It's Time To End The Trope Of Blaming Someone Else For Matters They Don't Deserve

It's Time To End The Trope Of Blaming Someone Else For Matters They Don't Deserve

Yoko Ono didn't break up The Beatles, Ariana Grande didn't kill Mac Miller, and Courtney Love didn't murder Kurt Cobain.


It's very plain, obvious, and unarguable to many Beatles fans that Yoko Ono was the demon that tore apart the iconic band. In fact, Yoko Ono's own career as an artist has been uprooted by this stigma that she broke up The Beatles. Still, I feel as if it's impossible for a single woman to tear apart an entire band and there are plenty of other factors that lead to this break-up. Yoko Ono is the easy answer to the question "Why did The Beatles break up?". Still, this is not the only moment in music history, when a complex question was answered with the name of an artist's significant other. It is normal for humans to search for simple answers to complicated questions, but placing blame on another person is something that has become too common and I think it's about time we put an end to this trope.

In the recent news of Mac Miller's tragic death, people were in shock. Some didn't know how to react and in correlation to that, people began to put the blame on his ex-girlfriend, Ariana Grande. When Ariana Grande posted an image of Mac Miller on her Instagram a couple days after his death, the comments blew up with remarks like "You did this to him" and "It's all your fault". Some remarks even went as far to say Ariana Grande killed Mac Miller. Ariana, already saddened by the news of her friend's death had to now also face this incredible guilt placed on her by people accusing her of killing her ex-boyfriend. No one could have planned or schemed Miller to overdose, so it is hard to understand why someone would place this full blame on Ariana Grande, someone who loved Mac Miller so much.

Another example of this trope playing out is in the case of Kurt Cobain's death. When Kurt Cobain died in 1994, Nirvana fans placed the blame on Courtney Love for causing his depression. Some even go as far to say that she murdered him. Love had made some unjustifiable mistakes while in her relationship with Kurt Cobain. I cannot support her in her decisions to cheat on her husband multiple times nor applaud her for using many illegal drugs. Still Much like the events that occurred after Mac Miller's death, a significant other was blamed for the death of a deeply loved artist.

I'll admit conspiracy theories are fun and exciting, but I think we need to separate conspiracy from real living people with real emotions. Yoko Ono has made many mistakes in her life but, she has been reduced from the title of an avant-garde artist to the woman who tore apart the Beatles. Courtney Love was toxic towards Kurt Cobain but, she was not the sole reason Kurt Cobain committed suicide. Ariana Grande did not have control over Mac Miller's death and she's coping with the same feelings of sadness as his fans. Blaming someone is a coping mechanism that has been reused over and over again. With this being said, significant others have been blamed countless times for vital pieces of music history and I think it's time we put an end to this common occurrence in the music industry.

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Summer Ideas To Do With Your Hometown Friends

Here are few ideas my friends and I have planned for this summer.


As you know, I have been in school in New York for the past few months. I have only seen my friends during the one week I went home for Spring break, but that wasn't enough time for us to really hang out much since I was also catching up with family. Now that I am back in California for the Summer my friends and I plan to do things we didn't get to do.

1. Travel Jar

The furthest place my friends and I have been to together is San Diego, which is only three hours away from where we live. This Summer we plan on taking it further into some different cities in California. We decided to make a travel jar in which we color code places based on the distance that we plan to go to.

We have three colors: Red for different major cities in California, Pink for different U.S. states, and Purple for different countries. We plan to choose one of each color each year and plan three trips that fit our schedules. For Summer we are doing our red and pink trips.

We plan on going to San Francisco for a few days together, and I'm excited because I love it there. We also plan on going to Las Vegas, Nevada in August before school starts for my 21st birthday.

2. Scenic Hikes

We made a list of hiking trails with beautiful scenic views that we plan to go to once every two weeks. These trails are mostly along the coast from Malibu to Laguna Beach. We also added some trails that would be fun to do at night. Hiking with friends is a great way to be active and have fun at the same time.

It can also be a great opportunity to capture great pictures with your friends!

3. Concerts and Festivals 

In addition, we have made a list of concerts and festivals that we want to go to. We each have different taste in music, so we all agreed to each choose a concert or festival and we all have to go to it. So far we plan on going to Hard Summer in Fontana, CA, Northern Nights Music Festival in Cook Valley, CA, and the 2019 Wango Tango Concert in Carson, CA to see Taylor Swift, Jonas Brothers, Halsey, and other artists.

