I Have A Few Problems With Dating In 2017

I Have A Few Problems With Dating In 2017

I mean is it just me or...?

Is it just me or is dating as a Millennial difficult? Maybe I'm the only one that feels this way or maybe I just keep meeting the same kind of guy which if that's the case then you can just say “Oh that Melissa, she's just single… what's new?". But if I'm not alone and I'm telling the truth then all of us should gather for a pizza party where we fix dating… (I'm not being serious… there's no way this is happening but I do want pizza now) But seriously with all these dating apps filled with selfies and one-liners in place of actual information about a person, dating has kind of become like scrolling through a catalog and picking out a person. You could vibe really well with the person or it could be an epic fail. And when it does, people just go back to shopping.

Do Guys Know What A Date Is?

I don't wanna hang out with you on your couch and watch movies. If we're not in an established relationship or even at least friends, basically if I don't know you enough/aren't comfortable enough I'm not coming to your house. And no that doesn't make me shy or a prude it means I watch the news and am being safe. It also means I know that we live in a hookup world and I'm a relationship type of girl.

Stop being so vague!

This kind of ties into the first one but like if you want an actual date/relationship say that. If all you want is some action (I don't know why I used that word… oh well) say that! Just be honest and accept my response.

Be. Honest.

This all could have been one bullet… oops. But I digress... Guys, if you're listening let me say something. A woman would appreciate you being honest with her over trying to not hurt her feelings. Yes you losing interest will hurt me, yes you liking someone else will hurt me, yes it's gonna hurt but you know what hurts more? Being lied to. Being ignored and ghosted and left without an explanation as to what happened. Having to tell yourself over and over that him losing interest had nothing to do with you while in the back of your mind never believing it… So yeah… I'd rather you just be like I don't want you anymore because at least you communicated to me.

This is for Tinder Boys… Don't you at least want to know my last name?

Honestly, some guys only message you saying “dtf”? As in that is their entire message, three letters; d… t… f. Or asking if you'll do something. You don't know me from some random woman on the street and you're inviting me into your home and bed? That doesn't seem weird to you? I don't know maybe I'm just an old fashioned lady that needs to go knit but I'm not down with that.

Here’s what I would like to see happen… We need to go back to people asking people out on actual dates, being friends first, getting to know a person. I see some of my peers with relationships like this and I know that it is possible. It may be old fashioned but I think it works.

Today's food for thought:

Put down your phones and experience the now
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6 Important Must Knows For Dating Sassy And Sarcastic Girls

Brace yourselves boys, she's a tough one.

Dating a girl with a big personality can be tricky. They are some of the most amazing girls but to keep them, one needs to understand them. Here are six important things you must be aware of before you give your heart to a sassy and sarcastic girl.

1. Stubborn

She is going to be the most stubborn creature you will ever meet. I say "creature" because she might actually scare you with how much she refuses to back down until you have full proof she is wrong. And if you can’t prove her wrong, just suck up your pride and let her be right or she’ll never quit. But just remember that she’s simply passionate about whatever it is and you should be proud of her for that.

2. Bluntness

She is going to be blunt. So be prepared to hear the truth. She isn’t going to care how mad you get, if you’re being rude, she won’t be afraid to put you in your place. If your choice of clothing isn’t matching, she’ll tell you. Whatever it is, she isn’t going to keep the truth from you. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes she’s just a little too straightforward.

3. Sensitivity

Be careful sometimes with your choice of words. Though she is blunt, she is also sensitive. Her sarcastic personality is sometimes just a defense mechanism because she fears opening up. She worries a lot and continues to ponder the things you say. Remind her she is loved.

4. Friends

She is going to have a lot more guy friends than she will have girl friends. Why? Because guys tend to find more humor in her sarcasm and don’t take it so personal, whereas other girls take it as she’s being serious and just rude. However, don’t be jealous because trust me, you’re 100 percent hers and those guy friends are just that — friends.

5. Insults

She’s not going to flirt with you by giggling and blushing and calling you cute. She’s going to call you an idiot and smack you across the shoulder or back because to her, that’s easier than being all giddy and speechless over how much she likes you. And even when she’s calling you names, which really is in all fun and games, she doesn’t mean it seriously, she’s actually just saying “I love you” in her own special language.

6. Shorty

If she’s short in addition to being sassy and sarcastic, you’re in for a big treat with her. She is not only going to be full of fast wit, but she is going to have so much spunk in her you won’t know what to do. She will be so feisty that she won’t be afraid of anything or anyone and you yourself won’t even know how to handle her. That’s what makes her special.

It takes a certain type of person to be able to give their heart to someone who can so easily break it with their strong headed personality. But a sarcastic and sassy girl is going to be the one girl who is going to love you with all that she has. Treat her right, and she’ll treat you right.

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To The Friend I Rarely See Anymore

I wish you nothing but the best.


When we graduated high school, we thought it was the end for us. The distance would ruin us and we wouldn't be able to call ourselves friends. Thankfully, you were my rock for the first year of school. You were the one I turned to when the adjustment was hard or when I needed someone to talk to and just listen. We never lost our connection for a whole year. We proved that nothing could pull us apart no matter how far the distance, no matter the different schedules. We were still best friends.

Another summer came and we only got stronger. We went on countless beach trips, late night hangouts, and Starbucks runs. I didn't even think it was possible to be this much closer to you than we already were. If we weren't together, we would Snapchat or text to never stop the conversation.

Now summer ended, we didn't think twice about losing our connection this time. We had a bond stronger than anyone could fathom. We once again went our separate ways and kept our texting and Snapchat habits.

But something changed.

It must've been the comfort level of sophomore year. It must've been all the new friends we got. It must have been the boys who entered our lives. We don't speak anymore. I haven't seen you since winter break. I haven't texted you since New Year's Eve. Our connection, one that was once thought to be indestructible, came crumbling down with sophomore year. I am not going to lie, sophomore year was the best of my life, but I knew you were missing the whole time. It wasn't the same without you.

I'm not upset you chose to focus your time and life on your new boyfriend. I am happy for you. I am not upset you spend more time with your school friends. I am happy for you. I am not upset you don't text me anymore and killed our streak. I know you're living a happy life. And I am too.

We may have gone our separate ways like we never imagined, but I am happy you are finally happy. Don't forget for one second that I will always be here for you. I will still always answer your text. I will still always be your shoulder to cry on even when no one else is there for you. I wish you nothing but the best, and I hope you're doing ok.

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