No matter where you are in the world, everywhere you go, there will be somebody who goes out of their way for about just anybody. It does not matter who the person might be are or how long they've known each other--if somebody is in need, they're right there. Everybody appreciates this person greatly and wouldn't know what to do without them at times that they've been in need and they're there for support immediately. But at times, being the backbone for everybody isn't healthy. It takes a toll on yourself and your happiness. It is easy to forget about yourself while trying to help others find their happiness.

It seems like just when you get comfortable, your phone begins to ring and its a close friend or family member. You stare at the phone for a few seconds and then feel like ignoring the phone call would seem like a crime. As soon as you pick up the phone, you hear that they need help somehow. Everybody is trying to fight their own battles, and it is sometimes almost impossible not to step in and try to fight their battle with them or even for them.

No matter if you just sat down at a coffee shop or you are reading your favorite book, everything stops and your attention is completely on them. While you are listening to them blabber on about relationship problems, issues with their boss, or even how long it took them to get to work, you are so focused on them that everything else begins to drown out. It doesn't matter if somebody else is calling in or if you're going to possibly be late to something, you now feel their emotions and feel the need to step in.

After stepping into the problem, your mind is racing with thoughts of what you could do. Do you get in your car and drive to see them and talk, do you drop your plans for the day, or do you suggest what they could do to help themselves? In the end, you care more about the issue than they do, and due to that, whoever it is lays it directly on you.

Overtime, it makes you crumble inside, and how could you possibly tell that to the people who need your help? They depend on you for help and you can't let them down. It is time to realize that you don't always have to try to load everybody's problems on your back so they don't have to deal with them on their own.

As hard as it may be, there will be a moment where your happiness is more important than anybody else's, and it is okay to seem selfish. When somebody is in need of your help, instead of letting their stress come onto you, talk to them and suggest things that they can do to guide them on solving the issue by themselves. Eventually, no matter the age, people need to learn lessons on their own without somebody taking the brunt of it for them.