Making It Actually Last

Making It Actually Last

Realizing our Resolution has nothing to do with January 1st but everything to do with our heart.


The only thing that is more sure and certain than a visit from Old Saint Nick on the 24th is the guaranteed creation of countless "New Year's" Resolutions only a week later. And while a majority of people jump on this "new beginning" bandwagon, very few actually follow-through.

But why?

Many, many writers and researchers have attempted to answer this question over the past couple of decades, with various and extensive conclusions. But, in my own experience, the answer is quite simple: You have to want it.

Want is a difficult word to describe. I want a million dollars. I want Alabama to win another National Championship next Monday.

I want this or I want that. So what do I (or anyone else who uses this word) mean when I say you have to want it.

Regarding my own personal resolution from last year (which was to lose some serious weight), I actually followed through. I lost upwards of 40 lbs and I was loving every minute of it. I'm actually doing the same thing this year, because I want to hit another weight goal of mine. But I cannot tell you how I did it.

Sure, I had a goal and I made short-term goals to achieve this larger one. I realized where I needed help and I made a plan and researched how to get help and change. I became disciplined and I struggled and powered through. I had achievements along the way that encouraged me, as well as a support group that was very kind all throughout this resolution.

So maybe that's how I achieved mine, but it doesn't define the difference this time around. Because we all know what to do. If you want to lose weight, then start. If you want to be more on time or be more honest or whatever, we know how to get there and what to do. But what you cannot teach and what you cannot learn is how to truly want something.

So maybe this helped you answer a question, or maybe you are thinking over why you even bothered to read this article. Either way, if you seriously and truly decide to want something, the rest will fall into place. But wanting something that badly can only be done by yourself. There's just no self-help book or app for that.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Ladies, You Don't Have To Dress Up For Class

Whoever says you do is just mad that they spent two hours getting ready for a 50 minute class.


I couldn't help but notice a stream of articles saying women HAVE to 'dress up' for class. I'm here to say you don't. Why should you have to dress up for class when your schedule is filled to the brim with papers and extracurriculars and five classes that you need to study for. It is incredibly easy to throw on leggings, a t-shirt, and sneakers.

Anyone who says that jeans are more comfortable than leggings are LYING to themselves. That also goes for heels vs. sneakers. If I'm going to be sitting in one spot for an extended period of time, I want to be comfortable. I don't want to be in jeans and necklaces and a gazillion annoying bracelets when I could be in shorts and a t-shirt.

Some girls really like dressing up for class, and that is great for them. But it's not great when women start hating on other women for looking comfortable in class. Give it up Becky, you're just mad that I spent 20 minutes getting ready and you spent 120. Chad from theta beta zeta phi is probably taking notes from the slides, not on which girls are dressing up.

Some people will say that dressing up for class prepares you for the 'real world.' This is the real world. College is the real world. I'll look nice for my future job when I get to my future job. Wearing t-shirts and leggings a couple days a week while I'm in college has ZERO effect on my future job. Listening in class does. And guess what, I can't listen if I'm tired because I spent 4 1/2 hours getting ready!!! (Maybe that's a bit of an exaggeration, but come on people.)

I'll wear what I want to wear. You can wear whatever you want to wear. I'll compliment your shirt, you'll compliment my sneakers, and we will both continue on happily doing our own thing.

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