Relationships can be very difficult from time to time. Sometimes, it is already complicated when you two are by each other; imagine how much more complicated when you are in a long- distance relationship. Most people shy away from the idea of having a long- distance relationship due to the fact that they can not see their significant other as often, that feeling of the person actually being in front of you, and when problems are more difficult to solve without talking in person. But to think about it, besides the fact that the person can not be there in person as often, a long- distance is no more different than a close- distance relationship. There are certain couples that can not fully communicate with each other when they are in a close- distance relationship.
It is not the distance that is causing the issues. It is you.
One of the biggest complications within a long- distance relationship is the communication. The fact that you are apart from the other person, you will have very different schedules that will conflict with each other. Sometimes they are able to call, but you can not. Sometimes you have time to watch a movie over FaceTime together, yet the person is busy with work. Over time, this could get frustrating, but if you two are able to set a time to talk things over and compromise with each other's schedules, along with effort, it could work out.
Not only does communication sucks, but you can not do all the cute couple things with the person you care and love. It can make you feel quite lonely sometimes, but this is the part where you too take some time of your day to do something that is somewhat of a routine for each other. For example, write good morning and good night posts to each other. Keep a shared diary online where you can record all of the memories you are making together or away from each other. When you both are free, spend some time watching a movie together, even if it is over FaceTime.
When problems arise, do not get mad or irritated right away. Take a deep breath, and talk things out civilly. After not seeing each other for a while, missing the person can get so intense that you begin to feel irritated towards the person, but in fact, you just really miss them. At these times, try to think of why you feel this way, and realize that you love the other person, and he or she is going through the same thing.
The best part about a long-distance relationship is the reunion. Almost everyone says they prefer independence within a relationship, well a long- distance relationship is just perfect for that independence (though that should be taken advantaged of responsibly). But once, you finally see him or her in person after weeks or months, the feeling is the best! You might get butterflies from the anxiety of needing to hug or kiss them just like when you first met. The time you spend together will be valued more because, somehow, a few days with them feel so much faster than a few days without them.
Long distance relationships are like every other relationships. They are all difficult and require effort to be put in. If you love someone, do not let long- distance ruin that beautiful treasure you share.
