New Year, Same Me

New Year, Same Me

It's okay to be unapologetically you.

"OMG New Year, New Me!!!!" Let's be honest with ourselves, you know you've said this before. It's that time of the year again and we know that on social media that's probably going to be the caption everybody uses, but is it really a "new you?"

I feel as if everyone has the same goals, it's either lose weight, meet more people, or be more productive. Now those are those some fantastic goals to live by in the new year, but sometimes it's okay to be the way you are.

I ask myself the same question every year, "do I want to change or be the same me?" Of course I"ll always be Molly, but sometimes I feel as if I should be more outgoing or less shy. Now I know that I'm perfect the way I am but sometimes change is good.

To be honest, change is very good for people. Sometimes you need to change your outlook on life or change your work ethic. And that's okay!!! That's a good chance to have in your life because not only will it make you look at things a different way, it'll be good to build your character.

You can also change your friend group and get rid of toxic people in your life. Trust me I know it's hard but sometimes you need to do it. You don't need toxic people in your life that are constantly going to bring you down or people that are not going anywhere in their life. One thing I like to tell my friends is to be selfish and by selfish I mean to put yourself first in situations where you would put others first. Now I know that's another hard thing to do, but DO IT! Trust me you'll live a better life and you'll definitely feel better about yourself. This is something that I've personally struggled with and I promise I'm working on it.

Now trust me -- change is good, but sometimes staying the same you is also 100% fine! One thing you DO NOT AND I REPEAT DO NOT need to do is, change for someone. LIKE EVER! I know sometimes that you want to be the most stylish person or be the most popular person but trust me you don't need to. It's hard to find original people in this world. LITERALLY THO! I've finally come to terms with who I am as a person. People have told me that they wish they have the confidence that I do, but trust me I'm not that confident. I have so many insecurities and phobias but guess what, that's what makes me, me.

To be honest I'm 1000% fine with that. My insecurities and phobias are what makes me unique and I know that I'm the only Molly Suzanna Martinez (or at least I hope I am) in this chaotic world of ours.

With a new year coming, this is when people usually reflect on their lives. My life this year has had it's ups and downs, From my little brother graduating high school (so proud of you Pookie but you make me feel old) to the petty drama that happens in everyone's life to starting my sophomore year of college. I've come to realize that without any of this I wouldn't be the person I am today.

With that being said, I just want to thank everyone that is still in my life and to the new people that I've met this year. Not only have you made my life more interesting but you have definitely made a huge impact in my life.

It's okay to unapologetically you and to be the same you in the New Year! So instead of saying "New Year, New Me'" say "New Year, Same Me!" #2018 #itslit

Cover Image Credit: Molly Martinez

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11 Feminist Halloween Costumes You Don't Need Cleavage To Feel Sexy In

If you’re looking for the most scandalous outfits to wear this Halloween, this may not be it.

If you're a socially conscious f eminist, you'll know sexy shouldn't be defined by anything other than what you make of it.

However, when most people type in "sexy Halloween costumes" into their search engine, they might be looking for tight bodysuits or something that shows a little more cleavage. Don’t get me wrong, I'm not knocking out bunny ears or mesh tights. However, it might be time to stretch what that definition means.

I've gathered a few costume ideas that are sure to make a statement this Halloween while representing some of the most iconic women of our time. So, here are the ten best Halloween costumes for forward-thinking women like us!

1. Rosie the Riveter

Who better to show that we are equal and can do a “man’s job” just as good (or better) than Rosie the Riveter? This outfit is bold and inexpensive. You may even have this in your closet!

2. Marilyn Monroe

"I am very definitely a woman and I enjoy it.”

More proof that you can be beautiful in pants or a dress. Embrace the beauty within.

3. Taylor Swift

“I don’t really think about things as guys versus girls. I never have. I was raised by parents who brought me up to think if you work as hard as guys, you can go far in life,” Taylor Swift said in an interview with The Daily Beast.

Enough said.

4. Hillary Clinton

President or not I’m still with her. Just like feminists and activists before her, she has paved the way for modern women to stand up for themselves and have a voice.

5. Susan B. Anthony

Susan B. Anthony proved any woman could turn her dreams into a reality. She helped remove limitations and showed women to be fearless. Fast forward 97 years and women can achieve even more than. Yes, we still have more to accomplish, but we’re definitely nearing the horizon!

6. Amelia Earhart

Not only was she an American aviator, she was also the first woman to ever fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean. Talk about goals. This Halloween, you can defy gender norms just like Amelia did.

