6 Life Lessons I've Learned In My 20 Years

6 Life Lessons I've Learned In My 20 Years

Everything happens for a reason and people make mistakes. Cliche, yes, but also very true.

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The time has come when I am finally leaving my teenage years behind; I am able to look back on how many things I have done and experienced throughout my years thus far. Although many of these sayings are cliche and have been spoken a thousand times, they're something everyone needs to hear. I've gone through heartbreak, losses, and the whole nine yards. Through the good times and the bad, these are the life lessons that I've learned in my 20 years.

1. Everything Happens For A Reason

Although somethings are hard to overcome, one thing that I have always told myself is "everything happens for a reason". Cliche, yes, but it's true! Although we don't understand why some things have happened to us, it is important to keep faith and realize that it was meant to happen. I can't even explain to you the amount of times I've said "why me?" or "why would He let this happen to me?". And while one thing can seem as though it is the biggest thing in the world, try to put in in perspective—is this really going to affect you in a year from now? Just think about it...

2. This Too Shall Pass

Similar to "everything happens for a reason", whatever you are going through will come to an end. Even when you feel as though your situation is never ending, just remember that it will, it just takes time. Patience is everything and although there are people that wish to control everything in their lives (like me), some things we just cannot avoid. This too shall pass, have patience.

3. Your Mental Health Is More Important Than Your Grades

Every semester, I find myself struggling to have better grades and having higher goals. While these are all good things, it can be hard and stressful on not only your physical health, but your mental health as well. I have found myself having panic attacks when I feel as things just get too hard and I am stretching myself way too thin. What you need to realize is that nothing is more important than your well-being. In addition to that—YOU NEED SLEEP! Although some believe that they are invincible, every one needs sleep and that time to relax and step away.

4. People Make Mistakes

We have all had those people that we have sworn off and never talked to again. While everyone has a different reason for certain situations, realize that everyone makes mistakes. This doesn't mean that you have to forgive this person or accept what they did, but it does mean that you have to realize that the only way people learn is from their mistakes. Some have done worse than others, and I understand that. But just remember that no one is perfect, and we are all bound to make mistakes at some point in our lives.

5. Learn The Balance Between Saying "Yes" And "No"

Stretching yourself out way too thin is something everyone can relate to. I've gone out when I had an exam the next day, when I shouldn't have, and I've stayed in when I had nothing better to do than watch Netflix. While there are people that struggle to say "no", it is very important to say it every once in a while. Whether you want to believe it or not, some times you aren't capable to doing everything. And while there are 24 hours in a day, those days can sometimes feel as though they are traveling as quickly as light. Learn when to say "yes" and "no", trust me, its a great skill to have.

6. You Don't Owe Anyone An Explanation

While people reach far and wide for excuses, it is completely normal to not want to leave the house, or just want to have alone time. Others will try to pin it on themselves thinking that you do not want to hang out with them or "don't like them", but it's not about them! Sometimes you want to do certain things and you don't owe anyone an explanation because it's your life! While they can get upset at you, are they really who you want in your life if you feel as though you need to lie to them just so they don't get mad at you, or will think different of you? It's your life, live it as you please.

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When You Make A Girl An Aunt, You Change Her World In All The Best Ways

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest girl in the world.

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My brother and his wife recently blessed our family with the sweetest bundle of joy on planet earth. OK, I may be a little bias but I believe it to be completely true. I have never been baby crazy, but this sweet-cheeked angel is the only exception. I am at an age where I do not want children yet, but being able to love on my nephew like he is my own is so satisfying.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a very protective person.

From making sure the car seat is strapped in properly before every trip, to watching baby boy breathe while he sleeps, you'll never meet someone, besides mommy and daddy of course, who is more concerned with the safety of that little person than me.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her a miniature best friend.

There is something about an aunt that is so fun. An aunt is a person you go to when you think you're in trouble or when you want something mom and dad said you couldn't have. An aunt is someone who takes you to get ice cream and play in the park to cool down after having a temper tantrum. I can't wait to be the one he runs to.

When you make a girl an aunt, she gets to skip on the difficulty of disciplining.

Being an aunt means you get to be fun. Not to say I wouldn't correct my nephew if he were behaving poorly, but for the most part, I get to giggle and play and leave the hard stuff for my brother.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her the best listening ears.

As of right now I only listen to the sweet coos and hungry cries but I am fully prepared to listen to all the problems in his life in the future.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the best advice giver.

By the time my nephew needs advice, hopefully, I will have all of my life lessons perfected into relatable stories.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a number-one fan

Anything you do in life sweet boy, I will be cheering you on. I already know you are going to do great things.

When you make a girl an aunt, she learns what true love is.

The love I have for my nephew is so pure. Its the love that is just there. I don't have to choose to show love every day, I don't have to forgive, I don't have to worry if it is reciprocated, it is just there.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest person in the world.

I cannot wait to watch my precious nephew grow into the amazing person that I know he is going to be.

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The One Thing Everyone Should Do Before They Graduate

Why I wish everyone could have shared in my end of school adventure.

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The end of freshman year was filled with the abundant stress of final exams, teary-eyed goodbyes, and last looks at my dorm room on South Campus. The academic year was overwhelmingly busy, and I tried my best to soak in every single moment as a first-year college student. But as I'm sure many of you can understand, it's not always possible to make time for the adventures we so desperately desire. I found myself saying "I want to do that!" all year long, and here it was the last week of the year and my bucket list had barely been touched. All those Philadelphia excursions, dreamy coffee shop dates, and campus explorations that I looked forward to never ended up panning out…

… until last Thursday night.

With about half the freshman class moved out of South Campus, everything felt a little strange. There was barely a dinner rush at all in Donahue Dining Hall, and my room looked so empty it almost made me sad. Naturally, I called up a couple of friends. Within minutes, we met in the lounge, and we were off for our adventure.

Every single day on the way to labs in Mendel Hall, I walked past the beloved Falvey Fountain. It had become such a consistent part of my routine that walking past it felt like it was a necessary daily occurrence. But this time, we didn't walk past. In fact, we stopped dead in our tracks and admired its color changing beauty for a brief moment.

And then we dove in!

Yes, we jumped right into the fountain. First the daring adventurer of the group, then his sidekick, then the skeptic, and finally myself. This was definitely not allowed, but no one was around, and more importantly, no one cared. Being knee deep was freezing, but the adrenaline rush was too much to suppress. So we submerged further, dunking each other and splashing the icy water literally everywhere. My wet hair made way for the most epic hair flip of all time, and we all laughed joyously.

All the stress of looming final grades and the completion of projects, the bittersweet goodbyes to our newfound families, and the hassles of packing up for the year were washed away in that fountain, drowned in the euphoria of the moment. We were officially baptized in summer as it dubbed us the kings and queens of adventure.

Afterward, we wrung out our soaking clothes and snapped a quick pic of our drenched selves. Trying to escape the scene hastily, I dropped my bag of M&M;'s. They spilled everywhere, leaving streams of melty chocolate and food coloring running through the aftermath of our fountain dive. The scene looked like a bit of Willy Wonka's chocolate factory had exploded from the fountain and into the night.

I am far from kidding when I say that adventure is a must for everyone, at any stage of life. Whether it's fountain diving at Nova, or sky diving in New Mexico, something about us as human beings needs the unusual, exciting, and even hazardous experiences. This one was particularly cleansing and absolutely unforgettable.

So I implore you: go forth this summer and be adventurous! Explore hidden places, try new eats, shuffle a stranger's playlist, introduce yourself to someone on a whim, or just get in the car and drive with no destination in mind. This summer is for the bold; this summer's for you.

Happy adventuring!

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