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It's Time For You To Grow up and Get over Your stress

Just because we go through the motions of life does not mean we have to stop dreaming while doing it.


I think it started around freshman year of college.

Everyone around me started slowing down and falling into the root of the course load and stress that comes with it. I can't blame anyone for being mentally exhausted because I feel it too, and often.

But what I will never understand is the lack of dreaming in so many people, especially as of late.

People dream their whole lives. From as early as the age of 5, we dream of the ice cream truck and our parents giving us a buck or two so we can get the SpongeBob on a stick. Then at age 10, we dream of what middle school will be like and how many friends we will make as we weave through the halls to get to our very first locker. At 15, we dream of our first kiss and what our first slow dance song with our crush will be. Fast forward a few years and we're dreaming of college and getting outside the walls of our inevitably terrible high school. We reach college, then the dreaming stops.

We get stuck in a whirlwind of assignments and finding our footing in the real world of living away from our parents, picking up payments we never had to before (like those dreaded $200 textbooks), and having to get a job on the side of it all to make sure we can actually support ourselves.

Everything becomes a chore. The only dreaming I see 20-something year olds doing lately is of taking a nap after a work shift or binging a new show on Netflix between assignments. Everything on their mind has become short-term, including their goals.

To that I say, grow up and get over your stress. This feeling of exhaustion will pass and when it does, you won't have a future planned out for you by your design. You're going to look in the horizon and see nothing but fog on your graduation day because you dragged your feet and worried too much about assignments you probably already forgot about. You're going to have no plan for yourself and that is going to be the worst stress you will ever experience.

I'm going to put this into context for you: I asked my writers to fill out a document with their contact information as well as a little bit about them so I can get to know them better and understand their motives with Odyssey. Some of them are English majors and are working on building their creative writing technique, while others are biology majors looking for an outlet to express some suppressed creativity.

Others vary in major but have no idea why they do what they do. In the column that reads "dream job," their answer remains "N/A." Their dreams are not available and I don't think it's because they don't know what they want to do, but rather they're scared of not achieving those dreams. When you speak your desires into existence, there's a pressure that you need to get to them so you don't look like a failure to everyone around you who knows what you had once wanted to do.

I don't blame people for being afraid, but as the cheesy saying goes, "Shoot for the moon and even if you don't make it, you'll land among the stars." If you shoot for mediocrity, well, you'll likely make it. Congrats?

The headline of this article is a little harsh, but I think tough-love is what makes people move. If you cradle someone, they will only ever want to be cradled. But when you push someone, they will eventually want you to stop doing it for them and they will begin to do it for themselves.

If you're someone stuck in life and haven't dreamed, please start doing so. This world is too dark to not create your own light. My dream is to become an editor of the New York Times. Will I make it? Who knows, but I'll certainly fight my hardest to get there and even if I never do, because I've worked so hard, I'm sure I'll land something great.

Don't be afraid of the future - just believe in yourself. You're bound to do great things if you put your mind to it and stop worrying about what others will think of you if your future doesn't pan out how you originally wanted it to. Work hard and everything will follow suit.

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When You Make A Girl An Aunt, You Change Her World In All The Best Ways

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest girl in the world.


My brother and his wife recently blessed our family with the sweetest bundle of joy on planet earth. OK, I may be a little bias but I believe it to be completely true. I have never been baby crazy, but this sweet-cheeked angel is the only exception. I am at an age where I do not want children yet, but being able to love on my nephew like he is my own is so satisfying.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a very protective person.

From making sure the car seat is strapped in properly before every trip, to watching baby boy breathe while he sleeps, you'll never meet someone, besides mommy and daddy of course, who is more concerned with the safety of that little person than me.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her a miniature best friend.

There is something about an aunt that is so fun. An aunt is a person you go to when you think you're in trouble or when you want something mom and dad said you couldn't have. An aunt is someone who takes you to get ice cream and play in the park to cool down after having a temper tantrum. I can't wait to be the one he runs to.

When you make a girl an aunt, she gets to skip on the difficulty of disciplining.

Being an aunt means you get to be fun. Not to say I wouldn't correct my nephew if he were behaving poorly, but for the most part, I get to giggle and play and leave the hard stuff for my brother.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her the best listening ears.

As of right now I only listen to the sweet coos and hungry cries but I am fully prepared to listen to all the problems in his life in the future.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the best advice giver.

By the time my nephew needs advice, hopefully, I will have all of my life lessons perfected into relatable stories.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a number-one fan

Anything you do in life sweet boy, I will be cheering you on. I already know you are going to do great things.

When you make a girl an aunt, she learns what true love is.

The love I have for my nephew is so pure. Its the love that is just there. I don't have to choose to show love every day, I don't have to forgive, I don't have to worry if it is reciprocated, it is just there.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest person in the world.

I cannot wait to watch my precious nephew grow into the amazing person that I know he is going to be.

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Why You Should Bring Your Close Friend As Your Formal Date

Before asking that cute girl to formal think about asking a friend


Every year since I was a junior in high school I have always looked forward to homecoming or prom. When I got to college I began to look forward to my fraternity formal. I was never concerned with what to wear or the expense of formal but rather who I was going to ask. It can be difficult to make a decision. If you ask anyone friends with me they will tell you how I am one of the most indecisive people out there. There are so many people I am friendly with or have a close relationship that it can feel difficult to make a decision. But let's look at that phrase again. You might think why does he want to bring someone who is his friend to his fraternity formal rather than someone he likes or is dating. To answer this question, some of the girls I have liked I have not been able to be the true me around and that also applies to the girls I have dated as well. I am different around my friends and I want someone to know the real me rather than me just having to pretend.

Maybe I am still experiencing the effects of a fun weekend but I have noticed that every formal or prom that I have brought a date with not only was a fun formal but interacted and connected well with my friends. That is the main thing I look for in a formal date, they need to be liked by my friends and many of them are still pretty friendly after the formal. You are spending the weekend with them and the drive down for you formal. There will be a lot of time spent with your date so it is important to bring someone you know you will have fun with. I am not saying that there isn't anything wrong with bringing someone else but I always found it best to bring a friend if you are not dating someone.

Think about the people you know you will always have fun with. This can be an indication of who you should bring and why but you should also think about the positives in this situation. Your fun and the time spent with the people should be prioritized before anything else. This event is about you and you should have someone with you that you know is fun to be around and someone you can enjoy yourself around along with your friends. Friends know you as well as you know yourself so there is not an idea of having to pretend to be someone else. The good thing about friends is that you do not run out of things to talk about and there is always something new to learn. Take your formal as a trip that you get to experience with the people closest to you. That is my take.

The key for me is to know that I will have fun with my date at formal. The drive to formal can be long and you are sharing a hotel room with your date along with spending time with them during the trip. I talk a lot. I want someone I know who I can carry a conversation with and will not just respond with words such as Yeah or Sounds good. I have always been able to remember not only my formals but specific parts of it as well. I think this is possible because of who I have brought and the memories I made with them.

Formals are important to everyone so think about who you want to spend that moment with. There is nothing wrong with bringing someone who you like but there also is nothing wrong with bringing a friend. Some people might bring someone they are dating but you should not have to compare yourself to other people. Do what makes you happy but remember this weekend is about you and you deserve to bring someone you will have fun with.

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