A Letter to the Guy Who Thought He Could Play Me

A Letter to the Guy Who Thought He Could Play Me

Life is about choices sir and you chose the immature answer, both of us.

Every now and then a girl finds herself in a spot where she realizes that the guy she's talking to may be playing her. My moment of realization came when I overheard two girls talking about how the guy I had been talking to had a girlfriend back at school. After confronting him about it and him denying the validity of it, I decided to do some research and found that he did indeed have a girlfriend for at least part of the time we had been "committed to talking to only each other," so this open letter is not only for him but also for all the other guys who have played girls.

To the guy who thought he could play me,

I bet you thought I wouldn't find out about this, did you? I bet you thought that you could continue having your cake and eating it too. Except thats not the way the world works sir, and I'm sorry to be the one to tell you that. Life is about choices, where to live, what to have for dinner, and who you decide to get into a relationship with. And I understand your struggle, I truly do, because I too am also an indecisive person. I'm the last person to decide on something but unlike you, I eventually make a choice. You had two choices, A or B, and you chose answer C, both of us.

Except thats not exactly fair is it sir. That choice isn't fair to me, its certainly not fair to the other girl, and its also not fair to you. Its not fair to me because I deserve to be with someone who wants to be with me and only me. I deserve someone who wants to give me all of their attention, not just 50% of it. And most importantly I deserve someone who wouldn't blink an eye about cheating. Its also not fair to your girlfriend because this poor girl has no idea of the kind of person you truly are. She doesn't know the words you've told me or the pictures you've sent me. She doesn't know the kind of person you truly are. And lastly this isn't fair to you either sir. You deserve to have the maturity and respect it takes to make a commitment to one person. Because choosing to have both of us in your life is choosing to take the immature route of just not choosing at all.

And until you find that sense of respect and maturity I feel bad for the other girls you get involved with in your life. Because quite frankly, I'm done and over it. I'm moving on to someone who wants me, all of me.


The "other girl" who finally learned the truth

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To That One Friend Who Deserves The World

Since I can't give you the world, I hope giving you this article is enough.

My wonderful friend,

You deserve love.

You deserve to marry your best friend.

You deserve appreciation.

You deserve that no matter who comes in and out of your life, every selfless thing you do for someone is acknowledged.

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You deserve kindness.

You deserve to have the nicest people in the world surround you all of the time.

You deserve support.

You deserve to have someone there for you at the beginning of every good day and at the end of every bad one, to have someone who wants to fix all of your problems.

You deserve hope.

You deserve to always be optimistic.

You deserve laughter.

You deserve to never stop smiling and actually mean it every time you do.

You deserve forgiveness.

You deserve to be able to be given second chances because without a doubt you are worth it.

You deserve friendship.

You deserve to have a friend who can be just as good of a friend as you are.

You deserve honesty.

You deserve to always be told the truth.

You deserve motivation.

You deserve to never want to give up and always push yourself.

You deserve success.

You deserve to have everything you have worked so hard for.

You deserve faith.

You deserve to always know it will get better.

You deserve loyalty.

You deserve to have that one person who will never leave and always be there for you.

You deserve happiness.

You deserve to be genuinely content with your life.

You deserve the world.

If I could give it to you, I would.

Yes, life gets tough sometimes. The unthinkable happens and your world feels like it is crashing down but you can get past all of this.

Thank you for being so selfless. It amazes me how you do it sometimes, but thank you for always making everyone your main priority when they need you.

I know I may not say it enough, but truly thank you for all you do for me. I don’t always know how to show how much someone means to me, especially when it is someone as great as you because I don’t know what I did to deserve you, but thank you.

I love you.

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It's important to understand that even if you're meeting new people every day and exploring a new country every week and living out your dreams, there will still be days where you feel like you just want to go home to your group of friends and hangout at the local boba shops or sit with your family at home and just watch TV while fighting over the remote. While you're absorbing all these new and wonderful things around you while abroad, your body will yearn for something familiar, comfortable and secure. And that would be your life at home.

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This isn't to say that you should only stick to the familiar even in a new city. Explore as much as possible and be open to trying new things, but every once in a while, when those feelings of homesickness hit, don't feel bad about buying that boba or starting that 3-hour long video call. After all, you can't have the time of your life if you don't take care of your mental health in the process.

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