We've all been there. Something crazy happens in your life and all you want to do is tell that one person that you know you can't tell. Or, you had a rough day and there is only that one person pops into your head that you know can say just the right thing to make you smile again. So, instead of breaking the code of silence between you two, you begin to briefly browse their social media. That brief browse turns into being three years deep in their Instagram pictures and seeing old pictures of the two of you. You remember the happy times and forget all about the end just for a blissful moment.

You may wish things hadn't ended the way they did. Relationships are messy and they aren't perfect, so why would their endings be any different? This goes for not just romantic relationships but with best friends or even family members in some cases.

In my experience, closure after a separation from someone that you were close to and shared your life with does not happen. There will always be a longing sense of "what if" somewhere in the back of your mind, no matter how big or small that part is.

This is because, we, as humans, have a desire for the infinite. Unfortunately, we are stuck in a finite world, where things do come to end at some point. We will always want more, but we can't always get it. Why else do you continue to go check out their social media to see how they are doing or ask a mutual friend if they are happy?

It is natural to want more and to think about how things could have ended differently if it were not for certain circumstances or limitations. But unfortunately, people change and life sometimes gets in the way. But that is ok, some things just aren't meant to be. They fall apart so that better relationships and new memories can grow in their place.

So, you pick up the pieces, stop checking up on them and move on. You find someone else to talk to after you have that epic life moment or a rough day. Time fades and your thoughts of them begin to grow fewer and far between. This does not mean they are forgotten or that everything is settled. Relationships don't always end in a clean break and they aren't always given the settling closure you desire. However, life moves on, and so will you.