The Message My 15-Year-Old Self Needed To Hear

The Message My 15-Year-Old Self Needed To Hear

"Wish you could go back and tell yourself what you know now."

"But in life you'll do things greater than dating the boy on the football team, but I didn't know it at 15."

Taylor Swift couldn't of said it better, granted she has a song for anything that could possibly go wrong in life but "Fifteen" is just too relatable. If there's anything I have learned from graduating high school and moving onto the next phase of my life, it's that high school was made to be way to big of a deal. To all my girls going through it now, I can promise that whatever you're going through isn't the end of the world. I know it feels like it is, I've been there. I've begged my mom to let me leave early because I couldn't deal with the drama that day, I've walked into that big lunch room feeling like I have nowhere to turn, I've had my heart broken by that boy we swear at the time is "the one", i get it. My mother has taught me a very important lesson; give yourself the night to be sad, cry, scream, whatever you need, but wake up the next day and move on. It's a new day and you can either choose to be sad or you can choose to be happy. I asked some of my best girls what they would go back and tell their 15 year old self and the words they said were so good that I'm going to share it with you all.

You will survive that breakup. Oh man, that end of your world break up you never think you're going to get past, you will. It sounds cliche but time really does heal all wounds. That pit in your stomach starts to go away and with each passing day you realize who you are and how much you're worth until one day you wake up and it just doesn't hurt anymore. Remember the key words of Tiffani Thompson (my mother), you choose to be happy or you choose to be sad. Choose happy.

Quality over Quantity. At 15, you think you have to be friends with everyone in the world. Even if in your heart you know they're not the kind of people you should surround yourself with, you do anyways because it feel's nice to be included. Y'all, don't surround yourself with bad people. If I could go back a few years and tell myself one thing it would be that. Stop trying to make friendships with the wrong people, I could of saved myself from a lot of bad situations if I would of just relaxed and stopped feeling like I had to be doing something 24/7 or I wasn't "cool." Your true friends will come, I know mine did. Be patient and don't lower your standards just to fit in.

Be nice without expecting it back. You will go through life constantly hurt if you believe everyone has the same heart as you. Girls, being mean shouldn't be a trend. There is no reason to ever intentionally make someone feel bad about themselves, and you will look back a few years later and regret the way you treated someone. "Be the type of person that makes everyone they come across feel perfectly okay with being exactly who they are." Strive every day to go out of your way to compliment someone because everyone could use a pick me up. You just might tell someone exactly what they needed to hear at the right time. Be a good person, it takes a lot more effort to be mean than it does to be nice.

Be strong, be courageous and be a little wild. No, I don't mean go out and make poor decisions you'll regret in the morning, I just mean that you do need to live a little or college will be a very scary place for you. High school seems like the end of the world, but it's really just the beginning. I've learned so much but I still have such a long way to go. To my girls, it's all going to be okay.

"I've found time can heal most anything, and you just might find who you're supposed to be, I didn't know who I was supposed to be, at 15."

With love,

Taylor Thompson

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You Don't Need A Significant Other To Have The Perfect College Experience, Trust Me On This One

Make them the best four years of your life and don't let the stereotypes, especially this one, hold you back.

Everyone dreams of having the so-called, "perfect college experience." Now, what even is that supposed to be? Is it supposed to be the way that college is presented in just about every film and television show out there? I sure hope not because, news flash, college is nothing like that. Of course, it is fun and hopefully will be the best four years of your life, but it is also full of constant ups and downs and is nowhere near "perfect."

There are a countless amount of stereotypes surrounding the "perfect college life" due to how films and television shows present it. A few being that college kids are supposed to look like supermodels all the time, ditch class, eat unhealthily, sleep all the time, are all in a sorority/fraternity, party every night, and find the love of their life.

Now, let's be honest here, you will not be looking your best as you roll into your 8 a.m. class each morning, or honestly your 2 p.m. class either. Not everybody will join a sorority/frat, and if you do, you won't join one that throws banging parties every single night of the week to entertain the campus. And going off of that, you won't get dressed up every night of the week to go party hopping with your friends. College kids don't just sit in their room and eat chips; many work out daily, whether it be hitting up the gym or participating in a sport and hit up the cafeteria after and get a well-balanced meal.

