Navigating An LDR In Your Early 20's

Navigating An LDR In Your Early 20's

Skype is definitely your friend.

At 9:00 on a Thursday night while everyone else is pre-gaming to go out on campus I'm in my room cozy with my laptop and cell phone. No, I'm not watching Netflix or checking Facebook, I'm either Skyping or on the phone with my boyfriend stationed in another state. It's not always easy living nearly 9 hours from each other, though it is better than when he was in another country this time last year. At 20 all my friends are spending the night with their S/O's or going out on dates while I'm happy for a phone call. It's not always fun but it is doable. Here's 8 tips to make long distance work in your early 20's.

1. Communicate, communicate, communicate.

Don't be afraid to talk to each other about what's really on your mind or if somethings bothering you. A lack of communication when you're already so far apart from one another can be your downfall.

2. Be realistic about travel.

When you're young you tend to be broke. Being broke means you might not always be able to afford a visit no matter how badly you may want to. Sometimes it might be too long or hard to drive but flying is pretty pricey. Don't even get me started on trying to find enough time between work and class. Having realistic expectations will make your life so much easier.

3. Be familiar with your phone or computer.

If you have either they're likely going to be your main forms of communication. When you can't actually see each other phone calls, texts and Skype dates will become very important to you.

4. Make your conversations meaningful.

Don't stop keeping each other up to date on your lives just because you aren't seeing each other every day. Your conversations should probably be a little more in depth than just "What's up?".

5. Make time for each other.

Take time out of your busy schedules to respond to that text, answer that phone call or make that drive. A night in video chatting with your SO may end up being even better than that night out at the bar.

6. Don't let your jealousy get in the way.

It's easy to be jealous of the people who get to see them on the daily basis when you can't. Don't let that cause unnecessary problems for you, neither of you should have to completely put your life on hold just because you're apart.

7. Do the little things.

I had a bad night so he attempted to go online from eight hours away to order my favorite Chinese restaurant for me and my roommate, pay for it and have it delivered to us. Something was wrong with the website so it didn't quite work but it really is the thought that counts. It was enough to remind me how lucky I am and completely turn my night around.

8. Don't give up.

There will be times things get really hard and you question if you're happy just from the stress of not seeing one another. Don't give up, I promise it'll all be worth it in the long run.

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A Thank You To My Boyfriend's Family

Because you are so important to him, you are important to me.

This one isn't easy to sit down and write because nothing I could say would do all of you justice in the way that I would hope I could. These are just words, but I hope that I am able to always show my thank you to you by treating him like the prince he is.

I can replay the moment of meeting each and every one of you all over and over in my head like it was yesterday. I was so extremely nervous every single time and I was trying to gather all the "right" things to say that would leave a good, first-lasting impression and that at the end of the day, you all would like me.

I think one of the most important basis and hopes in my relationship is that my significant other's family likes who I am. This is so important to me because whatever is important to him is equally important to me and your thoughts of me are crucial to our relationship.

The second I walked in the door, I was overwhelmed—overwhelmed with such a love. I had no idea at that point in time just how much you would all mean to me and how thankful I am for all of you!

Thank you for constantly making me laugh and feel at home.

Whenever I'm coming over for a family gathering or just to hang out, I know right off that I am walking into a world of laughter and good times are right beside that. You are all so entertaining and always have a good story to tell me. I can't name one time where I didn't feel like I was home.

And I appreciate the sweet, embarrassing photos and stories about my boyfriend that you all share with me! Even if it is by a photo, I have a glimpse of what his life has always been like thanks to each and every one of you individually.

Thank you for sharing your special moments in life with me.

You don't ever have to, but you invite me anyway. Whether it's just a family gathering, a birthday, or a holiday, I am thankful to have spent those times celebrating these moments in life alongside such amazing people. It's humbling and heartwarming to be a part of memories so unforgettable that you all share and that you have welcomed me to be a part of. They are days that I will never forget and have a place in my heart forever.

Thank you for always being there for him.

Since we have started dating, I have watched the way that you guys love him. I have watched the individual relationships and moments that you share with him make a difference in who he is. I have seen you all love and support him, no matter what he was doing.

With everything that comes along in life, this has been a simple reminder of an unconditional, loving, sacrificing family that is also the best support system. You are not only impacting him, but me, too.

Thank you for welcoming me in like your own.

Whenever you have to brave up and meet your significant other's family, I can say, for myself, that I didn't know what to expect. As I'm sure, none of you did when meeting me. Today, I catch myself wondering why I even worried in the first place. You all have welcomed me in your own ways and made me feel right at home. It is not always easy to do that with just anyone, but you have all taken the time to get to know me. And now I know that if I ever needed anything, I can call one of you.

Thank you for letting me date him.

I am most thankful for this. Thank you for sharing him with me and giving me a chance to show you all how important he is to me. I never thought that I would luck out and meet someone as special, kind, and wonderful as he is, but I did.

You have supported our relationship, given me a chance to love him, and welcomed me to new adventures in love and family. I have the upmost gratitude for each of you. You are the most wonderful, welcoming, and loving family. I am overjoyed to be able to experience just a glimpse of this life with him and with all of you.

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Facebook, I'm Sorry For The Harsh Break-Up, Will You Take Me Back?

I never thought I'd want to get back with you but here I am.


FB. Such old friends.

Yet, we meet again.

I didn't think I'd ever scroll on you once IG and snap came along.

Now I'm getting bored and I want you back.

I dumped you so easily for the new and improved and I'm sorry.

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I see more than just a 10-second picture when I'm with you.

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Instead, I am filled with facts, updates, anniversaries, and birthdays.

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Job opportunities and even shopping.

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So with that, I'm sorry IG and Snap but my heart belongs to FB now.

Forever and always.


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