Lonely College Freshmen, You’re Not Alone

Lonely College Freshmen, You’re Not Alone

We All Have Been There


Moving to the dorms at college was the very first time I had to actually move. Other than moving bedrooms within the same house I had lived in the very exact same double-wide trailer since the age of 2 or 3.

I grew up on the same farm my dad had. My classmates were the same ones from preschool (well 9 of the 12 of us). Even though I thought I had been through a lot of change in my life, I hadn't. I did not know how to handle it.

Not only was college my first move but it was the furthest away still in-state college that had my major, Animal Science, I could have chosen. 3 hours. 20 minutes. I moved 3 hours and 20 minutes from home.

What was I thinking? Most of my friends and anyone from my home town stay within the 2 to 2 ½ hour range but I thought I wanted to get out of that small town and never turn back. OH, but now how I would give anything to turn back.

The first 3-4 months I went to class and to my dorm. That's it. Well, I would occasionally stop in the student union for pizza or Subway but always took it to eat in my dorm. I was alone and even though wanted to be social I fell into a really dark place. I know now a lot of freshmen go through this but back then I felt weak and stupid.

And of course, because of being at training for the Missouri National Guard I started college in the spring semester. HOW AWKWARD. I not only was alone and weak but weird.

Even though I didn't know how to make friends at such a large place or what to do about the horrible thoughts I had, I was blessed. I made an amazing friend that had GEP with me as well as another class together. She pushed me to go out, get dinner, meet more friends and to me is the reason college has been such a great experience. This girl will always think I was the one who pushed her out of her shyness but she was my daylight and purpose for a long time.

To every freshman at every university. No matter when you start or where you go. Your college may be close to home or far away; you may know lots of people there or know no one; you could love your first semester or hate it, but no matter what I hope that you find a friend.

A single friend like my Megan. One that you can explore with, go to Walmart with, and reach out to when you need help physically, academically, emotionally, or mentally. You never know if that friend is the one sitting next to you, so talk to them! The only way to make a friend is to talk to them.

Don't be scared to talk to people because we all are going through this crazy, awkward transition to being an adult while balancing life, class, and everything else. Freshman year to whenever we finally graduate every person at college understands the struggles you are going through. We want to help. We want to be a friend.

And always remember that one friend may need you as much as you need them. It's natural: We need human connection. We need each other.

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5 Reasons Why Staying At College For The Summer Is The Ultimate Power Move

No school, no rules, summer vacation at the best place on Earth, also known as college.


As summer begins, it brings in the joy of no more school but for most what summer really brings is the sad realization that we have to leave our favorite place and go back to our boring home town with none of our new best friends. Although some have decided to stay at college for the summer and they will soon realize why this will be the best choice that they will be making all summer.


What's better than no school, warm weather, and most importantly no one to say, "Are you just going to sleep till 2:30 p.m. every day this summer?"

1. It's like the weekend, but every day

Do you know what weekends felt like during the school year when you didn't have anything to do? No? You never had any free weekends? Wow, I'm so sorry. Well, imagine a weekend that you didn't have to do anything. Now multiply that one weekend by seven and you get seven Saturday like days where you do not have a single care in the world.

3. No "Go cut the grass!"

For the sons, you know that annoying time every week when your dad is going to say, "Go cut the grass." There is nothing you can do to get out of it. Well, staying at school for the summer means no more nagging. You get to choose what you do now.

4. The bond of friendship

The friends you make when you stay at college for the summer are different than any other bond. Mostly because you all don't have a care in the world since it's summer in your favorite place. It's a right of passage to call someone your summer college best friends. These are best friends that words wouldn't do justice.

5. The townies

Everybody always wonders what happens to a college town when all the college kids go home. Well, the townies come back in full swing and take their town back. If you stay at your college, you get to experience what most can't even describe in words. To the one mid-40s guy trying to relive his glory days. To the old men hitting on the college girls at the local pub. To the weird towny creatures that make you shiver with fright as you drive past them. Have fun townies, you only have three months.

That dream of "I wish I could just stay here at college with all these people but have no responsibilities" is finally coming true.

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