I don't think there isn't anyone out there who doesn't have some type of baggage that comes along with who they are. There are those with something small like some types of addictions or people who come along with bigger bags. Many people live with different issues today such as a bad past, PTSD, personality disorder, issues with absences, depression, and anxiety disorders. These issues make the people who suffer them feel insignificant, like no one cares about them and no one will ever care about them. As someone who suffers some issues and have friends who suffer them as well I know these feelings all too well.
In my own experiences, I see how what has happened to different girls impact them in many different ways. From talking and being there for my friends I have learned a thing or two and have some words for young girls and women. I know there are many girls out there who have self doubts about themselves. I only hope these words can help any girls out there especially those who already have damage in them.
You are you and you are beautiful just the way you are. I will not tell you that you won't scare guys away because that is possible and that's only because they are too scared to realize that even though yes you want through a dark situation you are an amazing and great person. Any guy would be lucky to have or be with you. If you scare guys away who cares because then those guys aren't the right guys for you. They can't see the greatness or the beauty that you have within yourself. When the right guy comes along he will accept you and all of you for who you are no matter what. He won't be scared by what happened to you and in fact he will love how much you have overcome your demons and how much of a beautiful person it made you.
I gave a speech this year for my high school graduation. In it, I included how my past affected me and what I learned through many people throughout high school. Like I said in my speech I wouldn't go back in time and change my life because the good and the bad makes us who we are and the people we are today. Even though your past and maybe part of your present is messed up it makes you who you are today. You can be a great friend, mentor, sister, student, amazing instrumentalist, kind hearted, wise, down to earth person that any guy would be lucky to have. The right guy will see that in you and will not run away from you. Never be afraid of a guy running. Let them run away. Then you know they aren't the one for you and that the one is still coming for you. Know that you don't have to feel insecure about yourself all because of something that broke you. Those experiences just made you a greater person that will have a bright future.
