Is it just me or is dating as a Millennial difficult? Maybe I'm the only one that feels this way or maybe I just keep meeting the same kind of guy which if that's the case then you can just say “Oh that Melissa, she's just single… what's new?". But if I'm not alone and I'm telling the truth then all of us should gather for a pizza party where we fix dating… (I'm not being serious… there's no way this is happening but I do want pizza now) But seriously with all these dating apps filled with selfies and one-liners in place of actual information about a person, dating has kind of become like scrolling through a catalog and picking out a person. You could vibe really well with the person or it could be an epic fail. And when it does, people just go back to shopping.

Do Guys Know What A Date Is?

I don't wanna hang out with you on your couch and watch movies. If we're not in an established relationship or even at least friends, basically if I don't know you enough/aren't comfortable enough I'm not coming to your house. And no that doesn't make me shy or a prude it means I watch the news and am being safe. It also means I know that we live in a hookup world and I'm a relationship type of girl.

Stop being so vague!

This kind of ties into the first one but like if you want an actual date/relationship say that. If all you want is some action (I don't know why I used that word… oh well) say that! Just be honest and accept my response.

Be. Honest.

This all could have been one bullet… oops. But I digress... Guys, if you're listening let me say something. A woman would appreciate you being honest with her over trying to not hurt her feelings. Yes you losing interest will hurt me, yes you liking someone else will hurt me, yes it's gonna hurt but you know what hurts more? Being lied to. Being ignored and ghosted and left without an explanation as to what happened. Having to tell yourself over and over that him losing interest had nothing to do with you while in the back of your mind never believing it… So yeah… I'd rather you just be like I don't want you anymore because at least you communicated to me.

This is for Tinder Boys… Don't you at least want to know my last name?

Honestly, some guys only message you saying “dtf”? As in that is their entire message, three letters; d… t… f. Or asking if you'll do something. You don't know me from some random woman on the street and you're inviting me into your home and bed? That doesn't seem weird to you? I don't know maybe I'm just an old fashioned lady that needs to go knit but I'm not down with that.

Here’s what I would like to see happen… We need to go back to people asking people out on actual dates, being friends first, getting to know a person. I see some of my peers with relationships like this and I know that it is possible. It may be old fashioned but I think it works.

Today's food for thought:

Put down your phones and experience the now