go up baby, up we go. We 'bout to go up baby, up we go. We're blowing out speakers. Our heart a little clearer. We 'bout to go up baby, up we go."
-Hailee Steinfeld

A friend of mine recently brought to my attention how much I had changed in the last year. How much lighter I seemed as I walked through the doors. How much happier my responses were and how self-aware and sure of myself I had become.

I am no longer the girl who is mentally checked out from everything going on around her. The clouds that formed over my head, covering my eyes and ears, had been replaced by sunlight. I am becoming a fortune cookie, they joked, always aspiring to find the most profound and optimistic quotes and sayings.

And to be honest with you at first, I just laughed at the comment, not thinking much of it. Until I realized that they were not the first person to mention this to me. But more importantly, that they were right.

I once read about the effect of "personality reversals" in individuals who survive a near-death experience or witness the death of someone influential in their life. These individuals tend to change aspects of themselves that they are less pleased with or believe put them at further risk. And I can personally attest to this being absolutely true.

To this day, I still struggle to talk about my dad's last few weeks of life. In all honesty, I try to avoid even thinking about them. Not because I don't love my dad or extremely value his high points during that time, but because I will likely never witness or experience anything more excruciating, and it's still too hard to process.

The day my dad died I remember looking at myself in the mirror and not recognizing the person that stared back at me. The girl in my reflection looked exhausted. She looked heavier than I remembered, yet hollow. Lifeless. Half-way to becoming an orphan.

I wish I could tell you that I marched myself out of that room and immediately started changing my life. But I'd be lying to you. In fact, I didn't answer a single text or phone call that day, and very few the rest of that week.

Because when I thought I had reached the lowest of lows, the bottom fell out and I fell 10 feet further.

Because you don't get over the trauma, you get through it.

And that may take more time than you think.

But then you take your first step.

Then another.

And soon enough you begin your slow descent out.

I never want to be that girl again. The girl who once stood in my reflection with a tortured soul that only I could recognize, but I hope I never forget the scars it permanently made on me. Because what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger amiright?

And so I decided to change my life. To alter my values in a way that lead to more opportunity, more excitement, and especially more joy. I decided to completely alter how I perceived life and how I reacted to it.

I want to live louder than ever before.

I want to dance like an idiot throughout my apartment in hopes that no one else is looking, but without a care if anyone does. To blast exciting music on the Ravenel bridge as I chase yet another sunset. To go out last minute just because I can.

I want to live a life full of opportunity.

Full of hilarious stories that almost don't happen. Full of compassion and love for others. Most importantly, I want to live a life full of joy because I know what it's like to watch practically everything slip from my grasp.

I want to find strength in happiness and casting it outward to others. To cultivate light in the darkest of corners. To find joy. And my greatest hope is that we all do someday because

At times life can head south, but you can always choose a different direction."
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