Love Isn't Dead And Don't Become A Pessimist Because Someone Hurt You

Love Isn't Dead And Don't Become A Pessimist Because Someone Hurt You

Roses might be red but violets are definitely purple, not blue.

Jannessa Lai

Let it be known that I've been screwed over couple times. I've also been the person that screwed over people that once cared about me. Maybe we were acting selfishly, maybe we had a change of heart, maybe we were hiding hurt feelings until we couldn't anymore.

Regardless of the reason, I've never met someone who didn't have someone that popped into their mind when a conversation was brought up about heartbreak. Because unless you're a bright-eyed newborn, in one way or another, we've all been hurt before. Whether it be by our family, friends, or significant others, there's no way around it.

We were made to have feelings and although that means we are able to feel on top of the world one day, we are forced to feel when it all comes crashing down too.

But why is it that when a significant other breaks our heart, it's the end of the world? I get it, it's the end of a relationship, you have to completely change your routine, there might be an empty feeling in your life for awhile. Being stuck between wanting that type of love again but not wanting to feel that type of hurt again sucks. But my god, I hope I never become someone that closes off my heart completely. Although I've spent some time infatuated with the wrong people for me, I'm not willing to give up feeling that type of love again. I'm not saying to wait around for Prince Charming but in the meanwhile, spend some time loving the life you were given and if not, build a life worth loving.

Roses might be red but violets are definitely purple, not blue.

It seems nowadays being single is glorified. Rightfully so, being single definitely has its perks. But God forbid we love anyone besides ourselves. I spent a good amount of my life angry over situations that served no purpose being in my mind anymore while I was with another person and while I was single.

Don't let someone's mistake or even your own keep you from giving you the feeling that you're on top of the world. By no means do you have to be with someone to be happy but don't let hurt feelings of the past fester in your mind.

Don't kill love.

I'm not sure when it became a trend to hate love but it sounds pretty lame to me. I know feelings can be annoying when they aren't reciprocated and I understand why when I open my Twitter that I'm bombarded with overused heartbreak quotes on my timeline because I've definitely been there and done that. But don't forget how it felt when life was exactly how you thought you wanted it to be.

Don't become a pessimist because someone hurt you.

Maybe I'm a hopeless optimist and I choose to believe that no pain will ever compare to the feeling of being loved, whether it be by my family, friends, or a significant other. Maybe it's because I've been able to recover from heartbreaks that I never thought would be possible.

No matter what, we've only got one life. Test your limits. Don't spend your life sheltering yourself from the possibilities to become everything you didn't know you could be.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.

Founders Of Color Q&A: Yarlap's MaryEllen Reider On Destigmatizing Women's Health

The father-daughter duo co-founded the brand and has since generated a passionate, dedicated community of women.

MaryEllen Reider

I was lucky enough to meet MaryEllen Reider over a decade ago as a fellow freshman in college. Since then, I had the luxury of being able to witness her evolution from the faithful companion I went to my first job fair with to the woman who is now a pioneer in destigmatizing the portrayal of women's reproductive health.

Keep Reading... Show less

My favorite Editor was feeling under the weather yesterday. All I wanted was to make her a vegan iced matcha latte. With distance forbidding it, I instead decided to write up this quick, easy recipe. I made it to be vegan and organic for optimal health benefits.

Matcha green tea is made from grounded green tea leaf and it comes with the most antioxidant boost ever.

Keep Reading... Show less

This coffee brand is USDA organic. Newman's Own Keurig coffee flavors are all organic. They have French Roast, Decaf, and a Special Blend. I'm in a committed relationship with the French Roast flavor. The smell alone from dispensing 1 cup of coffee sets a whole cafe jazz vibe.

I'm already relaxed when I smell the coffee all ready for dressing. The way I make my coffee is simple and sweet, literally. I add a spoon of organic brown sugar and a splash of organic almond vanilla milk. This cup of coffee has changed my life forever. I have never been so productive in my life and I truly believe it's because the coffee is organic.

Keep Reading... Show less

These organic, cruelty-free skincare products are great for hot, sweaty summers. I use them every day, so you will find my honest opinion about them all. I highly recommend using organic products because they are least likely to be harmful to your body.

This may seem like an extra step when it comes to your beauty routine, but it's really easy. These 5 products could be the start of your next beauty venture.

Keep Reading... Show less

These 5 Black Handbag Designers Should Be On Every Accessory Lover's Radar

With the push to support more Black-owned businesses, we've put together a list of Black owned handbag designers.

Ever since the current upheaval of societal silence happening in the country caused by the #BlackLivesMatter movement, there has been a bigger push for people to support Black-owned businesses.

Granted, there are a lot fo Black-owned businesses to support, it just takes time to find them. With that being said, fashion is a sector, just like any sector really, in a culture that still has people of color calling out for more diversity.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

Feel A Lil' Better: Because Therapy Dogs Aren't Just Cute, They're Working

Your weekly wellness boost from Odyssey.

No matter how good (or bad) you'd describe your health, one thing is for sure: a little boost is ALWAYS a good idea. Whether that's reading a new, motivating book, or listening to a song that speaks to your soul, there are plenty of resources to help your health thrive on any given day.

There are many different ways people overcome obstacles in their lives. Thankfully, the stigma surrounding therapy is slowly (but surely) slipping away and we're opening up about our problems and needs. For some, a good workout is just as relaxing. Others are learning how meditation can be a helpful tool in their mental health journey.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments