To the next girl that falls in love with him,

He's lying.

Maybe he's not cheating on you, because cheating is definitely not his personality type, (which is a bonus...I guess.) But, he is lying to you.

He's lying to you when he tells you about me and all of his other exes. It was just a little over a year ago when we broke up the first time, and I can promise you that the reason why we broke up was not the same reason he told you. No, we did not break up because I was "racist" (to be honest, I don't even know where that came from, but that's what I heard he was telling people).

And while he was telling people that "reason," he was telling me that it was because he "didn't feel like he was making me happy anymore." Whichever one you may hear, there was actually no real reason that we broke up. I was perfectly happy. A little moody that night we had the fallout, but perfectly happy and perfectly loving him. We broke up because he just decided to break up with me, and with that came a breakup text and an instant blocking of my number and all social media accounts. No explanation why and no contact with him whatsoever.

He's lying to you about the second time we broke up on New Years Eve as well. No, it wasn't because I "cheated on him" and psychotically "randomly showed up to his house." We were broken up by the end of August and didn't reconnect until the end of December. During those months, I hung out with one of his friends...twice. And this "friend" of his decided to spread rumors about me and of course, no one believed me in that situation, so this time I blocked him on everything first and beat him to it.

And about the NYE situation, maybe I wouldn't have showed up to his house if he had just texted me back saying he was okay. You see, when you have plans with someone and you literally saw them that morning and then all of a sudden they just don't reply to you all day, you worry a little. I thought the worst, like maybe he was dead and his body was laying in a ditch somewhere. So I had to drive over there and make sure he was okay. The rest of that is history, but you can read about that night here.

He's lying to you when he makes you feel like you're the only girl that has ever made him happy. He was happy while he was with me, and he was happy while he was with one other girl I know of, (who ironically now is my best friend).

He's lying to you about the little things. Pay attention to those extravagant stories he tells you...they may hold a little truth, but for the most part, he adds in a lot of details and things that never happened.

He's lying to you when he says he could see himself marrying you. I promise you he has said that to every other girl he's been with. So please, spare yourself.

He's lying to you when he's making excuses. Not only is he lying, but he is also picking stupid little arguments with you over topics that don't even need to be argued about.

He's lying to you when he's being short with you or ignoring you; mad at you and won't tell you why. Ignoring is just his way of coping, I guess. But, that doesn't work for me (or any girl, really).

In all honesty, I want something to work out for him, and I know he does, too. But at the same time, he needs a giant reality check and has a lot of growing up to do before I see him in any long term relationship.

If that ends up being you, then I do wish you the best. I want him to be happy, I just think he kind of self-destructs when something goes wrong in a relationship, and instead of fixing it or even trying, he will just ignore your existence.

Maybe there were some things with him that I could have gone about differently, but in the end, everything could have been worked out if he had chosen to work it out with me, but he didn't. He can be a really great guy when he wants to be, but I know that he can also be a lot of work. I know he's a lot of fun to be around. Trust me, I know. I loved when I got to hang out with him and his friends and getting to watch his bubbly personality talk to everyone at a party was absolutely adorable to me. But in the end, it really just wasn't going to work for us. Hopefully, that'll be different for you.