If You're Not Investing In Your Future, What Are You Investing In?

If You're Not Investing In Your Future, What Are You Investing In?

Your friends don't create your future, so why base every move around them?

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Things have been put in perspective for me recently. With a year left in my college career, it's incredibly overwhelming to think about where I will be in a year. As a college student, you always have people giving you contradictory advice. Hell, the reason we go to college is to create a future for ourselves. However, when you get into college, people always tell you "live in the moment, man."

What the hell does this mean? Live in the moment? It's kind of impossible not to. I'm kidding of course, but when people say live in the moment this usually insinuates that you shouldn't be obsessed with the little things that plague your free time. Things like stressing about finding an internship, worrying about your test grades, and the various other habits of students are probably things that these "live in the moment" people are talking about.

This is fine and dandy. I completely agree now, in hindsight, that the stress I've caused myself worrying about a grade that does not reflect my capability as a student was not worth it. But far too often, these "live in the moment" people mistake meticulousness for being absent-minded in the present. Concerning yourself with your future can bring you down two roads (bear with me here).

There is the first road, the road that those "live in the moment" people warn you about. For example, skipping on going out with friends because you're worried that giving up two hours of your time is going to ruin your grades. The way those in-the-moment people see it, if you actually prepared for the future like you say you do, you would already be prepared for the test instead of studying last minute.

These people are right — if you remove yourself from the moment because you are constantly stressing out and scrambling to get your shit together, sorry, you're not a futuristic thinker.

Then there's the second road, the holy grail of now and then. Planning every move that you do now to be worth your time, whether that's an investment in yourself now or in the future. To counteract those "live in the moment" people, no, every minute of our time doesn't have to be absent from the moment. Living with your future in mind means shifting your perspective from an "Oh man I'm just living day-to-day and taking life as it comes, bro" to "every single day I wake up is an opportunity to make the "me" 10 years from now a very happy person."

I feel that a lot of college students are where I am right now, struggling with a year left in this little bubble that we have immersed ourselves in to find our sense of identity in the real world. College sucks in that way, especially where I am because it is so far removed from the ebb and flow of the real world. It's hard to plan for your future and invest in yourself when the other 99% of people are studying and working for the weekend.

You get to this point, hopefully, where you realize you should NEVER base what you are going to do for the day based around what your friends are doing. If you plan to even have a future, you must realize that your friends in the moment are not going to create that future for you. So, why plan your every move around what THEY are doing? Changing your mindset with this in mind is living for the future.

It's 2018 and the world is constantly changing; this not a cliche, this is the truth. If your moves aren't strategic, get ready to fall behind.

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10 Things I Learned When My Best Friend Got Pregnant In High School

In this world where you can be anything: be a friend (and be a good one).

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Life: full of amazing, unforeseen circumstances. How you roll with the punches only reveals your strength.
True friends are like diamonds: bright, beautiful, valuable, and always in style." -Nicole Richie

I remember when I first heard the big news. I didn't want to believe it. My heart dropped. I was worried for you. What would happen? How would you get through this? Nothing we knew would ever be the same. Our world was about to change forever. I recalled the verse Isaiah 41:10, "Do not be afraid, for I am with you." I knew God was with you and would always be. I knew God needed me to be here for you, no matter what.

Turns out, you had this all in the bag. You handled everything with grace and dignity. You were strong even on your hardest days. You were overwhelmed with faith and you inspired me with your perseverance through the hardest times. I could not be more proud of who you became because of the cards you were dealt.

To Meaghan: I love you. I'm always here, no matter where. Hudson is so lucky to have you.

Here's what I learned from you and your sweet baby boy:

1. Contrary to popular belief, it is NOT the end of the world

Start making plans for the future. Pick out clothes, decorations, and toys. Help with all the madness and preparation. She would do the same for you. Plus, 9 p.m. runs to Toys-R-Us just to buy the baby some socks (because you do not know the gender yet) is always a good idea. You have to focus on the big picture. Life doesn't stop even when you want to.

