10 Things My Mom Did That I Never Realized Were So Important

10 Things My Mom Did That I Never Realized Were So Important

Like buying the expensive razors.

Your mom...also known as your best friend if you're lucky. And I am. I am so incredibly lucky to have that woman in my life and I would not have survived without her (cliche, but true). She is everything I need and more and I wouldn't want to call anyone else at least twice a day (I'm dead serious) to talk.

And its amazing I made it this far into my college career without realizing some of these, but here are the things my mom did for me that I never realized were so important.

1. Making me peanut butter and jelly every single day

She never failed to make my lunch for me and if I forgot it, she would drop it off at school. And every single day, there was the peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Its a classic, I know. But it feels like home. And now when I have to make it on my own for my lunch, I think of her.

2. Buying the expensive razors

Because it makes a difference. I tried buying one of those packs of razors for cheap, since I am a broke college student and all, and it went awfully. I had cuts all over my legs and threw them all away shortly after that. Since then, I've bought the nice razors my mom suggested and its been grand.

3. Washing my bed sheets

I guess washing my bed sheets is not something I thought I would really ever have to do. And then I came to college and realized that it is. That woman used to switch my sheets to flannel in the winter for the best cuddly bed, and I'm stuck with just one set of sheets that if I don't finish washing during the day, I'll be sleeping on my mattress only at night.

4. Setting up doctors appointments

I've been to the doctors more times than I can count this semester for a number of things, but the hardest part is setting up the appointments and figuring out the payment and my insurance plan. Before this, she handled it all and even scheduled appointments for the future. I was supposed to go back last week but that didn't happen...

5. Knowing how to cook a potato in the microwave

I hadn't ever cooked a potato before, but I've really tried to cook a lot of my own meals this semester and figured it was easy enough. Little did I know, you can put one in the microwave and it tastes pretty darn good. Thanks mom, I've had a couple potatoes this semester.

6. Stocking up on everything

Before I leave for school we stock up on everything--school supplies, bathroom essentials, kitchen tools. She knows me so well that I haven't had to run out for soap, toilet paper, body wash, or face wash the entire year. She has saved me so much money and time, and the only thing I've had to pay for is new shampoo and conditioner. She is so great.

7. Making lists

She would make lists of all the stuff I needed to get done to meet college deadlines, or what vaccines I needed for school. And now I'm stuck here trying to do it all by myself and its hard.

8. Having extra headphones in her purse

How many times did I forget mine for long car rides? But here was Super Mom, pulling an extra pair out of her purse to make me happy. Or gum. Or hairbands. Or chapstick. Now, I forget one of those every day.

9. Organizing my jewelry

If I had a nickel for every time I tried to untangle my necklaces from each other, I'd be a millionaire. She always made sure my jewelry was in its respective place at home where no tangling or misplacing jewelry ever occurred. I need to organize again.

10. Knowing birthdays

Is it bad that I have to rely on Facebook now to know when someones birthday is? Or anniversary? She was always on top of it and would let me know so I could wish them a good day.

All of these little big things make me love and appreciate her so much more when I'm away. And of course the big things she does as well when I'm gone. She deserves the best Mother's Day because she is the best mother, and I wouldn't be the young woman I am today without her there the whole time.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Buying New Clothes Every Month Has Been The Key To Helping Me Become Happy With My Body Again

Loving my body in new outfits has boosted my self image so much.


Being body-positive has been really hard for me to do throughout 2019, despite there being an overwhelming surge in body-positivity around me, whether through my friends and family or YouTube. I look in the mirror and what I see is someone I want to make a jean size or two smaller like in the past. That being said, I've slowly been coming around to accepting the body I have now, instead of bashing it constantly. A key way I've come to accept the body I'm in now is through buying myself something new every month, like a new T-shirt or a pair of jeans or sneakers that help me see myself in a positive light. When I'm in a new outfit, I feel invincible. I don't think about how pudgy my stomach is, or about the hair I have growing in random places, like my neck or on my nose (yes, not just in, but ON too).

My bank account tends to suffer as of recently because of this, but it's worth it when I can genuinely feel good in what I am wearing every day. I like to wake up and think about how many outfits I can put together, ready to post my #OOTD for Snapchat without caring what anyone thinks. I've let social media dictate how I feel about myself more than I care to admit. I see how perfect all the models are in everything they're wearing from brands I know and love, yet when I try the same thing on, it's a whole different ugly story.

I don't enjoy trying things on to avoid the shame I feel when things don't fit me right, or if something that I thought would flatter me actually makes me look like a sack of potatoes. Instagram has really hurt my body image a lot — enough to make me delete it for a week after one post sent me spiraling. Going through those bumps made me finally realize it's not my fault if something doesn't fit. Sizes range depending on the item, it's the clothing items fault, not mine. Now that I see that, it's easier to brush off something not fitting me as it should. I know my size very well in the stores I frequent the most, so it's easier for me to pick out things I know will look good and not have to worry about the sizing issue.

Buying yourself something new is not something you should limit to every few months or longer. You shouldn't be afraid to go out of your comfort zone price wise every once and a while either. Coupons exist, stories always offer you them when you first sign up to receive emails and even texts. You can be crafty and still get a high price item for less. If you treat yourself to cheap things, you won't feel half as good as you want to. Granted, sticking to a limit is important but there's no shame in going over the limit every once and a while.

I love shopping as much as I love country music and writing short stories — a lot. Yes, I get yelled at almost every time I get something new. I need to save my money for important things, like for my sorority or for medical issues that could suddenly arise, or for utilities at my house next year off campus.

However, my mental well-being is not something I can ignore.

I can't push the good feelings aside to save 30 or 40 bucks a month. I don't want to feel as low as I've felt about myself anymore. I'm tired of feeling sad or angry at who I am, and I want to learn how to accept myself as I am. Buying myself something new, like clothes, is what offers a positive light to view myself under.

Whether you treat yourself to dinner at your favorite restaurant, or to face masks, or to a new movie when it comes out — don't be afraid to do it. Put yourself first and you'll realize your worth and how much you've been ignoring it in the face of poor confidence.

My confidence isn't back up to where it used to be, but it's getting there.

It may not be the most cash efficient method of self-love, but my body positivity is better than it was a few months ago. Aerie and American Eagle have really helped me become happier with my body, and I can't thank them enough for being more inclusive for people like me who are learning to love themselves again in a new body.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel for all of us hoping to promote our own body positivity, and it could all start with a simple purchase from your favorite store after you read this.

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