How To Love Yourself

How To Love Yourself

When self confidence is at an all time low, it is important to show yourself respect and love.

As Justin Beiber once said, “Oh baby you should go and love yourself.”

I find that I am constantly comparing myself to others, even more so in the summertime. Maybe it’s the idea that everyone needs a “summer bod” or that everyone else gets a tan but I’m always the pale one. I try so hard not to, but it’s inevitable. Unfortunately, as much as I compare myself to others, I don’t always do anything to change my habits. So I’ve come up with ways that I have used to make my comparisons healthy.

It’s just as easy for me to look at someone and see something in them I wish I also had, as it is to look at someone and judge the way they look or act. I think that by judging people’s appearances is just as unhealthy as comparing yourself to someone. Whether you’re comparing yourself to celebrities or just people at the mall, there are many ways to make it a healthy habit. First, look for qualities in that person you wish to possess. Don’t always make the observations physical. Next, make sure you’re actually looking at real life photos. Photoshop is a wonderful but evil thing, and it is easy to convince yourself that that is what celebrities actually look like. Don’t be fooled and you’ll probably find that celebrities aren’t as thin or fresh-faced as you think.

Another tip for loving yourself is acceptance. Yes, this is cheesy and you probably knew this would be a part of the tips, but it is 100 percent true. Once you learn that your body has certain stretch marks or maybe your thighs are thicker than your friends’, you realize that everything is okay. Know your own body, your own personality and you will start to regain confidence.

Often when others begin comparing themselves, they get in a spiral of negativity and only see themselves of not good enough. Instead of thinking bad about yourself, begin to work on the things you want to change. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to improve your health or body. As long as everything is healthy and in moderation, it is encouraged to change your habits.

Do things that are beneficial for yourself, and actually do things you enjoy. Remind yourself that your own happiness should come before others. Don’t feel pressured to do things that others are doing if they aren’t what you want. Find a hobby or a job that is enjoyable and engaging. Then whenever you’re doing that activity or are at work, you will feel good about yourself. It’s like treating yourself without actually doing much.

Look in the mirror. Try to list five things you truly like about yourself. Don’t make them all physical, but it is okay if some of them are. Make lists about all the things that are going right for you, and you’ll notice that your inner thoughts will become more positive. Doing this weekly can really improve your self image.
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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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