My New Year's Resolution Is Not To Be Skinny

My New Year's Resolution Is Not To Be Skinny

It's to be confident.

With 2016 ending in just a few short days, it’s important to reflect on this past year. Not just to make a cheesy list of New Year’s resolutions, but to give ourselves a chance to acknowledge which things in the last 365 days were awesome and which things were not so awesome. For me, this last year was filled with plenty of things to be thankful for, such as a great new school, empowering new friends, and a fun new life. However, in the midst of all of this great freshness, I’ve spent more time being sad than happy. While much of this sadness stems from opinions and actions of others, I blame no one but myself. Why? Because I am the only person that can choose how I react to things, and I chose wrong.

Due to a combination of bad movies, petty television, and objectifying advertisements, society’s main function in our current world is to point fingers. We tell people how to look, how to talk, and how to behave by making the accepted social norm extremely clear. Stereotypes are concisely defined and it’s not difficult to figure out what stereotype we fit into. Because of this, so many of us are left feeling like we are not enough because we don’t perfectly fit into the mold that society tells us we identify with. With that being said, at the end of every year, we create a new set of goals to better ourselves in the New Year. Unfortunately, many of these goals are not motivated by self-betterment, but rather by societal acceptance. The most common New Year’s resolution is always to be skinny. Why? Because we feel like our weight is the easiest, most controllable way to reach conformity.

This year, my New Year’s resolution is not to be skinny. It’s to be confident.

Too much of our current generation is consumed with the opinions of others and I personally let what other people think of me matter way too much. In 2017, be you. Don’t let a magazine tell you how to look. Don’t let a TV show tell you what to wear. And definitely don’t let a boy tell you how to act.

Too many times do we let warped images of women become what we idolize. We set our phone backgrounds to starving models to help shame ourselves every time we have dessert because we feel like if we don’t look like these women, we failed. Take a step back and realize that beautiful is not defined by the amount of fat you can squeeze off your sides, how tan your skin is in December, or your bra size. Picture the most amazing girl you list all of her best qualities. Are all of those qualities physical things like her waistline or her thigh gap? Absolutely not. They’re the way she can turn any situation into a party and make everyone laugh, the dorky jokes she tells, and the way she is there for you when nobody else is. THAT is beautiful and THAT is attainable. Be fun, be carefree, and be yourself. Nothing is better.

With what’s considered popular changing every day, it’s hard for us to ever be content with ourselves. We set goals based on current fads, and when they change, we’re left feeling empty, quickly scrambling to adapt and readjust what we want. We let boys tell us what type of girls are attractive, and we try to adjust our personalities and appearances to fit their description. But why? Is it for acceptance? For popularity? Probably. Stop changing who you are to please others because one day you will meet the person that loves you as you are, and you will wonder why you spent so much time trying to change that.

In 2017, fearlessly be you. Show your true personality and share your real dreams. Live each day not concerned with other people trying to tear you down, but rather with building yourself up. Love yourself and all you are because I promise you, nothing is more fulfilling than a little confidence.

Happy New Year!

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10 Things Someone Who Grew Up In A Private School Knows

The 10 things that every private school-goer knows all too well.


1. Uniforms

Plaid. The one thing that every private school-goer knows all too well. It was made into jumpers, skirts, shorts, scouts, hair ties, basically anything you could imagine, the school plaid was made into. You had many different options on what to wear on a normal day, but you always dreaded dress uniform day because of skirts and ballet flats. But it made waking up late for school a whole lot easier.

2. New people were a big deal

New people weren't a big thing. Maybe one or two a year to a grade, but after freshman year no one new really showed up, making the new kid a big deal.

3. You've been to school with most of your class since Kindergarten

Most of your graduating class has been together since Kindergarten, maybe even preschool, if your school has it. They've become part of your family, and you can honestly say you've grown up with your best friends.

4. You've had the same teachers over and over

Having the same teacher two or three years in a row isn't a real surprise. They know what you are capable of and push you to do your best.

5. Everyone knows everybody. Especially everyone's business.

Your graduating class doesn't exceed 150. You know everyone in your grade and most likely everyone in the high school. Because of this, gossip spreads like wildfire. So everyone knows what's going on 10 minutes after it happens.

6. Your hair color was a big deal

If it's not a natural hair color, then forget about it. No dyeing your hair hot pink or blue or you could expect a phone call to your parents saying you have to get rid of it ASAP.

7. Your school isn't like "Gossip Girl"

There is no eating off campus for lunch or casually using your cell phone in class. Teachers are more strict and you can't skip class or just walk right off of campus.

8. Sports are a big deal

Your school is the best of the best at most sports. The teams normally go to the state championships. The rest of the school that doesn't play sports attends the games to cheer on the teams.

9. Boys had to be clean-shaven, and hair had to be cut

If you came to school and your hair was not cut or your beard was not shaved, you were written up and made to go in the bathroom and shave or have the head of discipline cut your hair. Basically, if you know you're getting written up for hair, it's best just to check out and go get a hair cut.

10. Free dress days were like a fashion show

Wearing a school uniform every day can really drive you mad. That free dress day once a month is what you lived for. It was basically a fashion show for everyone, except for those upperclassmen who were over everything and just wore sweat pants.

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Why I've Never Not Had A Valentine

It's the day of love. It does not mean it has to be romantic.


If my memory serves me correctly, I have always had a valentine. By that, I don't mean that I have had a boyfriend every single year since I was five.

In Spanish, Valentine's Day is also referred to as "Dia del Amor y la Amistad", which translates to the day of love and friendship. I'm not a big fan of the holiday, because to me someone should show me love every single day, not only one specific day because "everybody else is doing it".

On that note, however, I have always had a valentine. In elementary school, we celebrated the holiday and everyone was each other's valentines. Even that girl (the one who stole your game that you won on Friday because you accumulated enough points to pick it from the prize box) would be your valentine.

In middle school, my grandpa or dad would get me those little chocolate hearts, which are about a dollar at Walmart. I don't recall ever going without one. Then, the next day they'd take me to stock up on candy because of price drops!

In high school, once my friends got their driver's licenses and part-time jobs, we'd finish classes and go to Highway 55 and celebrate Galentine's Day or stock up on cheat day food and go to the park. This year we've all gone our separate ways. We've gone to different schools and maybe communication was just lost, but I'm so thankful for the memories I have with everyone.

This year I'm my own valentine, (which no, it is not shameful) because I learned to love myself enough to celebrate it with myself. Love doesn't always have to be romantic, it does not always mean dinner dates and engagement proposals. Love means calling your mom, your dad, or grandma and wishing them a happy Valentine's Day. It means telling your friends that you're proud of them.

Love means recognizing yeah, it's been a hell of a week, but you got through it. Valentine's Day sometimes means going to your nearest Target, grabbing a bottle of cocktail juice, and putting on a face-mask while catching up on your favorite TV show. Valentine's Day is so generalized to be about romantic love that some people feel alone. You really shouldn't.

If you feel alone, just remember someone loves you for you and maybe it's not your time for romance. If that doesn't help, then I count as your valentine.

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