4. Girls Night

We all take turn hosting girls night where we watch movies, have snacks, drink, and just hang out together. Since we always take so long to decide on that movie to watch we each made a list so that we would be ready for the next sleepover.

Last week, my friends came over and we made some drinks, talked, and watched Crazy, Stupid, Love. Sometimes spending the night in is more fun than going out and it's just needed.

5. Disneyland and the OC Fair

These are two places that are more of an every Summer thing we do. We have to go to Disneyland together at least once every Summer, this is significant to us because this is where I and a couple of my closest friends became close friends.

My two friends became a couple of my best friends after we all I ditched my group (which I wasn't even close with anyway) when my friend Crystal invited me to hang out with her group on grad night. We hung out throughout the whole day and eventually it was down to just Crystal, Stephanie, and I at the end of the night.

We have been close friends ever since. The OC fair is just a place ever person from SoCal needs to go at least once, the main attraction is the butterfly room where you are in an outdoor netted area where there are hundreds of butterflies flying around and you get to be in close contact with them.

6. Sports Events

My friends and I aren't really much into sports but attending a sports event is always fun! My family bought season tickets for the Los Angeles Dodgers so I will be taking my friends with me a few times. I am a huge Dodger fan so I have been going to the games since I was little and I always have a great time at the stadium.

Baseball is like the only sport my family and I are into. Also, I have a friend named Ciara who is a cheerleader for the LA Clippers so she gets free tickets to the basketball games and she'll sometimes invite me. I don't really follow basketball but it is always fun going to see a game at the Staples Center with her, or even with other friends just to go watch her cheer.

7. Matching Tattoos

I have a few friends who I plan to get matching tattoos with and this Summer would be the perfect time to finally go do it. I recently got one with my friend Ciara during Spring break, so I want to get more with other friends who I also promised I would get one with. I plan on getting a tattoo with my sister, my cousin, and my best friend this Summer.

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7 Ways To Get It Together Before Finals

You can do it!


As a college student who's own self has been battling 6 classes, a part-time job, a sorority, and the gym all semester, I personally have mastered the art of multitasking work. I finally feel beyond prepared for this semester's terrifying "throw all the work I should have assigned three weeks ago," professors and the always promising, final exams that could possibly save or kill your GPA. So, here are 8 tips I've personally memorized, to help handle your upcoming workload and collect yourself before finals week hits you like a brick (again).


Organize, organize, organize. Regardless if it's your day planner, assignment rubrics, dorm room or your thoughts. It's always best to go into a busy week with a clear mind and allow yourself to focus only on the work ahead. Clean out your folders and notebooks to organize your notes for cumulative exams, which will help for future studying. Additionally, cleaning your bedroom and work desk can help to make you feel better when you're just returning home from an 8 hour trip to the library.


Making a list of your finals with their due dates and scheduled meeting times, will help to take some stress off when the week starts and as someone who accidentally went to an exam after the scheduled time, it's best to make sure you know when and where every test starts.


Procrastination might have worked through the past semester and semesters prior, but I can promise when it comes to finals week it is almost always best to do what you can in advance. If your privileged enough to do an essay or project as a final for a class, do it before the week comes so you can instead, fill your time with caffeine-driven 12-hour study sessions for your final exams.


Try to make study guides for your exams, before finals week even begins. This will help to allow pure focusing on only your week's work, rather than cramming small busy-work which takes away from study time. If your teacher already gave you an outline, (lucky) start studying it!


If you're confused on a certain topic or instruction in regards to a final exam/project, ask your professor! They are there to give instruction and giving clarification, so don't be afraid to ask questions in advance.


Usually, when a student starts drowning in due dates, the thought of dropping out sounds even better, but you're almost there! Take a breath, you're going to pass that exam, class and make it to warmer weather where you're not stuck in a 50-minute class. Just imagine the sweet image of yourself on a beach, without the slightest thought of an approaching 10-page paper or cumulative exam.


While this might have been a priority all semester, it tends to skip the minds of college students once finals erupt. Sleep before a final is just as important as your week-long studying, so by following the previous tips make sure you're giving yourself enough time in between finals and cramming for at least 8 hours of sleep.

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