My Parents Are Going Blind

My Parents Are Going Blind

How I came to terms with my parent’s inevitable disease.
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This is something that I do not really talk about with other people. In fact, it is something that I do not really think about when I am by myself. Why? Because it reminds me that my parents might not see me walk across the stage when I graduate in two years. It reminds me that my parents might be able to see me on my wedding day or see what their grandchildren will look like one day. It sounds depressing but this is slowly becoming my reality.

So what do you do when what has been known as the status quo is about to suddenly change? How do you adjust yourself and make yourself comfortable with your new reality?

It is not easy and I can tell you honestly that I am still in the process of understanding. However, what I can say is that this is something that you have to actively think about in order to come to terms with. If you are not actively thinking about the topic, then when the event occurs, you will be thrown completely off guard. Thus, just like with most things in life, you have to plan.

You have to plan how to be okay with this major change. For me personally, a huge part of my understanding stems from making sure that up until my parents can see, they get to see as much of life that they possibly can. Taking them to places that they have always wanted to visit and having them experience things that they always wanted to experience was really important. Besides that, just trying to live as happy as we can in these next, critical few years is my only goal and wish.

Apart from that, I think the one thing that I have learned from having to deal with my parents evitable fate is that sometimes things happen in life that you have absolutely no control over. And it sucks. But what everyone can do every day is not take life and the things that you have for granted. Live life to the fullest and be grateful every step along the way. You never know when those things will be taken from you. So just live, be happy and whatever else happens, leave that up to fate or God or whatever you believe in. Its all you can really do.

I do want to add that if coping with these types of difficult situations is more difficult to you than it has proven to be for me, then I definitely suggest talking to someone about what you are feeling. 😊

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.
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Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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Why I Appreciate My Parents So Much

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One thing I've noticed, the older I've gotten, is how much I appreciate my parents.

We've become so close, it's almost funny to think at one point I looked at them so much differently. When I was younger, my parents were much more strict than they are now. They disciplined differently and didn't let me do certain things. The older I've gotten, the more freedom I've gotten, which is one big sigh of relief.

My parents are such great people. Throughout my whole life, I've always had friends of parents or people who know my parents tell me how great they both are. I'm so blessed to have been raised by them and to have gotten their characteristics.

My mom is so loving and generous, and she thinks of literally everyone else in her life before herself. She's smart and funny, and she is always there when I need someone to talk to. She's taught me how to be courteous, kind, funny (with her sense of humor), and most importantly, accepting towards others.

The older I get, the more I realize how similar I am to her. She's my favorite woman in the whole world. We understand each other.

My dad is a thoughtful, hilarious, wise, and helpful guy who has taught me so many lessons throughout the years. He always makes sure my finances are in order, even more than I do. He keeps me laughing with his funny stories and made-up songs that he sings. He always asks me how my day was every time I walk through the door. He is so adorable and thoughtful, and I'm so happy I got his wit and humor.

His smile lights up a room and I'm so happy I've been hearing his laugh and will continue to for the rest of my life.

Another great thing about my parents is that they've taught me what love looks like. They're so loving, kind, and patient towards each other. I've rarely ever seen them fight in my life. They still treat one another how they did when they first started dating. I have friends and know people whose parents aren't together, and I'm so lucky to say I can't imagine what that's like.

My parents complete each other; they are soulmates. I'm so lucky and appreciative that I get to have the honor of watching their love play out throughout their lives.

I'm so happy and thankful that these are the parents I ended up with. They're the best. I hope to be half of my parents when I become a parent myself.

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