As a female college freshman, I have already met my fair share of a diverse range of people.
I have met super pure and innocent people who seemingly have no idea about the truths of what the world is becoming. I have met individuals who have only ever known going out drinking and partying every weekend. And yes, I have met the people who fall in the middle of the two. I am one of those people.
I don’t party but I also don’t have my head stuck in the sand.
I’m not oblivious to what is happening in the world and with my peers but I also don’t put myself in situations where I know I’d be uncomfortable. With that being said, I don’t judge and I don’t think that there’s anything particularly wrong with either of the extremes. I am just not a person that fits into either category.
As a girl who doesn’t party, I think it’s more fun for me to stay in on weekends with my boyfriend and a scary movie.
To me, I’d much rather that than be at a house party where you’re never 100% sure what’s in your drink. I’d rather have a quiet night in instead of dressing up in uncomfortable outfits in hopes that it will get you a free martini from the “gentleman across the bar.”
But, I’m also not the girl who gives up hanging out with friends to study until 2 AM.
I’m not the person that will ditch a plan to binge watch The Office to break a brain in the library until ungodly hours of the night in hopes to reach that 4.0 average.
With that being said, there’s nothing wrong with going out with your girls or with the boys to grab a drink and dance until your feet hurt. Sometimes, Saturdays need to be for the boys and girls’ night needs to be a thing - I get that. My girls’ night, however, involves some Coke Zero and the newest season of Jane the Virgin.
On the other hand, getting good grades and disciplining yourself is a needed part of college and of life in general.
It’s good to know your limits, when to crack down on yourself, and when to take your education and career seriously. My advice is to not waste too much energy on something that has a 50/50 chance of happening and that you have no way of preparing for.
So, from the girl who will never have a party stage but still knows how to have fun: grab some friends, plan a fun night in, and then hit the books the next morning – you might thank me.