To My Male Coworkers With Aggressive Behavior, Every Woman Is Sick Of Your Ignorance

To My Male Coworkers With Aggressive Behavior, Every Woman Is Sick Of Your Ignorance

We earned our spots in the workplace just like you did, so if we could get some respect, it would be much appreciated.


On Monday morning when I went to work, I found out that one of my male coworkers had said in a random conversation, "I can control any woman if I put my hands around her throat." While this sentence might be out of context, it certainly wasn't appropriate to be said in the workplace. At least half of my coworkers are female. And unfortunately, this isn't an isolated incident.

Over the past three years that I've worked there, I've seen instances like this over and over again with almost no retribution. After this particular incident, he got away with a warning to not say anything like it again. This wasn't the first time that he had said (or done) something in line with the statement. And after seeing this cycle over and over again, I have to say I'm really sick of it.

I'm sick and tired of the aggressive and hostile behavior in the workplace.

Yes, several of you are probably about a foot taller than me and could easily toss me if you wanted. But frankly, just because I'm smaller and a female doesn't give you an excuse to make these remarks around me. I don't care what the context was.

The coworker that said this to me has a daughter. I can't remember how old she is, but I know she's younger than me, and I feel awful for her. She's going to have to live with the toxicity that her dad spits out about women, and eventually, that might even change her own perspective of herself into something negative.

The thing is, even if your negativity isn't directed at me, it also kind of is. When you say these things at the workplace that you and I both share, it makes me, not to mention every other female that works there, feel pretty offended and hurt.

Because why would you even say something like that? Why would there be a need for you to say something like that?

Yes, we get paid to be there, so please don't make the workplace uncomfortable for us. At the end of the day, all I'm trying to do is sell burgers to hungry customers, and that can already be stressful enough without worrying about potential violence in the workplace.

I'm not sure if you guys realize this, but we've already lost so many employees because of your behavior. I can think of at least three people who have left just to get away from the environment you create for us.

It's not healthy, it's not productive, and it honestly makes the workplace miserable for everyone there.

I don't think I'm asking for a lot. I just want you guys to reconsider your thought process and maybe realize that we're just as valuable of employees as you are.

We earned our spots in the workplace just like you did, so if we could get some respect, it would be much appreciated.

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I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.

Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.


Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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Having any goal, no matter how small or large, to act as a light at the end of the tunnel, will make the long, sometimes dim, journey completely worth it.


Once again, we approach that dreaded point of the semester, finals season. It's been a few days or weeks since the last midterm, the campus is starting to have a holiday vibe, but before we get too distracted filling up our Amazon carts, we, unfortunately, need to shift gears. Instead of making Christmas wish lists, we have to plan out what to study. Thanksgiving provided a short break before the grind, but now that it's over, all of the lists, assignments, projects, and essays seem to be piling up.

Without a doubt, I can say that this has been my hardest semester yet. My days have gone back to waking up at close to the same time as I would in high school and working late into the night. Multiple times, at least once a week, I've wondered, "Have I taken on too much?" The answer, "probably," but that still didn't stop me from trying to fit everything in. It definitely seemed overwhelming during the beginning of the semester as I tried to schedule classes like organic chemistry and physics, with extracurriculars, research, and a part-time job, while almost forgetting about giving myself some free time. Overwhelming would be an understatement.

Despite all of this and a lot of doubt that I'd wouldn't be possible to complete the semester completely burned out and exhausted, I went through with it for two reasons. The first being that I wanted to test my limits. I honestly wanted to see how much I could accomplish in this short amount of time, and if done well enough, it would be a personal feat. The second has to do with the mindset I've kept since high school and into college. I've always been very goal oriented, so most of what I've done and continue to do so in my educational career needs to answer this question, "How will this bring me closer to my ultimate goal of becoming a doctor?"

Having that question and goal in the back of my mind has kept me focused, for the most part. When the semester gets especially stressful, it's helpful to keep it as a reminder and a way to prevent myself from panicking. That's not to say it always works, but having any goal, no matter how small or large, to act as a light at the end of the tunnel, will make the long, sometimes dim, journey completely worth it.

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