When we think we've found love we are faced with two options: accept this love or stray away from it. More times than many, fear conquers over us and we become scared, we become idle, we become ghost. Intentions that were never there turn into permeant actions that seem unfair. To you, no but to the other partner yes. Those actions dig dip and hit hard, they're left with heartbreak while we’re standing in “freedom”. We don’t see the problem because we are the problem. Those words that we spoke were never sincere, we sure played the part and sold those wonderful dreams. Unfair, it is, but it’s a process for us to realize what real love looks like. It’s our nervousness and fear combined into one so when we try to battle both as one, we grow scared. We feel the guilt but we never let the guilt feel us, we make it feel you.

Selfishness at its finest, it’s fucked up, but it’s like that.

Is it fair for us to feel guilty for protecting ourselves even if it means we will hurt someone else in the process? How do we expect to learn from our experiences if we force ourselves to stay in situations because we’re comfortable? Comfortability is a beauty and a curse, it will leave us fulfilled and also leave us empty. Once comfortability falls out of our lives, we begin to panic silently. We become lost and perplexed because we thought we knew this feeling, love — we were mistaken. The “let down” always hurts the most, but the “come up” is the most important. The beauty that we take from those mistakes and/or lessons will reveal who we are a person. We’ve all been here before, many times, the only difference with this heartbreak is the execution. Did we make the same mistake twice, or were we smarter than before? Self-evaluations combined with self-actualization, we have to know the difference between the two.

Love is the most beautiful yet scariest thing ever. It will look you right in your eyes and fulfill you, just like that. But we must remember that there are no rules to love. For we all love in different ways and cannot force a love that was never meant for us. So mistakes and heartbreaks will happen, but it’s a part of the process. This process is what allows you to grow and see who you really are, and what you ultimately want. That goes for both sides so, either way you’re both learning. It was never going to be easy or perfect the first time with someone new and that’s okay. But in that process you have to be willing to let that person go. Releasing someone of your selfish ways not only eliminates conflict but it makes room for a cordial relationship between you both (maybe). There was love lost but even more love gained.

Honesty is important.

It starts with you.

Are you ready to be fair?