A Letter To The Most Important Woman In My Life

A Letter To The Most Important Woman In My Life

Thank you for helping me become the woman I am today


Dear Mama,

A letter like this is hard to write, not just because I'm sharing it to the public, but rather I want to do you justice. How does one encapsulate a person who has given so much time and support towards your own personal growth? I feel like its a cliche nowadays to say that your mother is your best friend, but I can honestly say that it's true. I call and text you multiple times every day to catch you up on my life away from you. Our conversations can be short and sweet or run on for hours. Whether it's about what someone said in class or my adventures for the day, I always call to let you know. I don't do this because I feel like I have to but rather because I enjoy talking to you. Like any of my other college friends, you listen to all my stories, laugh at my jokes, and give the very best advice when I ask.

Although we are close, that doesn't mean we agree on every little thing. Sometimes our differing opinions and worldviews cause tension, but it never lasts and before long we are gabbing away again. As I get older, I begin to realize that you were right about certain subjects that I use to fight you on. In this way, you are more than just a close girlfriend but also a teacher and parent. Even when it frustrates you, you never try to make me change my perspective but rather give me the tools to try and see the other side. You've let me become the person I was meant to be, and I've realized that she's a lot more like you than I'd ever imagined.

You've taught me to be both kind and firm - to help others but not to an extent that it brings me more harm. You instilled in me the qualities of perseverance, integrity, and accountability. When things get tough, I push harder. When I get put into difficult situations, I don't take the easy way out if it will make others question my sincerity. I don't make promises I can't keep and I complete the tasks given to me in a timely fashion.

Mom, you've shown me what it means to be a woman of strong character by just being a good mother. Thank you for showing me how to respect myself and others, and how others should respect me. I've learned that being your daughter was truly a gift from God, and I'm not sure how I would have turned out if things had gone differently. You protect me and you guide me, but never to the extent that it would hurt my individuality. You lecture me when I've made a mistake, but never harshly enough that I stopped coming to you when I slip up. Somehow you have perfectly balanced being a friend, a parent, and a mentor throughout my life. So thank you for encouraging me to become the woman I was meant to be. I'm glad she reminds me a lot of you.



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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Motherhood Gives Women Skills That Are Beneficial No Matter Where Life Them

I believe that the impeccable and sublime phase of motherhood is what actually causes a young girl to fully blossom into a vibrant young woman.


Growing up shouldn't necessarily mean moving onto the next level in your life and becoming completely mature for your age. Actually, it should also be a "glowing" phase in your life. Honestly, I have been under the impression that growing only refers to aging physically and the eventual understanding of a person's countless responsibilities/duties.

However, I have begun to realize what the "glowing" aspect of growing actually means. It is when a young girl gets married and then proceeds towards the next phase of life called motherhood. This is exactly when the evolution of the young girl actually begins.

I believe that the impeccable and sublime phase of motherhood is what actually causes a young girl to fully blossom into a vibrant young woman. I'm saying this due to my recent conversation with my mother, aunt, and grandma. I began by asking them what was the most fruitful journey in your life? All of them answered by saying that motherhood shaped their life extensively and further provided them with another full-fledged reason to live.

In other words, they have briefly mentioned that babies are just like flowers that have to be nurtured immensely in order to fully bloom. After hearing this, I have fully understood why women tend to glow the most when they are expecting! In fact, the biological process of creating life and then bringing a couple's symbol of love into the world is indeed an amazing feat.

It is astonishing how motherhood can change a woman's life remarkably. During our conversation, I was able to learn how much hard work is dedicated toward nourishing a child and their overall upbringing. I'm forever grateful for what my mom has done for me and is still doing for me till this day. It takes an enormous amount of stamina and courage to effectively bring up a child and I have carefully observed my mother throughout the years. Essentially, women are no longer completely free to behave irrationally and impatiently. Motherhood exposes them to many life-changing skills, many of which revolve around time management and patience.

On the other side of the spectrum, once a woman becomes a mother, they have to make some important career-changing decisions. Many mothers become working mothers and some become stay-at-home mothers for some time. Some mothers tend to devote most of their time playing and taking care of their children just like my mother and grandma. Whereas, many women are awesome at both balancing work and their motherly responsibilities.

I'm from the school of thought that women are free to decide what they want best and they shouldn't be restrained from venturing out and advancing in their careers. Excelling in their careers is an incredible delight if they have full support from their family and are able to actively balance both responsibilities.

A mother's love is unconditional and we will always be indebted to them for bringing us into the world. Finally, I would like to give a shout out to all the amazing super-women out there who have proved to be affectionate, creative, and impressive role-models for their children!

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