New Year, Same Me

New Year, Same Me

It's okay to be unapologetically you.

"OMG New Year, New Me!!!!" Let's be honest with ourselves, you know you've said this before. It's that time of the year again and we know that on social media that's probably going to be the caption everybody uses, but is it really a "new you?"

I feel as if everyone has the same goals, it's either lose weight, meet more people, or be more productive. Now those are those some fantastic goals to live by in the new year, but sometimes it's okay to be the way you are.

I ask myself the same question every year, "do I want to change or be the same me?" Of course I"ll always be Molly, but sometimes I feel as if I should be more outgoing or less shy. Now I know that I'm perfect the way I am but sometimes change is good.

To be honest, change is very good for people. Sometimes you need to change your outlook on life or change your work ethic. And that's okay!!! That's a good chance to have in your life because not only will it make you look at things a different way, it'll be good to build your character.

You can also change your friend group and get rid of toxic people in your life. Trust me I know it's hard but sometimes you need to do it. You don't need toxic people in your life that are constantly going to bring you down or people that are not going anywhere in their life. One thing I like to tell my friends is to be selfish and by selfish I mean to put yourself first in situations where you would put others first. Now I know that's another hard thing to do, but DO IT! Trust me you'll live a better life and you'll definitely feel better about yourself. This is something that I've personally struggled with and I promise I'm working on it.

Now trust me -- change is good, but sometimes staying the same you is also 100% fine! One thing you DO NOT AND I REPEAT DO NOT need to do is, change for someone. LIKE EVER! I know sometimes that you want to be the most stylish person or be the most popular person but trust me you don't need to. It's hard to find original people in this world. LITERALLY THO! I've finally come to terms with who I am as a person. People have told me that they wish they have the confidence that I do, but trust me I'm not that confident. I have so many insecurities and phobias but guess what, that's what makes me, me.

To be honest I'm 1000% fine with that. My insecurities and phobias are what makes me unique and I know that I'm the only Molly Suzanna Martinez (or at least I hope I am) in this chaotic world of ours.

With a new year coming, this is when people usually reflect on their lives. My life this year has had it's ups and downs, From my little brother graduating high school (so proud of you Pookie but you make me feel old) to the petty drama that happens in everyone's life to starting my sophomore year of college. I've come to realize that without any of this I wouldn't be the person I am today.

With that being said, I just want to thank everyone that is still in my life and to the new people that I've met this year. Not only have you made my life more interesting but you have definitely made a huge impact in my life.

It's okay to unapologetically you and to be the same you in the New Year! So instead of saying "New Year, New Me'" say "New Year, Same Me!" #2018 #itslit

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19 Struggles Only Girls With The 'Looks Thin In Clothes But Not In A Bikini' Body Type Will Understand

A resounding 'thank you' to whoever decided one-pieces were cool again.

We grew up thinking the world was black and white. There's tall people and short people. There's old people and young people.

There's fat people and skinny people.

But as you get older, you realize there is a lot more in between those two ends of the spectrum than you ever thought possible. Especially when it comes to weight. And you do a lot more realizing if you're in an awkward position on that scale... Literally.

1. People always tell you to stop saying you are fat

Obviously, your friends SHOULD prevent you from talking negatively about yourself. And if you only saw you when you were fully dressed, you'd probably tell yourself to stop saying you're fat, too.

2. And are kind of surprised by your actual weight

You've definitely had friends who are shocked by the number on your scale because you can carry it pretty well when you are fully dressed.

3. Sometimes you feel like a catfish

Have you ever changed out of your super cute, flattering outfit and looked at yourself in the mirror and thought... Wow, am I lying to people?

4. But you know this is probably true for most people

When you're wearing clothes, typically the parts of a body that bring about insecurities (stomach, namely) are covered. No matter the body type, you realize most people are more comfortable in clothes than out of them.

5. Your confidence is often contingent on the month

November? Yep, won't need to be in shorts or a bikini for about 7-8 months. I am good to go.

February? I'll need to be in a bikini soon.. I could use some work.

6. You are thrilled by the one-piece bathing suit making a fashion come back

A resounding 'thank you' to whoever decided it was time to give one-pieces a try again. The stomachs of us in-between gals are appreciative.

7. Crop tops are 95% of the time not your top of choice

Yeah, okay, clothes are supposed to work for me and not against me.

