Living The College Life Doesn't Mean You Can Judge Those Who Chose Something Different

Living The College Life Doesn't Mean You Can Judge Those Who Chose Something Different

Life is full of choices and we can only judge our own.

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Picture this: you just got home from your summer internship and as you're sitting on the couch catching up on all of your social media for the day, you see that another girl you went to high school with is pregnant with her second kid! You may have only tangentially known this girl, but you immediately screenshot the post and send it to your group chat of your friends from home.

The conversation probably looks something like this:

You: (insert girl's name here) is pregnant!! Again!

Friend A: Whatt?!? Dude. I didn't even know she had a kid before.

Friend B: I just saw this too! Crazy!! I can barely keep my cactus alive, so kids definitely won't be on my radar anytime soon.

Friend A: Relatable. I honestly can't imagine.

Sound familiar?

So many of us do this, and even if not with malicious intent, we often don't realize that what may come as shocking or irresponsible in our eyes may be a perfectly normal and responsible life choice for someone else. Most of us are in college and are surrounded by, you guessed it — people that are also in college. This may be the path that the majority of us are on, but it is not the path that everyone takes, and we should be able to respect that.

Just because you are working towards becoming an engineer, doctor or lawyer doesn't mean that you are better than the person who chose to enter the workforce after high school or the person who chose to start a family early.

If you think about all the different choices and circumstances that landed you where you are today, you'll begin to realize how many different paths you could've taken. Hopefully you can look back and be happy with the path you chose, but more importantly, you should be able to notice that the choices you made to get there may not have been the choices that would have been best for a different person in different circumstances.

So, is it okay to send that screenshot to your friends back home? Sure! It's always fun to keep track of what people from your high school are up to and to reminisce with your old friends. We just need to be careful not to judge those who are on different paths, no matter how much they differ from our own.

Life is full of choices, and, at the end of the day, the only choices we can judge are our own. You often don't know the entire story when it's someone you know, much less when it's just some girl you went to high school with.

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To All Incoming Freshmen, When You Get To College, Please Don't Be THAT Freshman

I am pretty sure we all know who I'm talking about.

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As we are all counting down the days to return to campus, students are looking forward to meeting new people and reuniting with old friends. And then, there is the freshman.

We have all been there. The eagerness and excitement have been slowly building up through months of summer vacation, all waiting for this moment. I understand the anxiousness, enthusiasm, and insecurities. The opportunity to meet new people and explore a new area is very intriguing. But let's be real, you are here to make memories and get an education. So here are a few pieces of advice from a former college freshman.

1. Don't be that freshman who follows their significant other to college

This is the boy or girl who simply can not think for themselves. The 17-year-old puts their own personal goals and interests aside to sacrifice for a six-month high school relationship. This will more than likely end at an end of semester transfer after the relationship has been tested for a month or two in college life. So if you want to really enjoy your freshman year, make your own decisions and do what is best for you.

2. Don't be that freshman who lets their parents pick their major

"You are not going to school just to waste my money."

This is a statement you might have heard from your parents. As true as it might seem, this is definitely not a good way to start your college years. If you are not majoring in something you can see yourself doing, you are wasting your time. You can major in biology, go to medical school, and make the best grades. But if deep down you don't want to be a doctor, you will NOT end up being a good doctor. When it comes to picking your major, you really have to follow your heart.

3. Don't be that freshman who gets overwhelmed with the first taste of freedom

Yes. It is all very exciting. You don't have a curfew, you don't have rules, you don't have anyone constantly nagging you, but let's not get carried away. Don't be the freshman who gets a tattoo on the first night of living on your own. Don't be the freshman who tries to drink every liquor behind the bar. Don't be the freshman who gets caught up being someone that they aren't. My best advice would be to take things slow.

4. Don't be that freshman who starts school isolated in a relationship

I'm not telling you not to date anyone during your freshman year. I am saying to not cut yourself off from the rest of the world while you date someone. Your first year on campus is such an amazing opportunity to meet people, but people are constantly eager to start dating someone and then only spend time with that person.

Be the freshman who can manage time between friends and relationships.

5. Don't be that freshman who can't handle things on their own

It is your first year on your own. Yes, you still need help from your parents. But at this point, they should not be ordering your textbooks or buying your parking pass. If you need something for a club or for class, YOU should handle it. If you're having roommate problems, YOU should handle it, not your parents. This is the real world and college is a great time for you to start building up to be the person you want to be in the future, but you can't successfully do that if your parents still deal with every minor inconvenience for you.

6. Don't be that freshman who only talks to their high school friends

I know your high school was probably amazing, and you probably had the coolest people go there. However, I believe that college is a great time to be on your own and experience new things. Meeting new people and going to new places will allow you to grow into a more mature person. There is a way to balance meeting new friends and maintaining friendships with childhood friends, and I am sure you will find that balance.

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To The Furry Friends That Helped Me Cope, You'll Always Have A Special Place In My Heart

Where would we be without our precious fur babies?

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A big thank you goes to my two loves, Booboo and Peppa. Booboo is an adorable Chihuahua that acts nothing like one and Peppa is my beautiful white lemon drop Beagle pup. During my Sophomore year of high school, I was going through a really tough time with trying to cope with anxiety plus the intense curriculum that year entailed. There were many nights I sat in bed bawling, feeling stupid because I could not for the life of me understand chemistry. Booboo would always come and sit in my lap, and just look at me wagging his tail before he would try to cuddle me as best he could. He has licked away many tears, as has Peppa.

My family got Booboo in August of my senior year of high school. My mom rescued him from a patient's home who was about to take him to the pound. I was getting ready for summer band when my mom comes into my room holding Booboo. He had the sweetest face and gave lots of love right away. To this day, even though I have a pup of my own, I will still always consider him my baby. He helped me find myself and learn to love myself. He was there for all of my hard work and exhaustion in high school. When I go home to visit my parents, he knows it's my car and comes running to see me.

Peppa went through a tough break up with me and she sat there with a paw on me at all times, on standby to show me love. I was three hours away from home and three hours away from my best friend. It was from that moment on that I knew Peppa was always going to have a special place in my heart.

There are studies that prove that dogs help people with anxiety and depression cope, but I had the pleasure of experiencing it myself. So, here's a thank you to the furry friends who impacted my life for the better and always love me. Some days I don't love myself but when Peppa wakes me up with cuddles, I fall in love every time. When I come home each day, Peppa barks repeatedly and jumps on me because she's so excited that I'm home and its one of the best feelings in the world. And sometimes I can feel a panic attack coming on and I show many different signs, or usually none at all, but my girl can always sense them and she comes and sits up next to me or playfully bites my hand.

Without my pups, I wouldn't be who I am today. Heck, I might not even be here today. So hug your pup a little closer and show them extra love, for they love you more than probably anyone ever will.

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