I have mixed feelings on fraternities. On one hand I think that the relationships fraternities create between brothers is really cool, but I also feel like the mentality of some men in the Fraternity system is messed up.

For example, quite a few guys in fraternities typically start to feel entitled because they pay to be in an 'exclusive' club. At parties they feel they somewhat entitled to the girls there, because after all it is their house, their party,theiralcohol, and therefore they (the women) are theirgirls.

Now I really want to emphasize not all fraternities are like this, and not all members of the fraternities are like this. I’ve actually met a lot guys that seriously care about their fraternity, their fraternities standing, and reputation they have. But as always the bad seems to outweigh the good.

If a girl says she had a bad experience at one of the fraternities party, members of that fraternity will call her, excuse my language but, a b*tch. "She’s just hating on the fraternity probably because a guy didn’t pay attention to her," or "she showed up late and didn’t get enough alcohol." These are lame excuses that are made to pin the problem on the girls. The guys running the party never thought that maybe she didn’t have a good time because the guys at the party might have groped her or mistreated her.

I once over heard a conversation among a few members of the same fraternity saying that a certain sorority on campus was a “hunting ground” for one of their brothers. When I heard that I was sick to my stomach. They likened girls to deer or some type of animal that can be preyed on. The fact that "hunting ground" was even in their vocabulary made my skin crawl.

I was absolutely repulsed.

Then I overheard the same boys in the fraternity say the name of a guy I knew. He was in the same fraternity as them and I knew him because he lived in the same dorm building as me my freshman year. The man they were referring to, in my opinion, was a really nice, funny, great guy.

One of the guys that I was eavesdropping on said, "Girls assume I'm a douche, but I ain't the S**** T**** type." And the other guys agreed with him saying that the guy they were referring to was a 'douche' and a 'tool'. So much for brotherhood. They openly trash talked one of their brothers without even caring who might have over heard it.

The mentality that some of these men have is just disgusting. If being in a fraternity isn’t about the bond and unity it creates among the brothers, then the only purpose for it is to party, get drunk and have sex with girls.

Once again I would like to reiterate that I know plenty of great guys that are in fraternities. All the ones I associate with on a regular basis are really nice, cool people––I wouldn’t even talk to them if I thought they were trash.

But the fact is that you never hear about the good guys. You never hear about the guy that walked me four streets down the block to my car to make sure I got there okay. Or the guy that drove my drunk friend to her dorm, passed her off to her friends, and left without even trying to kiss her goodnight, let alone hook up with her. Or even the guy that helped me convince my friend that she had too much to drink and it was time for her to go home.

Sometimes I think fraternities are just a place for guys to get girls drunk and hook up with them. But those thoughts quickly leave when I'm with the guys who are genuinely great people and out shine the negative stereotypes.