7. Frida Kahlo

Surrealist painter Frida Kahlo explored the depths of her identity, culture, gender, class, love, and loss. Through her persona and her artwork, she defied feminine beauty and gender stereotypes in a time where women had few rights and were viewed as submissive. Who ever said you had to get your brows waxed anyway?

8. Birth Control

Hands off my birth control!

This might be sound a little kooky, but isn't that what Halloween is all about? This year, make it a point to express how you feel through your costume. Women need to stick together! So, let's dress up as birth control to remind the GOP we will not accept another restriction.

9. Wonder Woman

Adding Wonder Woman to our list was a no-brainer. She’s a crowd favorite, especially the way Gal Gadot represented her in the new movie.

Overall, Wonder Woman is a symbolic character that reminds us anyone can be a hero. The days when only little boys looked up to their favorite superhero are long gone. Now, kids and adults of any gender have a badass female superhero to fawn over.

10. Madonna

More than 30 years ago Madonna broke the barriers of what men wanted women to be. In a time where women were expected to follow certain rules, her attitude and bravery overcame those norms. Shoutout to "Hocus Pocus" for the inspo.

11. Rey from "Star Wars"

In "Star Wars: The Force Awakens," Han Solo's new protégé Rey is loaded with martial skills anyone would admire. Daisy Ridley plays the franchise's first female protagonist with a strong feminist persona. Rey refuses to be defined as "just a woman" and is definitely no damsel in distress. Instead, she is a fighter, survivor, and all around badass.

This Halloween, don't just be brave. Be Rey.

Cover Image Credit: Beyoncé's Facebook Profile

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15 Last-Minute Fall Activities For Anyone Who Hasn’t Done Anything Yet

You don't want to wait another year to do these fun things!


With the weather we keep having here in Ohio, it feels as if we have just skipped the season of fall altogether and went from summer straight to winter. What is that about? Fall is my favorite season and every year I tell my friends that we should do all these fall-related activities. Last year, I didn't do any of them. And this year, that same ending is likely to be repeated. So, if you're like me, and haven't done anything related to the season, here are fifteen activities you should plan before the season is completely over.

1. Go apple picking

Either to an actual orchard, or you could go to the grocery store and buy a bundle of apples, place them in a basket, and pose by any old tree, and take pictures. No one will be able to tell the difference.

2. Go to a pumpkin patch

Or any grocery store and buy pumpkins of various sizes and tell yourself you didn't have time this year to go to an actual patch.

3. Go to a haunted house

Why pay $35 or more on a haunted house, when logging onto Blackboard or Canvas can give you an even bigger scare for free?

4. Get lost in a corn maze

Picture this: going to the grocery store with your mom, she wanders off, and you spend the remainder of your trip trying to look for her. It's basically the same thing.

5. Have a scary movie marathon

A fun roommate bonding activity: put on a scary movie, scream, and jump, then go to bed. All the while, it's pitch black outside. What's better than that?

6. Get dressed up

Wear a tuxedo or formal dress to classes and you're all dressed up. Or find a costume at Goodwill and wear that.

7. Go out partying

Or get dressed up at your dorm/apartment and stay in and watch movies or do homework. You could go out in the cold in a costume or you could stay in and huddle under three blankets. The choice is up to you but staying in already sounds so much more enticing.

8. Go camping

And try not to think about how dozens of horror movies end when a group of people going camping. That would just ruin your fun.

9. Buy a pumpkin spice latte

Go to Starbucks. Order a PSL. Take one sip. Post a picture of the drink on your Snapchat or Instagram story. Then throw it in the garbage because those drinks are trash.

10. Jump into a pile of leaves

And try to ignore the fact that there could be thousands of little bugs and germs within that pile and just try to reach your inner child.

11. Drink apple cider

This will bring back some memories from your childhood. But as an adult, don't look at the nutrition facts. Especially the sugar content.

12. Carve or paint pumpkins

Take out your grocery store bought pumpkins and carve or paint away. While you're doing that, throw those pumpkin seeds into the oven to have a snack when you're done carving away.

13. Eat a caramel apple

This will get you into the fall spirit: with a sweet snack that is almost healthy.

14. Step on every leaf you pass

Hearing that satisfying crunch of leaves as you step on them is one of the best parts of fall. The worst is when you step on a leaf and it doesn't crunch.

15. Get ready for Christmas

Just blatantly ignore the wonderful Thanksgiving, and start preparing for Christmas. These deals won't last long.

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