2. No matter how much you want to freak out, remain calm

Getting unexpected news is never easy to hear. If needed, cry. Cry until you cannot anymore. Then, get up and be strong, she needs you. Be flexible (You want to come over to hang out? Right now? No, I'm not in the middle of ten thousand things, come on over). Be available (yes, even for her 3 a.m. insomnia calls just to see "what's up?") "Meaghan, why are you even awake right now?"

3. Radiate positivity. Always. 

This is an emotional time. The LAST thing she needs is someone bringing her down. "No, honey, you're glowing!" "You do not look fat in that bikini!!" "You are rocking that baby bump!" "Oh, that's your the third day in a row you're eating a Sonic burger for lunch? You go girl!"

4. Be ready for all the times: happy, confusing, stressful, sad, (but mostly) exciting

Mixed emotions are so hard, but look for the silver lining. With your support, she will be strong.

"Who knew picking out the brand of diapers to buy was so stressful?"

5. This world is a scary place. You never want to be all alone, so don't be. 

Like the song says, we, really do, all need someone to lean on. Just being there for someone goes a long way. "Meaghan what the heck are you doing in MY bed? How long have you been here?"

6. Lean on God. His plan is greater than we could ever imagine. 

When you don't know where to go, or who to turn to, pray! Pray for the burdens you feel. Pray for the future. Pray for patience. Pray for the ability to not grow weary. Pray for a heart of compassion. Pray. Pray. Pray.

7. Something we never knew we needed. 

Some of the best things in life are things we never knew we needed. Who knows where we would be without this sweet face?

"Hudson say Lib. Libby. L-- Come ON!" "CAT!" "Okay, that works too."

8. "Mother knows best"...is accurate, whether you believe it or not

Turns out, seventeen-year-olds don't know how to plan baby showers. Our moms have been there, done that. They want to be involved just as much as we do, so let them! Listen to their guidance. After all, they're professionals.

9. There will *almost always* be a "better way" of doing something...but, be a cheerleader, not a critic 

This is something many people struggle with in general, but it is not your DNA, it is not your place to be a critic. Let her raise her own baby. You are there to be a friend, not a mentor. ****Unless she's about to name the baby something absolutely terrible -- for the love of that baby, don't let her name that kid something everyone hates.

10.  At the end of the day, it's not what you have or what you know; rather, it is all about who you love and those who love you

Life has adapted, but for the better. We grew up, learned, and became stronger. All the while, we stayed friends every step of the way. We still have the same fun and most definitely, the same laughs.

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5 Ways To Get Over Pre-Interview Jitters

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If you're anything like me, then you're machine-gunning applications out left, right, and center. As most people can tell you, applying for a job is a complete numbers game without prior references, as out of 50 applications, maybe 10 will call you back. And that may even be generous.

As the quarter is winding down, I find myself interviewing at least once weekly, as well as engaging in more professional development sessions to get catered advice about resumes, interviewing, and opportunities. After all, even if you have the same degree as someone, your internships and job experiences are entirely separate journeys.

1. Do your homework

If you're at the stage where a company is ready to call you - either for the initial HR screening, or to an interview with a potential hiring manager, do your bit and at least glance at the website. Learn what the company does, and pick 2-3 points of the company culture that you resonate with. Dissect the job posting too, and find areas were your prior work experience overlaps.

2. Practice, practice, practice

Look up what previous interview questions have been over Glassdoor, or just Google typical interview questions if it's a first round interview. I then personally make up a cheat sheet, which can be sent to review. I then try to memorize those answers, and answer everything with a story.

3. Think about your main points

They're only a sentence or two in your resume, but an interview is really the time to get your story out there. Try to quantify your results, if applicable, and talk about how you achieved your results - as technically or generally - as required.

4. Record yourself beforehand

To know if you're talking too fast or slow.

5. Right before your interview, do something else

Read a book or watch Netflix to calm down a bit, and then you'll be ready and more composed to talk naturally. If you try to cram as many points into your head right beforehand, you'll come across as choppy or as if you're trying to remember a script.

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