7 Things You Need To Do Alone At Least Once In Your 20s

7 Things You Need To Do Alone At Least Once In Your 20s

Doing things alone will make you feel rejuvenated like you wouldn't believe.

One time I wanted to go see a movie and none of my friends could go with me. I decided to go on my own. The experience was euphoric. At this point in my life, I am definitely used to being on my own and not waiting on anyone to have life experiences. The independence and self-reliance is an integral part of who I am.

While I love people, I have always been the type of person that enjoys being on my own. Being alone makes me feel free. Maybe I'm a little abnormal in that respect, but there's sort of a magical element in being alone. As a slight introvert, I thrive and re-energize by being alone. I still love interacting with people, but I relish the time I have to myself- it doesn't drain my energy. It's not healthy to be on your own all the time, but there are things worth trying to do on your own. Try doing these things in your 20's on your own and see how it opens your eyes and freshens your perspective.

1. Go see a movie

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As I mentioned, seeing a movie by yourself is awesome. Perhaps you're still around people, but you can choose who you engage with. Instead of being in your bed with a computer, you're just watching a new film on the big screen. You don't even have to share the popcorn.

2. Take a road trip

Road Trip

Nothing will refresh your mind and renew your spirit like driving an open road to a new destination. If it makes you nervous, just have your phone with you and share your location with someone you trust. There are always people you can check in with. Any sort of travel on your own is eye-opening and invigorating, really.

3. Eat out

Eat Out

I know, I know. I'm crazy for putting this on the list. I actually love eating out on my own. I typically don't go to a restaurant where they wait on you, but I'm happy to run by Chipotle and grab a burrito bowl on my own. Try it- people watching can be especially fascinating.

4. Exercise by doing yoga or hiking


I feel motivated to do an exercise like yoga or hiking in a group, but it's also nice to talk yourself through yoga and use your own playlist or enjoy nature. You can make yoga as simple or complex as you want and no one will judge you if you don't hold that plank super long. When hiking, you can take as long as you need to appreciate the environment you're in and process through any thoughts you have.

5. Learn a new skill or pick up a new hobby

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Pick a skill you've been wanting to learn or try. Maybe it's knitting. Find a YouTube video that shows you how! Maybe you want to start scrapbooking your old travel adventures. Go buy the supplies and start! It can be something you do just for yourself.

6. De-clutter your space


The best person to go through your stuff is you. It may not be fun, but it's practical and productive. Enjoy going through your all your things and reminiscing about all your memories.

7. Do a night in for just you

Night In

A treat yo' self night where you intentionally just spend time with yourself can look so many different ways. Cook for yourself and watch your favorite Netflix show. Take some time to journal and spend some time in prayer. Enjoy a warm bath and glass of wine. Do all of the above! Relish the freedom you have to process through the season of life you are in, wherever you're at.

I hope if you try a couple of these things that you get to know yourself better and learn more about who you are. Be real with yourself. Only you can stop yourself from new experiences. Taking the time to truly enjoy who you are can help make you the type of person that is kind and willing to give time to other people. I can't wait for you to experience that.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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Clutter affects your physical, emotional, and psychological health.


If you're aware that your cluttered space is causing you stress and discomfort, it might be helpful to understand how and why clutter affects our health. When we clear our space we are more likely to feel at ease, relaxed, and tranquil. There is no better time to freshen your space than at the start of the new year when we are already setting new intentions and re-assessing goals and putting new ideas into motion.

1. Clutter produces dust and exacerbates allergies


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2. Lack of organization in your belongings leads to stress and anxiety


I know I'm not the only one who has had the experience of needing an item before running out the door, only to realize it wasn't where you left it...and now you need to tear apart your entire room looking for it. Sound familiar? Having too much clutter leads to a disorganized space that provokes anxiety and stress and can have a strong, negative impact on your day to day life. Whoever came up with, "a place for everything and everything in its place" was definitely onto something.

3. Clutter puts your nervous system in overdrive


Cluttered environments are taxing on the nervous system. The sensory overload prevents us from being able to relax and rest, and keeps us activated in our sympathetic nervous system, AKA "fight or flight". This means we're more likely to be on edge and hyper-aware than calm and relax when at home.

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Our brains thrive off of order and organization. When things are disordered and chaotic around us, it's natural to feel irritable and frustrated in response, lowering mood and reducing our self-esteem and self-worth. Rather than thinking about the things you want to get rid of when de-cluttering, focus on what things you want to keep and what you want to have in your immediate environment.

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