Grow up parent's yearn for the day that their child says either Mommy or Daddy first. I always wondered why a child first word sometimes is Momma, and not Daddy. The only conclusion I could come up with was that it's the bond that is formed while the child in the womb. Our mother gets to experience our first kick when we first move, and the bond is formed there. Growing up my mother raised me to be myself, instilled in me my moral, and also let me know I could be and do anything I put my mind to. My mother taught me how to love and showed me love, even when I didn't, and still to this day, don't deserve it. I can always call my mom and she will answer, no matter what time I call her.
I always hear the saying that a man always marries a woman who reminds him of his mother. We as men like one to devote oneself to cater to us like our mothers do. We want to feel the same love that our mother gives us, but instead coming from our spouse. Now there is nothing wrong with being a "Momma's Boy," because this will ensure that our spouse is well taken care of. This leads me to think about how our mothers carry themselves and gives a girl an outlook on how to carry herself. From how she dresses, wears her hair, and how to talks to others shapes a young woman's character on how to deal with things that they are faced with.
One thing I could say about my mother growing up is she never had a lot of people in her home nor did she allow my sister and me to have people in her house while she wasn't home. One day I asked her why she never let certain people come around while she was there and wasn't there.
She replied, "I have to keep my home safe, not only for me, but my children first. I never wanted y'all to grow up thinking it was OK to have a revolving door."
Later on in life I understood that she was leading by example by showing me that you have to be careful of who you let in your space and not to allow your house to be known as "who is that now" manor. The most important thing she cultivated in me was treat others how you want to be treated. She always communicated to me never to walk around thinking I'm better than anyone because, by the grace of God, it could be me. Always think of how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. So whoever I marry has a lot to live up to because she is a phenomenal woman.
Love you, Mom.