Nepotism Ruined School for Me

Nepotism Ruined School for Me

"Kids are experiencing this right now at this very second."

Nepotism is a major issue in schools, churches, political offices, and many other places where a lot of people expect fairness but receive none. In case you don't know the definition, nepotism happens among people with power who show favoritism towards friends or relatives by giving them special privileges, especially jobs.

I never knew the word for this until high school, but I do remember experiencing it when I was very young, maybe seven or eight. Many of my elementary school teachers would get away with leaving students out or even insulting them. My seventh grade teacher even voiced that she had favorites in her class, leaving many of us to wonder why she didn't like us and why she mistreated us. My mom hated her.

Major problems arose for a majority of my twelve years there with people who were far overdue for retirement. I had teachers and faculty complain about "having to deal with us" right in front of us and complained that they were "so ready to retire." Why would you say these things in front of children? Not only does it affect self esteem but makes school dreadful for them. Some of those people are still in their positions to this day and I am now a college freshman.

One thing that I always hated was when parents got privileges. Not all, but some of the people who participated in Parent Teacher Organizations were around the school all the time just to get close to the teachers and principals to get their student benefits like better grades or spots in the spelling bee and other petty things. This became a real issue in high school when parents began to target students. It shouldn't happen and I'm very surprised that no one has addressed the issue yet.

The reason I have addressed the issue in this article is for that very reason. Also, I'm sure very many people from my own school district and beyond have experienced the same issues. Teachers and faculty members are kept simply to fill positions and because they are related or close to someone. It should be made illegal, but those in power won't let that happen. We have those that partake in it and ignore it in their campaign, and then we have those who want to fight against it but get voted out by the participants of the act. Sorry, but I think when we have a parent hired as a girl's locker room assistant that trash talks girl's bodies and personalities, it's becoming a major issue that is border line creepy and mentally concerning. Why do we still hire grown women who think they're still in high school?

Despite my obvious hatred towards my own school district, I want everyone to focus on how we can resolve this issue. It is very real and very present and is affecting children all over the nation. Stop hiring incompetent staff simply because of their ties to administrators. Also, it doesn't help to "monitor" classrooms because that means that the kids get a brutal lecture right before the principal comes in to sit in on classes for maybe five minutes while the teacher fakes nice behavior. Maybe incorporate cameras and microphones in classroom building so you can capture the truth.

I dreaded going to school some days not only for the kids who gained their popularity from their parents but because I was left out and seen as an outsider since I was two towns over. There was nothing I could have possibly done to change how I was treated because it was far beyond my capabilities as a six-year-old all the way until I hit high school. Kids are experiencing this right now at this very second.

Make a change. Stop letting ridiculous things like nepotism happen in schools. We wonder why you have so many bullying issues. Kids are watching their parents and teachers act rude, so they do the same. Nepotism needs to end now, because it's already gone on long enough and caused too much damage.

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To My Future Students, This I Promise You

There is no fear when you choose love.

I write this with a heavy heart. A heart that cannot even put into words the grief and sorrow that I am feeling for those that have lost their loved ones just because they attended school one day. It absolutely breaks me that one cannot go teach the next generation or get an education without having to fear for their lives. As a future educator, I know that I could easily give up on pursuing education so that I won't have to hug my loved ones extra tight before driving to school each day. But that is not what's going to happen. I am not going to give up on my students and the education that each of them deserve. I am not going to be scared and constantly worry. So for my future students, this one's for you.

What you will learn in my classroom will not just be about academics. You will learn social and emotional skills. You will learn what it's like to talk to others about how you are feeling and be fully aware of how much those around you care. I am not going to let you forget just how valuable each of you are. I know that social skills in the classroom will help each of you become better in tune with your mental health, so why not start on the elementary level. I know that right now, you are children. But one day, you will be old enough to purchase a gun or let your mental health take a toll on you. As you grow up, you will start to notice how hard life is, and how sometimes it can feel like fighting is not worth it. But you are loved and you are not alone. That is what I want to teach you, above anything else.

I know that I am not Superwoman. There is absolutely no way for me to prevent school shootings from happening. But I will fight for each and every one of you. I will give every piece of me and do what I can to keep you safe, smiling, and healthy. I am aware that I am one person and that I do not have all the answers. But earning your trust and getting to know every single one of you will be my very greatest goal.

You all are in my prayers already. Even thought I am still two years away from receiving my license to teach, I am already praying for protection and love for each student that enters my future classrooms. I do not want to imagine trying to hide a large number of you in a closet. But if something ever happens, I will be as prepared as one can be. Your young lives come before mine, no matter what.

I am thrilled to teach you about life and the world around you one day. You have no idea how passionate I am about my future career. News reports are not going to change that. I am praying for a change and looking towards hope for the future. But no matter what, I promise that I will not give up on you guys.

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Why I Chose To Not Graduate Early

I needed more time in college to develop my skills through internships, learn more about my future profession, and explore what I want to do after graduation.

As the first semester of my junior year was underway and the time to schedule for spring semester came close, I decided to look at what remaining requirements I needed for my major and minor. I was shocked to find out that I was nearly done with all the requirements. I would be done with my major and minor after spring semester and would just need to take a couple of classes during the May semester to get my degree and graduate. While it would be great to graduate early and save money, something made me pause. I didn't feel ready to graduate. Not when it felt like I've barely completed college.

My original plan after figuring out whether to graduate early or find a way to meaningfully fill up my remaining year was to add a second minor. Even then, I would still be placed at graduating a semester early; while at first, I thought this might be a good idea, I started having second thoughts. What would I do with my apartment lease if I had to move somewhere else for a job? Was it really worth it to graduate at an "awkward" time? After much debate and stress, I decided to stay for a full fourth-year and add a second degree.

Some people would jump at the opportunity to graduate early; no classes, no tuition, total freedom into adulthood. I, however, didn't feel ready. Going to college has definitely helped me to grow up and learn about what life on my own would be like, I couldn't imagine graduating a whole year early and entering the workforce. I couldn't imagine trying to find a job with little experience and no clear-cut vision on my career path. Graduating early wouldn't have helped me, even if it did mean saving money; it just wasn't' the right choice for me. I needed more time in college to develop my skills through internships, learn more about my future profession, and explore what I want to do after graduation.

Adding a second major rather than graduating early is not something I regret at all. I chose to add my double major in journalism since I really enjoy writing. So far, I am enjoying all my courses and learning more about a field that ties closely with my other major, centered around public relations. Adding a second major has opened my eyes to more career paths I can take after graduation and makes me think that I may be interested in involving journalism to my post-grad life. While my decision to not graduate early might cost money, the experiences I'll gain will help to repay that debt and make it worth it.

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