In this day and age, everybody has their own opinion and nobody is afraid to express their views. We’re all unique in our own special way, so people feel some sort of entitlement to say whatever they want. Actually, it’s not entitlement, it feels more like requirement, meaning they feel required to share their opinions on everything even things that do not involve them.

Most of the time, I am all for hearing out people’s opinions and viewpoints on things. Personally, I’ve learned to listen to people’s advice, and later decide for myself what I think is best for me personally. However, when it comes to the topic of relationships and my love life, I find it difficult to juggle and deconstruct other people’s opinions.

I don’t know why I feel this way, maybe because I feel that the topic of relationships is something that should only involve me and my significant other. Or, maybe I consider myself so knowledgeable about love and relationships that I do not believe I need other’s viewpoints. Whatever the case may be, there is no way to avoid the fact that people talk.

For instance, imagine that you get into a new relationship, or you get out of an old relationship. Everybody has something to say about the situation, your significant other, and every fine detail in between that they can get their hands on. Though their intentions always seem to be good and in your best interest, this can sometimes be overwhelming.

The sincerity of the advice being given is not the issue, the amount of different opinions is. It’s the fact that everybody feels the need to chime in on things that do not involve them in the slightest. It can make those of us receiving advice go insane because of all the differences in opinion being expressed.

Everyone is taking the small amount of knowledge that they have about your life and your relationship and are making blanket statements about how you should live your life. Trust me, I have been there and I am sure the next time I find myself in or out of a relationship I will be there again too.

If you want to hear one more piece of advice, if you can find it in yourself to listen to one more opinion, I have something to say. Here is something that I have learned throughout my own personal experience: none of us know what we are doing. We are just guessing and we are all generally in the same boat when it comes to love.

Most of us have failed in relationships more than we have succeeded in them.

Relationships are hard. They are a difficult and tedious process of learning about your significant other and loving them as they deserve to be loved. Relationships are personal to the two people involved and should, and really cannot be flooded with general rules.

Just as every human is different, every relationship is unique. It’s a journey of putting two imperfect people together and letting them face life’s challenges together. No matter what your current relationship status may be, remember that nobody has a definite answer for you.

Perfection is not attainable. Loving somebody as much as you possibly can does not mean never fighting, and comparing your relationship to others. So, the next time people bombard you with advice, I recommend listening to what they say but making your decision on your own. Decide what is best for yourself and run with it.