Are you smart, thoughtful and generous? If you are, I consider yourself the sexiest thing in the whole entire world.
In today’s society, many people consider as sexy someone who has the butt of Kim Kardashian, mega plump, and plastic lips like Kylie, legs like Julianne Hough and a face of a goddess. And if you’re a guy, looking like a Swedish model with the height of an NBA player makes you sexy. This speech by the wonderful Ashton Kutcher challenges it all. We’ll take a look today at why he’s right and why everything else is straight BS.
Being smart, generous and thoughtful will lead to…
….more self-love and confidence
Sometimes it feels like all we focus on is the materialistic side of things. As a society, we need to focus more on investing in ourselves because that’ll last much longer than any style or makeup product could. No need to just be beautiful on the outside; leave a mark and start creating your legacy. That’ll change the world for the better. The most influential people in history are respected and loved because of their intellectual and generous mindsets.
.... the happiest of relationships.
Whether it’s with your pet poodle, boyfriend, girlfriend, teacher, co-worker, or lunch lady—being a thoughtful and generous person cultivates healthy relationships. And if you think I’m wrong, ask anyone who isn't those things and see how their relationships are going. If we’re talking about relationships, looks only get you through the initial first dates and honeymoon stage. Yes, it’s important to look good in order to feel good but do it for the purpose of making yourself happy and nobody else. When you invest in yourself and take ownership of your own happiness, you will build confidence and that will naturally attract the very best. Loving yourself first leads to bringing generosity into all relationships that you’re in.
….immunity to any negativity
When you're busy building yourself and others up, there is absolutely NO time to slow down and take any shit from anyone. When you’re active in educating yourself and experiencing the world, you learn about what’s really important. You start gaining new perspectives on life. You learn how to empathize with those who have less. It’s like your cup is overflowing with nothing but love and you have no choice but to spread that. And if someone doesn’t like that, then you’d be more than happy to move on. It’s all about cultivating so much happiness in your life that it’s impossible for you to trip up over someone or something that doesn’t support you 100%. No matter what, listen to your own voice and let nothing come in your way.
In my eyes, the sexiest people are the ones who are brave enough to step outside their comfort zones, the ones who aren’t afraid to go against the crowd, the ones you lead by example, the ones who embrace their flaws, the ones who take initiative, the ones who enrich themselves with positive experiences, the ones who choose to be smart, generous, and thoughtful. So keep that in mind next time you think that you aren’t sexy, because I bet $100 that you are.
Thanks for reading! Share if you liked this and leave a comment below about what your idea of sexy is (maybe your boyfriend cooking you eggs? your passionate professor? or someone who's fearless?).
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