Change is inevitable, but nobody talks about the ugly side of it — how hard it actually is. We tend to fall into a routine, and we find comfort in our set schedules. But once that cycle is broken, what do we do?
Change can make us feel uneasy and confused. We lose our grasp of control on certain things — which is downright terrifying. But adapting to this change, whatever it is, is exactly what we need to do. Don't fight against the grain. Accept it.
Sometimes, events happen that don't always end in our favor. We get upset, and we want to fix it. We want to make it go back to normal. I am a firm believer in the saying "Everything happens for a reason." With that said, ask yourself, "Is this something that needs to go back to the way it was? Or is it time for a change?"
It might seem like everything was fine before. You were getting by. But could it be better?
In any situation in life, you have to put yourself first, looking out for your personal best interests. If you find yourself constantly doing the same thing with no results, it's time for a change. You personally have to break that habit and start fresh.
Accepting the "bad" situation is the first step. You don't like how things are, you aren't in control anymore and you know something has to be done about it. So, move on, focus on you, realize what needs to be achieved to make that change and do it. It's easier said than done though, as most things are.
Emotionally, it's a lot. Your heart wants to fix things, but your mind is telling you that you need to do something differently.
What many people tend to not realize is that change is good for you. With any kind of change, it's healthy for you as a person to adapt and go through it.
Think of it this way. You get out of an unhealthy relationship. Do you sit and wallow because you miss that person? Or, do you accept that it's over, pick yourself up and move on to bigger and better things? That's easy. You have to get over it.
Setbacks are temporary most of the time. The way that we choose to bounce back from them is what molds us as people.
If it wasn't for change, we would live in an endless repetition of life. What would we achieve? In order for you to be your very best self, you have to let change happen, even encourage it. You have to let yourself grow.
When you do this, you open yourself up so many possibilities that you never saw before, all because you were stuck living in the same day-to-day routine.
Although it's scary and uncomfortable and unfamiliar, don't fight the change. Conquer it. Do it for you.