Honestly, college isn't just fun and games, you may find yourself spending some time alone in your dorm room watching Netflix or working on homework, and that's ok!

The majority of people at college do care about their classes and the work that they put into them, as they should since they are paying a crazy amount of money for them. Also, college kids don't just sleep all the time? If anything they hardly sleep! I don't even know how that stereotype began?

Finally, the worst stereotype of them all.

Apparently, to have the "perfect college experience" you need to find the love of your life.

Ok, no. This is entirely not true. If somehow you are lucky and come across somebody who is your perfect match then good for you, I wish I was you, but honestly, you are just one of the lucky ones. If you go to a school with a little over 2,000 people like me, you cannot expect to show up on campus and instantly find the love of your life. Yeah, you might have a better chance at a larger school, but still, you shouldn't expect it.

So, in the meantime why would you have "finding a significant other" be the goal of your college experience?

Why not work on finding a fantastic group of friends instead of that perfect boy/girl? It is ok to be independent and spend your time letting loose, and having fun! It is quite alright to show up at a party with a bunch of your gal/guy pals. Who says you need to be holding hands with somebody to get into a party or sit down and eat in the caf? Get out there and live that college life.

Make it the best four years of your life, and don't let the stereotypes, especially this one, hold you back.

Trust me, you do not need a significant other to have the perfect college experience. Have fun, be yourself, find some awesome friends, and you will have the time of your life. You don't need to be in love with somebody to have all that.

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What Don't You Have Time For?

Paying attention to your priorities

Last week, my article consisted of inspirational quotes for when life gets hectic. As I enter into yet another week that is filled with papers, tests, meetings every night, and other commitments, I find myself pressed for time. A lot of things in my life, I am realizing, I "don't have time" for. But what does this really mean?

What does it mean when we say we "don't have time" for something?

There is a quote from the Wall Street Journal that comes to mind when reflecting on this issue:

"Instead of saying, 'I don't have time', try saying 'it's not a priority,' and see how that feels. Often, that's a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don't want to. But other things are harder. Try it: 'I'm not going to edit your resume, sweetie, because it's not a priority.' 'I don't go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.' If these phrases don't sit well, that's the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don't like how we're spending an hour, we can choose differently."

I have read this quote multiple times before, and it always has the same effect of forcing me to really think about my time and where it is going. Lately, I "haven't had time" to go to the gym or to journal or to pray. When my mom texted me last night to check in, I realized I also "haven't had time" to call home in over a week. I don't say this to judge myself or bring myself down.

I say this to call to attention that when I say "I don't have time" for things, this is revelatory of what my priorities are in the moment.

Right now, my priorities lie in schoolwork and juggling various social activities and clubs. No, there is nothing wrong with these things: a hard work ethic and strong bonds and relationships with those around me can do no harm, they actually strengthen me as a person. Still, it is important to realize what a certain emphasis on these two things can mean for other areas of my life, like self-care and relationships at home, and how these other two areas may be lacking right now.

Maybe I'm not ready to start making the changes for better habits or whatever else, but I have always found awareness to be the first step.

I hope that by even taking the time to reflect on where my time is going, what I am actually "doing" with my life, and what I am not doing at the moment, I will be brought into a new direction of choosing my time more carefully, and shifting my priorities.

Making sure your time is going to the right places takes self sacrifice.

If you want schoolwork to be a greater priority, it may mean giving up that one Netflix episode you've been dying to watch. If getting to the gym is one, it may mean getting to bed earlier so you'll be well rested for when you wake up early the next morning.

But for me, at least, shifting your lifestyle to one where you are happy with where your time is going, happy with your priorities, makes all the difference.

So, I urge you, readers, to think about your time. Think about the language you've used in the past days, weeks, or months: what are you saying you "don't have time" for, and do you really not have time for it or is it just not a priority? Think about whether or not you want to make any of these things a priority in the future, or if you want to change the way you use your time. Maybe you'll find that you are using your time perfectly for you; that could be the case. But do the exercise anyway, it can't hurt to consider what you might want to add or subtract from your life.

Talk to you next time,


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