You probably hear it a lot. The burning question that every family member wants to ask you at Christmas. The one thing you probably don't want to talk about.

"Do you have a boyfriend yet?"

Thanks for the reminder, but no. Don't worry, I'm not too sad about it because I'm not worried about my relationship status right now. At this point in my life, I'm focused on me. I think I'm allowed to be a little selfish when it comes to taking care of myself as I am entering into a completely new stage in my life. I'm learning how to take care of myself and I can't imagine trying to take care of someone else at the same time.

I know plenty of girls in relationships who are extremely happy, and I'm happy for them too. I'm not trying to say that single life is better, I'm just saying it's better for me right now. Before I commit to someone on a deeper level, I want to know who I am. College is the time to figure yourself out, so I think being alone isn't all that bad.

Of course, I do want to get married one day, but not anytime soon. I'm too realistic when it comes to my future to think that I'll get married right after I graduate college. Maybe I'll have a boyfriend who wants a future with me by then and maybe I won't. The point is, I have time to think about that and I see no point in worrying about it now.

Whatever your opinion on relationships is, there is something that we all have in common: we are not defined by our relationship status. We are so much more than that. Being single doesn't make me lame or "undateable," while girls in relationships aren't annoying or unrealistic.

I know sometimes it seems like being in a relationship is the most important thing in the world, but I can assure you, it's not. Magazines might try to convince you about the "23 reasons why you're single" or "how to get him to like you," but it's just a tactic to get you to buy the magazine. You must learn to believe in your own worth without a man.

Relationships are something that we get to enjoy in life, but not something that should be your only source of joy. Just think about the friendships that you have and the things you are working to accomplish. Think about your job, work ethic, sense of humor, etc. These things are what make you, you all on your own. When we start categorizing people by their relationship statuses, we seem to lose their individual traits that make them so amazing. I strongly believe that there are many unique things that define you, but your relationship status isn't one of them.