Eventually, everyone moves out and on with their lives.

I Love My Hometown, But I Was Never Meant To Live Here

Well, never meant to stay here.


Don't get me wrong, I love Naperville as much as any teen (or soon-not-to-be) does. But here's the problem I have with it: it's constricting. Even as often as we joke about it, we all want out. Sooner or later you get tired of the "bubble" you live in. This town is great, don't get me wrong, but literally when you're anywhere in the "fighting for freedom" stage (wanting high school to be over) and or in college, you want to see the world and meet new people and get productive in their lives. Moving on and moving out.

There are times where it feels like if you're not in the right demographic; specifically age-wise, you don't fit in and there's not much for you to do. The age of later high school-early college is limited in any sense because you are legally an adult, but you don't have the responsibilities OF a real adult. You can't rent a car, you can't buy/drink alcohol, you can't do a lot of things. Eighteen: the age of legally being allowed to vote and join the military among a very short list of other options. You're considered an adult within society, but socially you're not and even beyond that you're still not an adult.

Although change is good sometimes, sometimes it's not. That's the way life goes. But when it comes to moving out of a town I've known my entire life, change is overdue. So naturally, when I originally moved off to college I was both relieved, scared and excited. Excited in the sense of moving onto new adventures. Nervous for what lied ahead of me. And relieved in the sense of getting out of the constricting town lines I knew and the same old views that grew old way too fast.

Like I've said, don't get me wrong, there's so much about Naperville. From the change that, despite the time it's taken to get used to, has grown on me and that sense of what a town truly is. Naperville, by far, isn't a small town (it has a population of about 150,000 people). But just being in the downtown makes you feel like you're in a town smaller than it is and where there's this atmosphere of a bubble; it's a town that's cut out from the rest of the world.

All in all, when you're stuck in a town you've known your whole life, it's good to get away and take the time to appreciate where you're from and what you've come from. Growing up in Naperville has given me a fantastic upbringing, but I'm glad to have moved on and out.

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I'm Not 'Spoiled,' I Just Won't Apologize For Having Great Parents

Having supportive parents is one of the best things that ever happened to me.


When I tell people that I am the baby of my family, there is always a follow-up question asking if I am spoiled. As I was a child, perhaps the situation was a little different because I did not receive material things but instead got my way or rarely was punished. I was most likely spoiled rotten in that sense, especially by my grandparents. Fast forward to the age of 19 and I can say that my parents give me everything that I need, not necessarily everything that I want.

But I still don't think I'm spoiled.

I might legally be an adult, but my parents still provide for me. I may live at school during the semester, but my parents don't charge me rent or utilities when I am at home. My mom still does my laundry. They pay my phone bill monthly. When my mom goes grocery shopping, she doesn't have me chip in to help. She will make sure the bathroom is stocked with tampons or shampoo so I don't have to worry about it. The both of them make sure I have the sufficient needs to not be hungry, cold, or without shelter.

They do all of these things because they want what is best for me.

While they pay my student loans, I give them money to cover it as well as a little extra each month for different expenses. If we go out to eat, I do offer to pay but often get shut down and end up leaving the tip instead. I help around the house and sometimes make trips to the store for food or cleaning supplies, not asking for money to be paid back.

I have a job that gives me decent hours, but my parents understand that money for a college kid is tough.

I pay for my own luxuries such as makeup, cute clothes, even to get my hair cut. Spoiled is typically defined as "damaged by having been given everything they want." Do I want another dog? Yes. Do I have one? No. Do I want a swimming pool in my backyard? Yes. Do I have one? Again, no. That is because both my mother and father still believe in working for what you want and even their daughter doesn't get a free pass unless it's her birthday or Christmas. Do I still have everything I could ever need? Yes.

My parents do the exact same thing for my brother and sister who are older than I am.

I know if I have a problem, whether it be financial or crucial, I can turn to them for help. A lot of people my age don't have parents like I do and I am extremely grateful for them and everything that they do. Thanks, Mom and Dad.

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If You Learn Anything From Toddlers, Let It Be These 10 Things

Ask permission later.


Toddlers are absolutely reckless but their chaos has taught me some valuable things. My family is big to say the least. I may be an only child but I'm surrounded by cousins I consider siblings and their kids have such a special place in my heart. Even before they could speak, they taught me some of the most valuable things. I guess it's true that actions speak louder than words.

1. Laughter is the purest form of happiness.

I don't know about you, but the toddlers in my life are full of laughter. Everything is funny to them, even their own laughter.

2. Live like nobody is watching.

If their favorite song comes out, they dance even if they are walking on the street. They live their lives and they dont care if people dance with them or critique their steps.

3. Sometimes, people need hugs

Toddlers are super adorable and when they run up to you simply to hug you and say your name, that feeling of stress seems to fade, even if its just for a split second

4. You are never too old to play with toys.

We grow up and suddenly forget about toys and playing around, but toys are meant for all ages

5. Tea parties are a must.

Tea parties are absolutely amazing. You get to dress up, paint your nails, and drink some delicious tea, what's not to love.

6. Overcome your fears.

Imagine being a new human in this world with either less or a little more than 1000 days on this planet and figuring things out.

7. A piece of chocolate is good for the soul.

No matter the hourI am not a huge sweets fan but you bet my ass that if a toddler hands me chocolate, I am taking it. Weirdly, they always sense when I need it most

8. Take a break.

Toddlers are super active and constantly moving around, but once they are worn out, they take a break and go to bed.

9. Love others.

Toddlers become pretty close to you if you let them and they are extremely loving

10. Ask permission later.

Toddlers do as they want and when they want. They would rather have a good time now and then get in trouble for having already experienced it

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