There's No Secret Formula For Making Friends In College, You Just Have To Do It

There's No Secret Formula For Making Friends In College, You Just Have To Do It

I am still trying to figure out how to make friends.
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I used to think that making friends in college would be super easy. Just join groups on campus that you share common interests with and boom! You have friends. However, even though I am a part of a couple organizations on campus, I wasn’t able to build strong friendships with those around me due to two distinct reasons.

Firstly, the new people I met in college ended up changing dramatically over the course of freshman and sophomore year and I just didn’t want to be as close to them anymore. With saying that, I am aware that growing and changing is a part of the college experience because I, too, have changed a lot since my freshman year.

However, the new people that I became friends with at one point changed to the point where our outlook on life and college were so different and I didn’t feel like we were on the same page anymore.

Thus, when my new college friends starting changing in ways I had never predicted, I started to gravitate towards people I have known in high school because these were people I trusted and had known for years.

On the other hand, another reason I feel like I was able to build new friendships was due to me starting a new relationship a couple of months after starting college. I think I got super caught up with my boyfriend that I kind of took a back seat when it came to meeting new people. Looking back, I wish that I would have taken the time to really forge those new friendships because now I feel like my only friends are the people who I have known since before college.

Now, I do want to mention that I am not saying that only being friends with people I have known prior to college is a bad thing - I really cherish and love those friendships. However, I do feel like college is the time to meet, interact and form relationships with new people. Thus, I really want to work on my social life in the last two years I will be in college.

I want to push myself to go outside my comfort zone and although I am nervous about it, I think it will be worth it in the end.

So, I guess this article is not really about how to make friends in college, but rather a hopeful notion that you can always put yourself out there and try to build new friendships no matter where you are in your college career. It is hard and kind of intimidating, but it’s better to try now then to look back after college and regret not doing anything at all.

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10 Things Someone Who Grew Up In A Private School Knows

The 10 things that every private school-goer knows all too well.

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1. Uniforms

Plaid. The one thing that every private school-goer knows all too well. It was made into jumpers, skirts, shorts, scouts, hair ties, basically anything you could imagine, the school plaid was made into. You had many different options on what to wear on a normal day, but you always dreaded dress uniform day because of skirts and ballet flats. But it made waking up late for school a whole lot easier.

2. New people were a big deal

New people weren't a big thing. Maybe one or two a year to a grade, but after freshman year no one new really showed up, making the new kid a big deal.

3. You've been to school with most of your class since Kindergarten


Most of your graduating class has been together since Kindergarten, maybe even preschool, if your school has it. They've become part of your family, and you can honestly say you've grown up with your best friends.

4. You've had the same teachers over and over

Having the same teacher two or three years in a row isn't a real surprise. They know what you are capable of and push you to do your best.

5. Everyone knows everybody. Especially everyone's business.

Your graduating class doesn't exceed 150. You know everyone in your grade and most likely everyone in the high school. Because of this, gossip spreads like wildfire. So everyone knows what's going on 10 minutes after it happens.

6. Your hair color was a big deal

If it's not a natural hair color, then forget about it. No dyeing your hair hot pink or blue or you could expect a phone call to your parents saying you have to get rid of it ASAP.

7. Your school isn't like "Gossip Girl"

There is no eating off campus for lunch or casually using your cell phone in class. Teachers are more strict and you can't skip class or just walk right off of campus.

8. Sports are a big deal

Your school is the best of the best at most sports. The teams normally go to the state championships. The rest of the school that doesn't play sports attends the games to cheer on the teams.

9. Boys had to be clean-shaven, and hair had to be cut

If you came to school and your hair was not cut or your beard was not shaved, you were written up and made to go in the bathroom and shave or have the head of discipline cut your hair. Basically, if you know you're getting written up for hair, it's best just to check out and go get a hair cut.

10. Free dress days were like a fashion show

Wearing a school uniform every day can really drive you mad. That free dress day once a month is what you lived for. It was basically a fashion show for everyone, except for those upperclassmen who were over everything and just wore sweat pants.

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5 Times That Kylie Jenner & Jordyn Woods Were Accurate Depictions Of You And Your BFF

Best friend? More like wife for life!

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Whether it's celebrity couples or celebrity best friends, everyone has that one pair that they are obsessed with. My best friend and I happen to be obsessed with Kylie Jenner and Jordyn Woods. Even though Kylie is a billionaire and Jordyn is extremely famous, unlike my BFF and I, we can relate to them on so many levels. They are fun, spontaneous, and they always have each other's backs. Trust me, once you start relating to them, you and your BFF will be DM'ing all the Kylie and Jordyn pics to each other with the caption, "Us."

1. They make a ton of memories together.

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Kylie and Jordyn have been BFF's since around 2013 and have made so many memories together. From matching tattoos, Kylie's own show "Life of Kylie" which featured Jordyn heavily, adopting a dog together, and of course, the birth of Stormi. Jordyn and Kylie have been linked to the hip and have tons of proof to look back on their friendship. I mean, who else makes an entire makeup collab with their BFF?

2. They support each other's accomplishments.

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Through all the accomplishments in my BFF's life, I'm front and center. Whether that's being accepted to her dream school or who knows, maybe your BFF is the youngest self-made billionaire. The last option is probably very unlikely, but for Jordyn, it happened! Best friend, Kylie Jenner, became the youngest self-made billionaire this year and Jordyn supported Kylie and her success along the way. Whether that was posting a picture on Instagram or collaborating with Kylie on her makeup line, Jordyn was there every step of the way!

3. Their Instagrams together are BFF goals.

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They might as well be called the Instagram queens because my BFF's and I are constantly trying to replicate their outfits, poses, and pics! Basically, can they drop their secrets, please?

4. They have each other's backs through everything.

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Through the crazy drama, love lives, and Kylie's pregnancy, these girls have stuck through it all. Kylie and Jordyn have been friends for multiple years. These years included the Kardashian/Jenner rise to fame, Kylie's makeup line, Jordyn's father passing away, and Kylie finding out she was pregnant with her daughter, Stormi. A true best friend stands by your side through anything and everything. I know that I would do anything for my best friend and have been there for her since day 1. This is just the rule to friendship and Kylie and Jordyn do a great job at abiding by it.

5. At the end of the day, they are normal best friends.

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Sure, Kylie and Jordyn live a fabulous lifestyle. We all can't attend Astroworld or be close friends with celebs like Jaden Smith and Anastasia Karanikolaou. But, at the end of the day, Kylie and Jordyn are just normal young adults. The girls love binging Netflix and trying out new recipes for Chrissy Teagan's new cookbook. I know that my BFF and I love watching marathons of New Girl and cooking up cute dinners for us. We basically live the same life as Ky and Jordy.

All in all, these girls have been through hell and back. As two very famous young women, their lives are constantly filled with crazy opportunities and events. So far, they have had each other's backs through thick and thin. Let's hope this friendship sticks together, forever.

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