Navigating An LDR In Your Early 20's

Navigating An LDR In Your Early 20's

Skype is definitely your friend.

At 9:00 on a Thursday night while everyone else is pre-gaming to go out on campus I'm in my room cozy with my laptop and cell phone. No, I'm not watching Netflix or checking Facebook, I'm either Skyping or on the phone with my boyfriend stationed in another state. It's not always easy living nearly 9 hours from each other, though it is better than when he was in another country this time last year. At 20 all my friends are spending the night with their S/O's or going out on dates while I'm happy for a phone call. It's not always fun but it is doable. Here's 8 tips to make long distance work in your early 20's.

1. Communicate, communicate, communicate.

Don't be afraid to talk to each other about what's really on your mind or if somethings bothering you. A lack of communication when you're already so far apart from one another can be your downfall.

2. Be realistic about travel.

When you're young you tend to be broke. Being broke means you might not always be able to afford a visit no matter how badly you may want to. Sometimes it might be too long or hard to drive but flying is pretty pricey. Don't even get me started on trying to find enough time between work and class. Having realistic expectations will make your life so much easier.

3. Be familiar with your phone or computer.

If you have either they're likely going to be your main forms of communication. When you can't actually see each other phone calls, texts and Skype dates will become very important to you.

4. Make your conversations meaningful.

Don't stop keeping each other up to date on your lives just because you aren't seeing each other every day. Your conversations should probably be a little more in depth than just "What's up?".

5. Make time for each other.

Take time out of your busy schedules to respond to that text, answer that phone call or make that drive. A night in video chatting with your SO may end up being even better than that night out at the bar.

6. Don't let your jealousy get in the way.

It's easy to be jealous of the people who get to see them on the daily basis when you can't. Don't let that cause unnecessary problems for you, neither of you should have to completely put your life on hold just because you're apart.

7. Do the little things.

I had a bad night so he attempted to go online from eight hours away to order my favorite Chinese restaurant for me and my roommate, pay for it and have it delivered to us. Something was wrong with the website so it didn't quite work but it really is the thought that counts. It was enough to remind me how lucky I am and completely turn my night around.

8. Don't give up.

There will be times things get really hard and you question if you're happy just from the stress of not seeing one another. Don't give up, I promise it'll all be worth it in the long run.

Cover Image Credit: Pinterest

Popular Right Now

14 Fraternity Guy Gifts Ideas, Since He Already Has Enough Beer

Frat boys are a species of their own and here are some exciting gifts they will be ecstatic to receive!


What more do frat boys love than alcohol, partying, and just acting stupid? Here are some gifts that help fulfill all of those needs for the frat boy in your life!

1. Beer holster belt

Whats better than one beer? Six beers! This fashionable camouflage accessory can be used for tailgates, beach days, formals and everything in between.

Price: $8.49

2. Phone juul holder 

You know those cardholders everyone sticks on the back of their phones? Well, now a Juul holder for your phone is on the market! This will save your favorite frat boy from ever again losing his Juul!

Price: $10.98

3. Animal house poster 

This Animal House poster is a classic staple for any frat boy. This poster will compliment any frat house decor or lack thereof.

Price: $1.95

4. The American Fraternity book

Does the frat boy in your life need a good read for Thanksgiving or winter break? Look no farther, this will certainly keep his attention and give him a history lesson on American fraternity heritage and tradition.

Price: $28.46

5. Beer pong socks 

These snazzy socks featuring beer pong will be loved by any frat boy. As for the way to any frat boy's heart may, in fact, be beer pong.

Price: $12.00

6. Condom case

This condom carrying case will not only protect condoms from damage but also make frat boys more inclined to practice safe sex, which is a win-win situation!

Price: $9.99

7. Frat house candle

Ahhh yes, who does not like the smell of stale beer in a dark, musty frat house basement? Frat boys can make their apartment or bedroom back home smell like their favorite place with the help of this candle.

Price: $16.99

8. "Frat" sticker

Frat boys always need to make sure everyone around them knows just how "fratty" they are. This versatile stick can go on a laptop, car, water bottle, or practically anywhere their little hearts desire.

Price: $6.50

9. Natty Light t-shirt 

Even I will admit that this shirt is pretty cool. The frat boy in your life will wear this shirt at every possible moment, it is just that cool!

Price: $38.76-$41.11

10. Natty light fanny pack 

This fanny pack can absolutely be rocked by any frat boy. The built-in koozie adds a nice touch.

Price: $21.85

11. Bud Light Neon Beer Sign 

A neon beer sign will be the perfect addition to any frat boys bedroom.

Price: $79.99

12. Beer Opener

Although most frat boys' go to beers come in cans, this bottle opener will be useful for those special occasions when they buy nicer bottled beers.

Price: $7.99

13. Frat House Dr. Sign

Price: $13.99

Forget stealing random street signs, with this gift frat boys no longer have to do so.

14. Beer Lights 

Lights are an essential for any party and these will surely light up even the lamest parties.

Price: $17.19

Please note that prices are accurate and items in stock as of the time of publication. As an Amazon Associate, Odyssey may earn a portion of qualifying sales.

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

It's Only November, DO NOT Cue The Christmas Music

"Why are people so quick to switch gears from October 31... to November 1st?"


As I write this article it is early November. Crazy how we are already into November. For those of you who have two different personalities from Halloween to November 1, this is for you. Do not cue Christmas music in early November.

November is a really beautiful month if you take the time to appreciate it. Leaves continue to change, the temperature starts to drop, which means more coffee and hot chocolate! The NJEA convention is in early November, if you're an educator, future one, or if you're a current student, you are off these days, and of course, everyone is off for Thanksgiving. A time to celebrate what we are thankful for with our friends and family. Tables full of hot soups to warm our chilly bodies, turkey, creamy mashed potatoes, stuffing, sweet cranberry sauce, an array of pies and desserts, you name it.

So why are people so quick to switch gears from October 31, a time to dress up, trick or treat and attend Halloween parties, to November 1st, a time that has become all about Black Friday and Christmas? We've lost the meaning of Thanksgiving. In my opinion, stores should not be open on Thanksgiving Day. As mentioned it's a day to spend with family. You can shop for those best deals and stand in line for hours the following day and days leading up to Christmas.

We live in a time where everyone is busy with their own lives and family, and it's difficult to get together with everyone's schedules. So on Thanksgiving, it's the perfect time to surround yourself with family and friends, enjoying a meal together, counting your blessings, showing gratitude and appreciation, and catching up on everyone's lives. Truly a day of Thanksgiving!

So I encourage all of you to prepare for Thanksgiving and focus on family, friends, and gratitude. Next time someone talks about Black Friday or Christmas before Thanksgiving, stand your ground, make your voice and the holiday of Thanksgiving be heard.

Related Content

Facebook Comments