Does 'Ashley Madison' Prove We Can't Commit To True Love

Does 'Ashley Madison' Prove We Can't Commit To True Love

“Life is short. Have an affair.” -- Excuse me?

“Life is short. Have an affair.” This is the classy slogan of Canadian-based online dating website Ashley Madison. Many people became aware of the Ashley Madison company because their database was hacked and a long list of names was released, exposing the affairs of celebrities and everyday people alike. But, did you know that Ashley Madison has over 40,090,000 anonymous members? This is a greater number than the population of Tokyo, Mumbai, New York City, and Paris – combined. It’s baffling that our society has turned the sanctity of marriage or a committed relationship into a loose label with constant urge for “more.” We expect perfection out of others, get bored easily, and crave instant gratification – thriving on selfish instincts. Where do we draw the line?

Dating has become such an open concept in our generation that it’s hard to tell when you even begin dating at all. “Talking,” texting, “things,” booty calls, and so many other newly popular relationship titles open up the door for cheating, hurt, and horrible expectations for yourself or others. Our society has completely dropped the tradition of first dates, first kisses, and commitment – making sites like Ashley Madison thrive and dragging moralities low.

I may be archaic, but I believe you have the choice to be with someone or not. If you choose to commit to being with someone, you actually commit. Love is not something that needs to be tampered with, as it is fragile. So why is it that, as a society, we crave sexual gratification from multiple sources after we commit? If you want to have many partners, don’t commit at all. We have all watched friends, family, and colleagues cry over the misconducts of cheating, yet there are still over 40 million members on Ashley Madison and affairs happening every minute.

Here’s what that says to me: “Real love doesn’t exist; it has a timeline. As soon as something goes wrong, it will fall apart.” Now, I know this is not true, but this is what is being taught to our generation. I’m in love, and my parents are in love, but we are being exposed to media telling us that you can have a little boo-thang on the side, and it’s not only normal, but encouraged.

How can we change this?

I don’t think we should judge those who have sexual social lives, but I also don’t think those people should be in a committed relationship until they are ready to accept the responsibilities. Relationships are no walk in the park, and jealousy is lighter fluid. We get jealous of our partner for fear they are cheating, because society says they are. Yes, life would be much easier if you focus on yourself and instant gratification forever, that way no one gets hurt, and you never are subjected to the affair-driven media, yet still are getting what you want.

But, love is a more beautiful thing – it is worth the work. There is a reason people have found their life partners since the beginning of time and love has been said to move mountains. We, as humans, long for companionship. Some people are not cut out for the work it takes to be in such a devoted relationship, but I believe it’s worth it. At the end of the day, we need to go back to the tradition of dating, kissing, holding hands, and putting work into building relationships when we are finally ready to be in one, not look for the next girl/boy to have on the side.

Ashley Madison may be a trend, but love has stood the test of time – cherish it. Life is short, so find love you want to truly commit to.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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In My Opinion, We Should Ban Political Parties, Even If It Is Temporarily

Political party allegiance is corrupting the minds of our Americans and the US political atmosphere.


Let me start this off by saying I am not super involved in politics, or super informed for that matter. But what I do see going on in our country today is a growing divide between Republicans and Democrats and people with allegiance to either of those parties. Our two-party system is hurting our nation and we need to fix it.

Even media companies associated with these parties (CNN with Democrats and Fox with Republicans) are contributing to this divide. These media companies and other news outlets have started twisting stories to promote their own agendas and goals rather than reporting honestly and without bias. And these unethical actions happen on both sides and the blame does not fall only with one.

A lot of people have stopped caring about the issues that trouble our nation and are more concerned with attacking people of other political parties instead of solving our problems. Democrats have lately taken up the task of slandering Trump and trying to expose his administration for criminal activities and Republicans have focused on slandering Alexandria-Ocasio Cortez. While there needs to be some activity between the parties, overall, political parties need to have the goal of solving problems and not attacking the other. This is distracting us from the hard-working politicians out there that are doing honest work and trying to help our nation.

And this is why I propose banning political parties for a short period of time. This is a radical proposal, but I believe if politicians are forced to identify as independent then Americans will focus more on the policies and platforms of these politicians and begin to make an informed vote rather than simply voting for a candidate because of their party allegiance. Voting will require actual research rather than looking at the political party above a candidate's name. There are some good voters out there that do their research regardless, but they are in a small minority.

I understand the importance of political parties in our nation, but I feel that getting rid of political parties for a bit will shift the focus away from political parties and more towards political issues. For example, if two main candidates are selected for an election, people will have to get informed on the specific views of each politician in order to properly vote. While this may deter many from voting, the voting population will be more focused and informed on the issues that plague our nation currently.

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