The Mother-Daughter Greek Experience

The Mother-Daughter Greek Experience

My Inspiration Behind Going Greek

My mom is my idol. She inspires me and is probably a better role model than any celebrity or female politician I can think of. She is the reason I wanted to go Greek.

I grew up begging her to sing her sorority songs for me before I went to bed and for as long as I can remember I’ve been drawing and doodling her sorority’s symbol in my notebooks and sketch pads. She even taught me how to “throw what I know,” and over the years, I have continuously forced her to do it with me in pictures.

Over the years, I’ve traveled with her to different chapters in her region that she’s in charge of, and I’ve heard the numerous conference calls she’s been on, working on how to make the chapter an even better chapter than it was before.

She taught me what being a sorority woman is really about; it isn’t about the cute fraternity boys or the crazy parties on "Greek Street." Being a sorority woman is about sharing your values with other women, and empowering each other to change the community for the better.

Not to mention, she’s shown me how being involved is important. From the day she accepted her bid in 1986 to now, she’s been involved in her sorority. She’s shown me that being a part of a sorority isn’t just for four years; it’s for life.

She never forced me to want to join her sorority. When I went through recruitment, she made me promise to keep an open mind and choose the house where I truly felt I belonged. But after years of tagging along on her trips to different chapters of her sorority, I couldn’t see myself being anything different.

When I arrived at her sorority’s house on Drake’s campus, I was filled with excitement. Not a single second did my heart waver on its decision, and I knew when I saw the tiny anchor drawn on the envelope of my bid day card that I had become what I always wanted. And when I called her to tell her she was not only my mother, but my sister as well, she burst into tears (the perfect reaction that I was going for).

Being legacy doesn’t mean I had to be what she is. But it gave me the opportunity to see Greek life without its stereotypes, and now I’m even closer with my mom. We’re going to our National Convention together in June, and I texted her the other night begging her to get matching baseball caps with our Greek letters on them (how many of you can say you and your mom/dad do that?).

She’s my best friend, my inspiration to change the world, my kick-ass mom, and, last but not least, my sister.

So to all the moms out there who have inspired their daughters to become sorority women, thank you. Without you here to inspire us and support us along the way, we wouldn’t have followed our hearts, or would have been sucked into the stereotypes presented in the media on Greek life. We love you, and we love being your legacy.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Plastic Straws Are Not The Real Issue

It's a start, but there's more to the story.


If you've been to a coffee shop, restaurant, or grocery store in the past few years, you can't help but notice the myriad of companies that are trying to ban plastic straws. Many popular chains have vowed to put an end to them, including brands such as Starbucks who claim they will completely eliminate straws from all their locations by the year 2020.

The decision to get rid of straws is an aim to protect marine animals, specifically sea turtles. Due to the size and structure of straws, they can become lodged into a sea turtle's nose or even mistaken for food. Since these creatures have an essential role in maintaining the health of our oceans through sustaining the coral reef system and playing a role in the food web, it's important that we realize our responsibility to protect them.

As someone who strongly advocates for the health and safety of our environment, I'm obviously glad that people are finally starting to take action on pressing issues such as plastic pollution. Any step we take to support the environment is a good step, and I do not want to diminish the great work of many people in helping save the planet.

However, I do feel that some misinformation has been spewed in relation to straws and sea turtles. Straws are not actually the main issue.

Among the millions of tons of waste that enters our oceans, straws realistically only account for .03% of this pollution. The original statistic that gained so much publicity about straw usage in the United States claimed that Americans use 500 million plastic straws per day, but no one mentions that this statement comes from a nine-year-old child who, although may be correct, should not serve as a credible source alone.

In reality, almost fifty percent of plastic pollution in the oceans comes from fishing nets. Many animals, including sea turtles, are caught in fishing nets accidentally. Approximately forty percent of all sea animals caught in nets are deemed by-catch and simply thrown away for dead. Even the few who are released back into the water are usually injured and unable to sustain themselves for long after. This process does not just affect sea turtles, but whales, seals, and dolphins as well.

But these issues are not getting as publicized because these are steps that we as a society may not be willing to take yet. Trying to combat this issue means taking larger steps than simply switching from straw to sippy cup, it means fighting industries that refuse to use sustainable methods, it means perhaps reducing our seafood consumption.

I'm not advocating for everyone to completely boycott fish and attempt to bypass the straw ban that cities such as Seattle have already implemented into law. I'm glad that people are beginning to finally focus on eliminating wasteful plastic that has clogged our waters for decades, but I do not want us to think that leaving behind a straw can fix all of our environmental problems.

There are so many ways we can fight against climate change, but taking that extra step involves educating yourself on the real issues. There are other products we consume on a daily basis that can do considerably more damage. Replacing these everyday items may not result in something as aesthetically pleasing as a metal straw for your brand new mug, but it could be more significant in the grand fight against pollution.

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