Well it’s about that time of year again. You are starting to see hearts and roses and posts about how ‘bae’ is so important to them. You see all this gushy and mushy affectionate posts all over social media. There are really only two types of people out there. Ones in relationships, and ones that aren’t. Being just twenty years old, I have never had a legit Valentine’s Day, and I’m pretty okay with that. I know that time will come someday. But for the meantime, this is my day to REALLY treat myself!

Buy your own flowers, treat yourself to some cute clothes, and of course buy lots and lots of chocolate (because chocolate will always be there for you). Call your parents, siblings, cousins and friends and tell them you love them. Go out to eat with the girls (or the boys), watch a chick flick, do things that make you enjoy yourself. Make this day all about self-love!

Don’t get down on yourself seeing all these happy couples. Yes, I get a little jealous and envious because I want something special like that. However, there is this golden rule that I live buy, before I even remotely think about being in a relationship, and that is: you need to love yourself, before you can love anyone else.

I’ve been through my fair share of relationships, and when you break up, you do feel a little down about yourself, and that you are going to be ‘forever alone’ and that ‘you aren’t good enough’, and everything else in the book. But those are the times to build yourself back up again! Plus being single is pretty awesome, you can do whatever you want, and not have to worry about what someone else has to say about it, or have any worries. That itself seems like a huge weight off of your shoulders.

Don’t worry, one day that person will come around. In the meantime, enjoy yourself, and remember that you have your whole life to be married, so enjoy the single life while you can, and totally own it.