My Dreams Aren't My Dreams Anymore

My Dreams Aren't My Dreams Anymore

When life throws you a curveball (and it will throw many), don't be afraid to try to hit it.

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I remember I used to have a set plan for my life. I wanted to graduate from a good college with a degree in dance, travel the world before I move up to New York City and dance for a living. I planned on finding a guy that I would be married to by at least age 28 (after I've been in the workforce for a few years and established myself financially). I wouldn't have kids. I would be happy and living comfortably, touring the world and never being too stressed with an early retirement on the horizon.

Boy, I had big dreams.

But as I enter my senior year, my life plan is becoming less and less picturesque. I never thought that I'd also be pursuing degrees in Journalism and Theatre. I never imagined wanting to do anything else but move to New York but now, other options are becoming present and are both more attainable and ideal for my situation. It's hard to let go of the life you dreamt of since you were in grade school; the plan that you came up with down to even the smallest of details. It's a bit scary because for once in my life, I don't have a response to "what do you want to do with your life?"

Life is funny like that; you could want something so hard for so long and then, in an instant, you could want something else that's completely different from your dream. Don't get me wrong, I would still love to travel and move to New York and dance but maybe not in the way I thought I wanted it.

This quarter-life crisis is something that I think everyone experiences and that's OK. You're just simply reevaluating what you want in order to be truly happy. Depending on what and who you encounter can completely affect your entire trajectory of life. Maybe you find your person earlier than expected (or later). Maybe you discover that the job you've been pining for for years isn't what you thought it would be. Perhaps you find a cause that you find yourself heavily invested in. Maybe you lose a loved one or have a child which changes how you live.

That's the beautiful yet crazy thing about life. We can't completely plan what happens. Yes, we can have ideal sketches of how our life will turn out but ultimately, the future is unknown and we just have to roll with the punches and keep discovering ourselves as individuals and then applying what we find to create our lives. Now, I'm not saying to completely give up and sit in a room and wait for something to happen. I'm saying keep doing what you're doing and when life throws you a curveball (and it will throw many), don't be afraid to try to hit it. Just keep listening to what you feel works for you and what isn't working for you anymore. You'll find your fit eventually but until then, just enjoy the ride.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.
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Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.


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Dance Marathon Helped Me Understand What It Is That I Stand For

What do you stand for?

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The weekend of March 1, 2019, I stood for over 20 hours for the kids. Yep, I am not lying.

Dance Marathon at FSU is a 40-hour event split into two shifts of 20 hours. My freshman year, I earned sit times throughout the marathon, which I was incredibly thankful for, but this year was something totally different. I was on the internal team this year, which means, I worked behind the scenes of Dance Marathon since September. Since I was on the internal team, I did not get the opportunity to get the set times that I did the year prior. I was worried about this because I was not sure if I would be able to do it.

Spoiler Alert! I did it.

There were many times during the marathon where I thought that I could not stand much longer, but then some thoughts came into my mind. Who was I standing for? I was standing for the kids who had to get their leg amputated because they had osteosarcoma and could no longer stand on both legs. I was standing for the kids who are bound to their hospital beds right at this very moment because they are not strong enough to walk on their own. I was standing for the children who needed me to help them win their fight.

This is what kept me standing. This motivated me so much that I did not complain once because I knew who I was doing it for, and I was not going to let them down.

There were multiple people who kept complaining. Every word out of their mouth was about how their feet hurt, or how they were so tired. A large part of me wanted to turn to them and tell them, "Do you know how tired Grayson was when he had to have his many rounds of chemotherapy when he was just one-year-old?" I did not say that to them because I realized something. I knew what and who I was standing for, but maybe they didn't. My goal this year is to help all of those people understand WHY they are doing it.

20 hours on your feet may seem like a long time, but to watch $2,210,165.21 go up at the end, nothing compares.

Like the musical group Fun. once sang, "What do I stand? What do I stand for?" To that, I say, "I stand for the kids."


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