Your Mind Is Like A Garden

Your Mind Is Like A Garden

A mind garden is all about weeding out the bad, and nurturing the good in your life.

Around this time last year I was sitting with my therapist and he told me something that would change how I viewed myself and how I treat the world around me. He told me:

Your mind is like a garden. In this garden, there are flowers, trees, shrubs, any kind of plant you want or like, growing there. However, there are also weeds. The flowers and trees and other plants represent the positive aspects of your life. These could be people, experiences, jobs, whatever that is for you.

The weeds, are negative aspects of your life. These could also be people, experiences, jobs, or whatever that happens to be for you.

Now, it is up to you to take care of your garden. No one can do this for you. You ultimately have the power to choose how your garden is taken care of. If you choose to let the weeds take over and choke out all of the flowers and trees, then that is what will happen.

The same will happen to you in life.

Or you can choose to weed your garden. There is a catch, though, to weeding your garden. See, when you weed a garden, you do not just weed the garden and then sit back and relax and enjoy the view for the rest of your life. On the contrary, you have to continuously weed the garden. Otherwise, new weeds will continue to grow and devour your garden.

You can weed the garden as soon as you see weeds start to grow, which will still make for some work, and the weeds still might have hurt to pull out of your garden, but it will not hurt as much as waiting until that weed grows into a giant thistle, with roots so deep you cannot get them out.

Weeds might hurt to pull out of your garden too. Some have those thorns that poke, but pulling a weed might still be better than allowing it to choke out an entire flower.

However, it is up to you what you choose to get rid of and what you choose to keep in your garden. No one can make those decisions for you, although some people might come along and try to tell you what is a weed and what is a flower and what you should leave and what you should keep, but ultimately, only you can make that choice, and only you can pull that weed.

As we near the end of the year it may be a good time for some personal reflection and a look into our own mind gardens. We may find that our gardens are healthy and happy and thriving. Or, we may discover there are some weeds that need to be pulled.

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Growing Through The Cracks

When people say you can’t make it, you have to grow outward.

People accuse me of things I would never do.

Accuse me of people I will never be.

Say I will never grow out of who I once was.

That I will always be my past self.

I will always walk through life trying to get away.

Trying to get away from the person that I used to be.

Trying to escape from the dark points in my past.

Trying to grow through the cracks of my life.

My past self will always catch up to me.

I will revert to my introverted past and get stuck.

Stuck in a persona that I trued to kill long ago.

A persona that I don’t want to see the light of day.

In my past I would just give up.

I would give up the things I love.

Give up the thing I most love doing.

Being myself.

So in the end I would still try to run away.

Run away from my past.

Always keep going and never quitting.

Growing through the cracks.

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Learning How To Live With, And Love, Your Scars

They are representative of a significant time in your life. They are representative of how far you've come.

Everyone has scars. Whether they're big or small or purple or pink or visible or subtle or physical or emotional, everyone has them. Scars are apart of who you are, as difficult as that can sometimes be to accept.

I have my own scars. Specifically, two large, upside down T-shaped scars clear and pink across my chest from a major breast reduction surgery I had last year. Since this surgery changed my life in every other aspect for the better, at first I didn't think about the scars at all. I was ecstatic that this surgery fixed my pain and made me happier. But as I healed, my scars definitely seemed to be taking a long time to look any better than the jagged, red lines that they were. After a little while, it got hard to look down at my chest and feel, well, a little mutilated. Somewhere in the back of my mind, I knew my doctor had told me "it'll get worse before it gets better," and that stuck with me. It can apply to lots of different situations in terms of scarring.

As I grew and got used to these scars on my body, I reminded myself that these scars are apart of me and represented a pivotal time in my life. They represented a battle I had with my body for so many years, and how I came out on top and beat the constant pain I was under. And this can ring true for so many different situations: whether your scars are from a surgery, an accident, self harm or they're internal, they are representative of a significant time in your life. They are representative of how far you've come. And that's something to be proud of. You're still here! You're living, you're surviving, you're making it.

Of course, everyone's situation is different. Everyone processes differently. Everyone heals differently, physically and emotionally. But what has worked for me in learning to love the scars that adorn my body through recognizing that receiving them has changed my quality of life. For the better.

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