I Am A Busy Girl Learning That I Need To Start Making Myself A Priority

I Am A Busy Girl Learning That I Need To Start Making Myself A Priority

You have to be strong enough to fight your own battles before you can try to save the world.


You could be thinking, since when is it so bad to be selfless compared to selfish?

It isn't. And I've always chosen to live my life that way.

The raw, disgusting truth is living a selfless life is not as admirable as you'd think. Recently, I have had multiple people in my life point out to me my lack of ability to say "no" to people. I am constantly willing to change my schedule, drive the extra thirty miles and be as accommodating as I possibly can to help others. I'd come to work on my day offs to help my manager or ditch my lunch break to meet with someone to help them out. It came naturally to me to think with the mindset of how can I help someone's day be easier, but I forgot to think about myself.

There's a lovely saying that goes, "The only person you can rely on is yourself" but I'm starting to learn the truth of it after all.

I don't think it's as dark of a reality as we proceed it to be, either. It's actually saying, at the end of the day, you're all you got. You can give your heart to strangers and sell your soul to save another, but that doesn't mean people will do the same for you.

I have always been afraid of disappointing people so I give them everything I have. I am not afraid to pull my weight and more in a group or relational setting in order to keep the peace. It was a reward for people to acknowledge that, but a pat on the back wasn't going to cut it anymore. I wasn't happy with who I was while I was trying to make everyone else happy. And there was something very wrong in that, but I chose to ignore it.

But people don't always think the same way you do, it's the beauty of humanity. We meet people who challenge us, shape us and change us. These people can also destroy us as fast as they built us up, and are you happy with who you are when you're standing alone? Are you happy with the things you've done or given up when there is nobody else there anymore?

This is a tough lesson to learn if you've lived a life like mine.

A life where you thought you were doing nothing but good, but the way you treated yourself was bad.

While I will never give up my ways and suddenly change how my brain is wired, but I am more self-aware of who I need to be as a person before I can continue to give myself to others. I will never truly be the person can think of themselves before considering other people involved, but self-awareness of my own mental and physical health is an important factor.

You can't love others until you love yourself.

You also can't help others until you help yourself. Because if you can't fight your own battles, how are you supposed to save the world?

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Minimalism Addresses Our Culture Of Consumption

Decluttering your life and consuming less allows you to live in the moment.


Most of us, at some point in our lives, have become trapped by our culture of consumption. It's a disgusting display of wealth and social status that social divides us. This social divide does a great job at inhibiting our potential at building objective, meaningful relationships. Material possessions become our identity and we begin to lose a true sense of who we really are. It's entirely possible for us to exist as content, beautiful human beings without participating in the culture of consumption we have been duped into believing in.

The problem with our culture of consumption is that it has become a key aspect of every activity. We give too much value to "things," focusing less on their contribution to our overall wellbeing, passions, or happiness. We may experience temporary contentment or pleasure, but it seldom lasts forever. Minimalism eliminates the "things" from our routine, allowing us to find contentment from the simple things in life.

Minimalism is not an expensive hobby one takes up on the quest for self-discovering and happiness. There is this huge misconception that being a minimalist requires a fat wallet and that your life is now restricted by rules and limitations. This simply is not true. This misconception comes from the elitist culture which has emerged through social media outlets. This distorted perception has blurred the individualistic nature of minimalism. A lifestyle often associated as a fad is actually a lifestyle that de-clutters your physical and mental state.

Minimalists are people who…

  • Make intentional decisions; that add value to their lives.
  • Focus on personal growth and the quality of their relationships.
  • Live in the moment.
  • Discover personal potential by eliminating obstacles standing in our way.
  • Consume less and intentionally.
  • Gift experiences rather than material possessions.

There isn't anything necessarily wrong with owning material possessions. If you find importance in an object that genuinely makes you happy then, great! Minimalism doesn't have to look like white walls behind aesthetically placed black furniture. This concept focuses on the internal value system we all forget we control. Start small; declutter your thoughts. We easily get stuck in our routines that we forget to look slow down and just breathe. Living in the moment is by far the most valuable aspect of minimalism because it allows us to feel and experience every minute of our existence.

If you're someone who enjoys nature, there's more value to be found in the adventures we seek out and create than those created for us. Discover birds you've never seen before, wander down trials in your neighborhood, or uncover beaches no one else knows about. You'll find more value in the creation of your own adventure because those experiences are completely your own.

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