Does one mistake result in you being a failure at life?

Do you hyper-focus on one situation or problem?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, chances are you are magnifying portions of your life -- Instead of looking at the big picture, you are often looking at the magnified piece of the mistakes you have made.

How do you fix this problem? How do you stop yourself from doing something that seems to just be in your nature?

You have to slow down. You have to be mindful of what and when you magnify. You have to listen to your self-talk and filter it.

Situation: A friend doesn’t text back after you send a message that was important to you.

Response (Magnified): They have given up on me and don’t want to talk to me anymore. I should just leave them alone, it’s obvious that they don’t want to be my friend anymore.

Stop.

You are magnifying.

I’m sure you don’t always have the time to get back to someone right away, why do you always expect others to be able to have the answers right away? And why does an unanswered text message have to end a friendship?

The answer is, it doesn’t.

The magnification of the worldly things leads to a life of disappointment and dissatisfaction.

But how do you change this negative force of magnification in a fast-paced, dog eat dog world—where you are constantly pressured to be what society tells you is the best form of yourself. Forcing you to try to fit a mold that isn’t made for you.

Maybe you weren’t made to excel in certain areas and that should be ok.

But.

To the magnifiers in all the places they fail, society is pointing their finger saying: “

Imperfections that leave a lasting mark saying “you don’t have what it takes.”

That’s where you take the wrong turn down the wide path.

Does your success really depend upon the little areas where you don’t measure up?

Does your satisfaction really lie in your appearance, qualifications, money, and assets?

It shouldn’t.

That’s what is scary about the times we are in right now.

In America, a value has been put on making things faster, cheaper and better than the next guy. Causing society to fall into a trap that everything should be this way.

In some ways, you see your life the same way. The faster you graduate college, get married, and start a life equals your success as a member of society. The cheaper you live, the less debt you will be tied to. The better you fit the societal mold, the better off you will be.

I’m sorry but this isn’t OK with me. I don’t agree to bow down to a life of dissatisfaction, and you don’t have to either.