Mirror, Mirror, On The Wall...

Mirror, Mirror, On The Wall...


Ladies of our generation have such a hard time with viewing themselves as worthy and not “worth-less.” I, too, know this constant feeling of not being good enough. But, I have seen through God’s constant love and encouragement of His Holy Spirit that I am enough. This is something I have struggled with starting when I was in middle school. I was reminded daily that I was the tallest girl in our grade and that every guy thought it was so weird. I used to think that it would always be that way and that I would never be accepted. But guess what? I am accepted, loved, and wanted by a heavenly Father that will never leave me. I never saw this reality until I was 17 years old. Wow! Do you think that is way too long for anyone to think she is not fearfully and wonderfully made? I definitely regret the years that I walked around with my head down and avoiding contact with anyone at all cost.

Social media has ruined our generation -- I constantly see girls posting photos on social media of them partying and wearing extremely revealing clothing. This is the way women try to find their value by the number of “likes” or comments from others. It is simply ludicrous to see the way women, young or old, find security in the way others see them through social media. Whether it be the “good lighting,” how “artsy” the picture is, or how much of an editing app they use, it is not truly who they are. I have found that none of these girls are truly happy through our passing conversations. The media constantly shoves being a size zero down our throats beginning when we are little girls watching Disney Channel!

We have to put aside others' opinions and show who we truly are -- do not be miserable in your own skin because of the opinions of others. It is so heartbreaking to see the way girls treat themselves to become the “perfect woman” for men by giving into the ways of the world. Turn to the Lord and let Him show you how He sees us. He says we were created in His image and that we are the apple of His eye, isn’t that so amazing?

If you are a girl struggling with this and feeling like you are not good enough, you must remember the words of the Lord. He says in 1 Peter 3:3-5, “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful.” I feel like there are many girls of this generation that can learn from this verse and from the women of the Bible. We do not need to confide in what men think of us. We are fearfully and wonderfully made for a unique purpose. I pray for every girl that is currently reading this and that you would become comfortable in your own skin. Remind yourself daily, “I am enough for a man that will one day pursue me the way that the Lord has called him to.” You are beautiful!

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Sorry Not Sorry, My Parents Paid For My Coachella Trip

No haters are going to bring me down.

With Coachella officially over, lives can go back to normal and we can all relive Beyonce’s performance online for years to come. Or, if you were like me and actually there, you can replay the experience in your mind for the rest of your life, holding dear to the memories of an epic weekend and a cultural experience like no other on the planet.

And I want to be clear about the Beyonce show: it really was that good.

But with any big event beloved by many, there will always be the haters on the other side. The #nochella’s, the haters of all things ‘Chella fashion. And let me just say this, the flower headbands aren’t cultural appropriation, they’re simply items of clothing used to express the stylistic tendency of a fashion-forward event.

Because yes, the music, and sure, the art, but so much of what Coachella is, really, is about the fashion and what you and your friends are wearing. It's supposed to be fun, not political! Anyway, back to the main point of this.

One of the biggest things people love to hate on about Coachella is the fact that many of the attendees have their tickets bought for them by their parents.

Sorry? It’s not my fault that my parents have enough money to buy their daughter and her friends the gift of going to one of the most amazing melting pots of all things weird and beautiful. It’s not my fault about your life, and it’s none of your business about mine.

All my life, I’ve dealt with people commenting on me, mostly liking, but there are always a few that seem upset about the way I live my life.

One time, I was riding my dolphin out in Turks and Cacaos, (“riding” is the act of holding onto their fin as they swim and you sort of glide next to them. It’s a beautiful, transformative experience between human and animal and I really think, when I looked in my dolphin’s eye, that we made a connection that will last forever) and someone I knew threw shade my way for getting to do it.

Don’t make me be the bad guy.

I felt shame for years after my 16th birthday, where my parents got me an Escalade. People at school made fun of me (especially after I drove into a ditch...oops!) and said I didn’t deserve the things I got in life.

I can think of a lot of people who probably don't deserve the things in life that they get, but you don't hear me hating on them (that's why we vote, people). Well, I’m sick of being made to feel guilty about the luxuries I’m given, because they’ve made me who I am, and I love me.

I’m a good person.

I’m not going to let the Coachella haters bring me down anymore. Did my parents buy my ticket and VIP housing? Yes. Am I sorry about that? Absolutely not.

Sorry, not sorry!

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A Thank You To The Boy Who Stayed During My Depression

You held my hand when everything around me was crumbling.

Hey you,

Thanks for staying by my side when I didn’t want to stay myself. You have shown me such a huge amount of love, respect, and inspiration. Never in a million years would I have thought that I would be going through such a hard time with someone who is as steady as a rock. Thank you for saying that you love me, because it brings me peace throughout the day.

You have taught me to persevere and keep going. You are one of the only reasons I wake up in the morning and try to go on with my day. You have taught me to love myself despite my flaws. You never give up on me even when I give up on myself. You don't know how much it means to me to know that I have your continual support. You stayed when others have walked away. Not too many people know about depression and the effects it has. You're one of a few, and you choose to stay through it all. You are the light in the darkness. You constantly remind me that you’re here to stay and you’re not going to leave despite the struggle.

Thank you for reminding me that my depression does not define me, that I am more than this. I know its tough to stand tall when the person you care about is crumbling, but you do it without fear.

I’ll never be able to thank you for what you have done and continue to do for me. It takes someone unbelievably strong to hold someone’s hand and guide them through something this tough.

Thank you for being that unbelievably strong person.

I love you.

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