Have you ever been sitting at lunch with a full plate of food, weighing 95 pounds, and been told to eat something? Have you ever been asked if you are anorexic, even though you know you just finished a pizza on your own? Have you ever been told to put some meat on your bones because boys like girls with curves?

I have.

Have you ever told someone any of these things?

This is kind of a story about my own body positivity but more importantly it is something I feel people should just know. Simple comments can come off to someone as mentally damaging because everyone has their own struggle. I have struggled with my body image. I have struggled so many times. I have wished to gain weight and I have wished to lose it. I have never been overweight or underweight, for that matter.

I vividly remember my 90 pound, perfectly healthy by a doctor's standards self sitting at my lunch table during junior high being questioned, "Why don't you eat?"

Um, I'm sorry? I guess I mistook the activity I was currently doing as eating. I was so in shock. This person then preceded to tell me that I was too skinny and needed to eat more. Anyone who is around me 24/7 knows how much I eat. I mean, I was (and still am) snacking constantly. What more did they want me to do? But regardless of my actual health, I was begin to question how I looked to others, something I rarely ever thought of before when I looked in the mirror. Those few, thoughtless words were able to make me question everything I had thought about myself.

I just want to say is that any type of struggle with weight is still a struggle. People don't care what their words do. They just don't. We don't think twice about commenting on someone when we are young, when people are growing, when people are questioning.

As I was writing this I was watching "One Tree Hill," and a character said something that just completely represented my point. "Don’t be too fat, or too thin or too dark or too light, don’t be too sexual or too chased or too smart or too dumb! Be yourself. But make sure you fit in."

We are told everyday how we should look, directly and indirectly.

Someone will think I am being overdramatic and that is in my head. That this is not a real problem or issue. But really, come on! We need to be more aware of how we affect people and how we make them feel. There is no perfect human being so what are we getting onto anyone for? Where is this right we think we have to tell someone what is or isn't 'wrong' with them?

To take this a step further, this is not just a body issue, it's a human race issue.

The media and our friends have this huge opinion on how we should live our lives, but it is your life. You need to be happy with yourself. Stop worrying about what other people think and everyone else needs to stop thinking that they have a say on how someone else should live their life.

Listen to your body, know what it needs. Fix what you know needs to be fixed. If you are unhappy then change what you see but sure as hell don't do it for anyone else.