8. You honestly don't understand jean sizes

I have fluctuated in weight a lot of my life, most recently losing 25lbs, and I still did not budge in jean sizes.

9. You wonder what other people think when they see you

Do other people see me as thin in clothing? Or fat in a bikini? What size am I perceived as?

10. Shopping is kind of a nightmare

Have you ever found about 27 items you liked, added the prices and thought, ah, it is going to be so tough to choose from all of these items? Only to go into the fitting room and realize only 2 of the items fit you well? Yep, me every single time I go to the store.

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11. You're thankful that at least you've got boobs

You can kind of hide them in clothes, and then let them steal the show away from your tummy in a swimsuit.

12. You have a hard time setting weight-loss goals

You aren't really sure how overweight you are (if you are, at all) and you don't want to be at an unhealthy weight on either side of the spectrum.

13. Body positivity comes and goes

There are days, weeks or even months when you feel like the most beautiful person on the planet, and then something happens (old jeans don't fit, you try on a new bathing suit, etc.) and you convince yourself that all of that confidence was wrong and undeserved.

14. You always try on the biggest size first

Either this or you're in a weird limbo between the smallest plus sizes size and the biggest generic sizes size.

15. Half of you knows every body is a bikini body, and half of you is convinced that yours is not

You know that your body is worthy of wearing whatever you want to wear, but looking at yourself and seeing what society (and you) sometimes deem as unattractive can eat away at that knowledge.

16. But you also know self-love and confidence are key to beauty

Even if you have to fake it, you know that feeling confident is going to carry you pretty far.

17. Being in a bathing suit is a constant game of readjustment

Okay, I am sitting. Pull the bottoms up to cover as much as my stomach as possible and the back of the top down to cover any back rolls.

18. You've avoided the mirror after a shower before

You know that you are just going to lose all the comfort you felt in your body during the day when you see yourself, so sometimes it is best to just avoid it.

19. Ultimately, you know your beauty is not contingent on what you are wearing

The goal for everyone should be to get to a point where it doesn't matter if you're in a snowsuit, a bathing suit or a birthday suit... You can see your beauty no matter what and feel confident despite what you have on. It'll take time, but falling in love with the way you look is worth it.

Cover Image Credit: Sara Petty

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Life Is Like The Seasons, Bloom Baby Bloom

Patience and a good attitude are all it takes and in no time, you will be blooming too.

Life can be compared to flowers.

We go through stages where things are cold and dark, much like winter. In these stages, our lives can seem dead much like flowers are dead in the winter. However, life has summer stages where everything is warm and happy. In these states of our lives, we are like flowers.


Freshman year of college has been a total period of growth for me. I have come to the University of Kentucky and I have been exposed to many new things and have had several experiences I would not have had if I would've stayed in the bubble that is my hometown.

I have had incredible experiences that have allowed me, for lack of a better word, BLOOM.

Moving six and a half hours away from all my friends and family posed several concerns. Despite all the excitement, I was terrified.

This was the first time I was going to be independent without my parents there to hold my hand and walk me through new experiences. Taking that fact with a grain of salt, I packed my stuff up, said goodbye to my family and friends, and embarked on a journey that would change me forever. College.

Here I was a very excited yet terrified freshman going through sorority recruitment. I was scared I wasn't going to fit in anywhere and find my forever home. I was wrong.

I then fell in love with the sisterhood and the women of Rho Iota. Phi Mu became my forever home and with that, came another stage of blooming.

In my first year as a member of Phi Mu, I became involved in things like intramural sports, external philanthropy events, and best of all, I joined an irreplaceable sisterhood.

To me, Phi Mu has become something I will be forever thankful for. Through Phi Mu, I was also blessed with an amazing Pham that has become a huge support system thus far.

Moving away was one thing that scared me, but the thing that scared me the most was the unknown of making friends and finding a family away from home, but I was given that through my sorority.

Obviously, I chose UK because I wanted to further my education as well. I am majoring in Integrated Strategic Communication and I couldn't imagine being on a different path for my future. I see myself being extremely happy with this as my career path.

Yet again, I am given another opportunity to bloom.

So, with all of that being said, to those who feel they have not had their opportunity to bloom, it will come. College is a huge place. There are so many opportunities on campus to be successful and the number one way to do this is to be alright with the process to take time.

Blooming and thriving are things that do not happen overnight. It takes you being open to change and being accepting of some failure along the way.

Patience and a good attitude are all it takes and in no time, you will be blooming too.

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